Swe3tAngel Posted August 19, 2012 Posted August 19, 2012 After almost 2 years of knowing my BEST FRIEND / PARTNER.. we are no longer speaking.. he is hurt and doesn't want to speak to me and wants me to stay away.. it's not because he doesn't care, or the typical thing guys do.. NO, its more like my fault.. i never understood him, i was kinda needy and clingy, and highly emotional and although i gave him everything, i failed to do the most important thing: connect with his heart.. i now realize he wanted to be heard, understood and for me to trust him.. i failed to do it without even realizing it. i was so caught up in my emotions, that i would fail to see his pain and his needs.. i gues until he cudnt take it anymore... now that ive realized my mistakes.. i met up with him (i thought it was very sweet that he agreed to meet me even after telling me he didnt want to see me) ... i met up with him .. ( hadnt seen him in like a month but did have crzy amount of contact from my part - wanting him back and etc ) .. anyway.. so i met up with him a few days ago and i showed him the real side of me and the confident and fun girl he used to know and that he was so close with.. and for the first time after such a long time, we actually had a conversation where we heard each other and i knew right then, that ive always had the power to make things better and he always fed off of my energy and i had the power to make things so much better and we'd prlly be in a committed relationship now instead of in this messed up situation.. i do want him back and i do believe that we are meant for each other and that we can finally have a normal healthy and awesome relationship and i want him to believe me, trust me, and open up to me and basically just give me a chance.. and i can say with confidence that i have changed and i have realized and i know what he needs and wants and i can and will give that to him because that's what i should have given to him all this time and that's also what ive realized about myself and just becoming a better and stronger person.. the question is.. what can i do to get him back faster... i want to say the right words, i want him to trust me again, and i just want him to like talking to me again.. and instead of avoiding me, actually enjoying to pick up the phone and call me.. and just get back on track and have fun and just share amazingness together.. help??
TaraMaiden Posted August 19, 2012 Posted August 19, 2012 "I know things have been really hard, and the main reason we broke up is because i wasn't the kind of GF you needed or wanted to be with. I realise my failings, truly, I do. You have no idea the hours I've spent examining my own actions, behaviour and relationship with you - and I can see I was found wanting. I was really unfair, unsupportive and self-centred. I see that now. I am willing to do whatever it takes, to prove to you that I can be the person for you to be with. I want to go to IC, and if you want, we can do joint counselling. Please find it in your heart to let me come back, and try again. I feel we could do this - and I am so sorry for all the hurt and anguish I caused you. if nothing else, please see this as an admission of where I went so desperately wrong - and a genuine attempt to put everything desperately right. " Try that.
Car10e Posted August 19, 2012 Posted August 19, 2012 Tell him how you feel, but don't rush him. If he needs time to think things over, you have to be patient.
Author Swe3tAngel Posted August 19, 2012 Author Posted August 19, 2012 "I know things have been really hard, and the main reason we broke up is because i wasn't the kind of GF you needed or wanted to be with. I realise my failings, truly, I do. You have no idea the hours I've spent examining my own actions, behaviour and relationship with you - and I can see I was found wanting. I was really unfair, unsupportive and self-centred. I see that now. I am willing to do whatever it takes, to prove to you that I can be the person for you to be with. I want to go to IC, and if you want, we can do joint counselling. Please find it in your heart to let me come back, and try again. I feel we could do this - and I am so sorry for all the hurt and anguish I caused you. if nothing else, please see this as an admission of where I went so desperately wrong - and a genuine attempt to put everything desperately right. " Try that. thank you.. those were some wise and touchy words.. I will try that..
Phanpooh Posted August 19, 2012 Posted August 19, 2012 Do sth special for him, which things mean u understand and gonna make him happy forever. Even small things could change a men heart. Passively, keep a good connection with him, help him feel his important place in ur heart and he deserve u, in past, now and later, long as forever. Dun write letter, let him know how much u care about him, and if u have a chance, make him work for that. That is men's logic, they believe in thier power on girls, and if they see own value, they trust it as much as they trust themself.
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