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Women, how often do men try to kiss you during or at the end of your first date?

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mesmerized Established Member

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Why do you feel that you can never see them again after you kissed them.

 

It's not related to the kiss. Let's say I meet a guy for the first time and decide for whatever reason he is not for me. I still stay on the date and am nice. At the end of the date he goes for a kiss and maybe I feel too awkward to reject him. I might kiss him but that doesn't change the fact that I don't want to see him again. I think first dates should be kept simple unless the chemistry is very high.

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I agree with you. I think that is a very good character trait you have to survive the date even though you don't feel the attraction. But I don't agree that you should feel obligated out of awkwardness to kiss him. That will only give him the wrong impression. I do agree first dates should be simple. But sometimes there is so much chemistry that even Mr. Wizard would be amazed.

 

That's why I try my hardest to give them strong signals that Im not interested in a kiss in a nice way. They often end up thinking I'm just too shy not that I'm not interested in them. Little do they know.:laugh:

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Men almost always go in for a kiss ASAP.

 

The ones who try on the first date don' t get a second date with me.

 

Experience has taught me they are the ones pushing for sex ASAP as well.

 

Not relationship material.

 

I kissed my girlfriend on the first date (we met online), which was six months ago. We're still going strong, and I'd like to put a ring on it.

 

There are no rules; there are even very few paths. Sometimes when a guy kisses on the first date, it's because he likes the girl. If you have a rule that says "If they try on the first date, they're out", you might be missing out on a guy who wants to date you.

 

And kiss you.

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I kissed my girlfriend on the first date (we met online), which was six months ago. We're still going strong, and I'd like to put a ring on it.

 

There are no rules; there are even very few paths. Sometimes when a guy kisses on the first date, it's because he likes the girl. If you have a rule that says "If they try on the first date, they're out", you might be missing out on a guy who wants to date you.

 

And kiss you.

 

Not likely.

 

Most women doing OLD would be wise to avoid men who try to get physical on the first date... if they are looking for a relationship.

 

Just from the woman's perspective.

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Men, how would you treat a woman you were not attracted to? You would avoid contact, right? With a woman you are attracted to, you need to escalate contact judging her reaction to each step. During the date, which ideally should involve doing something besides sitting down and eating, touch her arm to emphasize a point, "Wait, listen to what happened next!" Does she pull away or let you leave your hand on her arm? If you are at a museum, for example, you can walk slightly ahead then go back for her, grabbing her hand, "Come look at this one." Continue holding her hand a few seconds longer than necessary, then let go. If she grabs your arm or hand then or a few minutes later, you know there is mutual interest.

 

As for the final goodbye, carhill got it right. A hug of the type you wouldn't give your granny. Holding her for a while longer, talking softly, "You smell so nice/your hair is so soft, etc." Putting your cheek against hers, then pulling back a bit. If she tilts her head up for a kiss or pulls you closer, go for it.

 

It's all a dance, really.

 

I personally would be turned off if a man asked to kiss me. He should know because I've done the things mentioned above to show I would be receptive.

 

i'm a fan of this :love:

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I have never <EVER kissed a Woman first... but I never experienced a long time between dates to get kissed, like the 3 date tops, I get kissed..I LOVE IT, of course I have a great smile, clean-white teeth, and laugh a lot. I dont get the urge to ¨do¨ stuff just because is expected or is the "norm". Women are very driven if one also gives them signals...of course it helps if you are a good kisser... so for me I dont have in mind if I am going for it..it just happens.

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Not likely.

 

Most women doing OLD would be wise to avoid men who try to get physical on the first date... if they are looking for a relationship.

 

Just from the woman's perspective.

 

There's nothing wrong with the guy trying for it. If a guy likes a woman enough to pursue a relationship, he could care less if they did it on the first date or several dates.

 

If the dating is going well and the girl really likes the guy, I feel some women are put off/turned off if the guy doesn't attempt to get physical. Personally I just feel it's better for most guys to get physical off the bat.

 

As for the OP's question. I will go for it on the first date if I'm attracted to her. I think it's a good test. If a woman is receptive to me, then she has high interest level. If she is put off by it then she's probably not that into me and she likely won't accept a second date. The first date kiss/makeout has been a good indicator for the most part.

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There's nothing wrong with the guy trying for it. If a guy likes a woman enough to pursue a relationship, he could care less if they did it on the first date or several dates.

 

Sorry. I don't use my vagina and other body parts as a relationship roullette wheel. He can prove he wants a relationship with me first.

 

If he feels the need to try for it without getting to know me, all it shows is disrespect, IMHO. Seeing how most men would f*ck just about any decent looking thing that walks, it's not really a compliment... Women really need to wake up to that fact.

 

If the dating is going well and the girl really likes the guy, I feel some women are put off/turned off if the guy doesn't attempt to get physical. Personally I just feel it's better for most guys to get physical off the bat.

 

To each his/her own. To me, it comes across as crass and low-class. Lots of men have totally blown any interest I had in them by trying to push things.

 

As for the OP's question. I will go for it on the first date if I'm attracted to her. I think it's a good test. If a woman is receptive to me, then she has high interest level. If she is put off by it then she's probably not that into me and she likely won't accept a second date. The first date kiss/makeout has been a good indicator for the most part.

 

You sound like the typical 3rd date sex guy who wants women to feel pressure to put out or else.

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Almost always.

 

absolutely! first every date I go to, I bring a rose and that right away gives me points with the "aw, how romantic" also, I never sit across from her. never. always either next to her on a bench/sofa or 90º to her so I can flirt. I make her laugh, I lean in, I let her smell me, she touches my arm (and stares at my breasteses), I caress her back/neck or play with her hair. always buidling up sexual tension and making her laugh. by the end, I made her melt and she's waiting for it. never been shot down.

 

This is a very successful approach to getting a kiss. I know, if I have the right chemistry with someone, the only thing I want to do is to sit next to him and start in with the light physical contact. Touches on the arm, knee, shoulder......

 

But for me....it is very very rare that I feel comfortable/safe/secure enough for this to happen.

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As a guy, I usually kiss on the first date. I find that it speeds up the process of finding out if there is attraction. If you kiss someone and they're not into it, chances are they just aren't into you in general. I've found that if a girl isn't into me and I kiss her on the first date, she will text me within the next day telling me she isn't interested or whatever.

 

On the contrary, if you put off the kiss, you may end up wasting more time trying to court this girl only to ultimately get rejected.

 

Also, by going in for the kiss relatively soon you may just score points with the woman for your bravery. I've been told several times that my kiss was a nice surprise, and that guys usually ask to kiss beforehand which is cowardly and not romantic.

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I've only kissed on the first date once and it turned into a ONS. That was about 10 years ago. My current GF I kissed on the second date. There was chemistry. We're still together.

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