mortensorchid Posted August 19, 2012 Posted August 19, 2012 I was thinking about something today for no real reason, save for the fact that I was talking to a friend of mine who prides herself on promiscuity. How many would you consider to be "a lot" or "too many" partners? Whatever the relationship outcome or story may or may not have been? And it's not really a question for one gender in particular. But how many is too many?
mesmerized Posted August 19, 2012 Posted August 19, 2012 Depends on their age. 10 for a 16 year old is too many, for a 30 year old it's nothing. I think people get too caught up in numbers. It's actually something only teenagers and early twenties people seem to like to ask. 1
madjac74 Posted August 19, 2012 Posted August 19, 2012 It's obviously a question of preference. If you are worried about your own promiscuity then x = infinity - the one you woke up to last night, If you are worried about a potential partner's promiscuity then then X = 0 -1
espec10001 Posted August 19, 2012 Posted August 19, 2012 I know people are going to berate me for this, but I think the world would be a much better place if people waited until marriage, or at least learned from their past mistakes better. It's better for future generations that both the husband and wife have a strong bond that forms before sex takes place so that they can provide their children both a strong mother and father figure. 3
oracle Posted August 19, 2012 Posted August 19, 2012 People get so worked up about sex. Sex can be meaningful or meaningless.. Depends who its with and what emotions you attach to it at the time. There is no right or wrong.. its all subjective All i care about is that people are acting smart. 1) If you are very sexually active get FULL STI testing every 3 months.. Do everyone a bloody favor. 2) Use condoms!, there are enough people on this planet. 1
TaraMaiden Posted August 19, 2012 Posted August 19, 2012 "Past sexual partners" is far more of a hang-up for men towards their GF's than the other way round. (this board is testimony to that....) There is still enormous stigma against a woman having had 15 past partners, than there is against a man who's had 15 past partners. a guy has 'sown his wild oats' a gal is a tramp. Double-standards doesn't cover it. Maybe it's about 'putting something in', as opposed to 'taking something in'. The former can be withdrawn, the latter is somehow tainted....? I have no idea..... FWIW - me at 55 - 6 in total. Including present H. H - at 50 - over 100. Mostly ONS. I give a damn.... 2
phineas Posted August 19, 2012 Posted August 19, 2012 (edited) The only time I consider a woman a slut is when she's slept with everyone in our social circle. Except me. Otherwise who the hell cares how many people someone has slept with? Really, what's it matter? Edited August 19, 2012 by phineas 1
denise_xo Posted August 19, 2012 Posted August 19, 2012 I don't think in terms of numbers. I care about how a man reflects on his sex life and whether he takes care of his sexual health.
Pompom Posted August 19, 2012 Posted August 19, 2012 I don't believe numbers matter, it`s how you feel about them. I've had a lot of flings as I enjoy sex and encounters and the hunt, but only one of them touched my heart as well as my cervix. Although he was "number XXX", I felt like a virgin sitting on his bed, stiff, awkward and embarrassed because oh gee, that super-cute guy I've had eyes on, is currently crying on my shoulder and about to have sex with me and that was way more significant than "You want some, I want some, you have a car". So despite being number XXX, he's number 1. So no, numbers don't matter. It's a lot like penis size: attitude, attitude, attitude. If you feel like a "girl" and guys can still confuse you into stuttering when they approach you, who cares if you've had 3 or 300 before? 1
TaraMaiden Posted August 19, 2012 Posted August 19, 2012 ....who cares if you've had 3 or 300 before? They will. As my brother put it - "Every guy wants to sleep around and sow his wild oats, but he wants every girl to be a virgin. We can be such bas*tards sometimes."
TaraMaiden Posted August 19, 2012 Posted August 19, 2012 (edited) Yeah, that's on a 'need to know' basis, and from past and present experience, I've decided the man in my life does NOT need to know. That crap has come back to bite me in the ass more than once, when I've shared a little too much past information with a guy. Je repose ma valise. <I rest my case> Edited August 19, 2012 by a LoveShack.org Moderator Loveshack is an English language forum
Pompom Posted August 19, 2012 Posted August 19, 2012 It was a rhetorical question. I did not take hypocrites into consideration who would brag to their buddies about their 800 conquests and then whine that their easy lays had just as many easy lays each. I do realize hypocrites are walking amongst us and obviously I will not tell a guy how many I've had before him unless it's a fling and he gets off on such ideas.
Titanwolf Posted August 19, 2012 Posted August 19, 2012 "Every guy wants to sleep around and sow his wild oats No. Double digits is where I draw the line.
TaraMaiden Posted August 19, 2012 Posted August 19, 2012 I'm wondering - given that you are a virgin by choice, whether in fact, if I may say so, your opinion isn't a little.... odd? Isn't your GF also a virgin, by choice? I'm just curious as to the point behind your statement.....
Titanwolf Posted August 19, 2012 Posted August 19, 2012 I'm wondering - given that you are a virgin by choice, whether in fact, if I may say so, your opinion isn't a little.... odd? Isn't your GF also a virgin, by choice? I'm just curious as to the point behind your statement..... Perhaps my opinion is partial because of my perspective and I can understand why I would be perceived as the exception and not the rule. I'm not a fan of the "Every (insert gender here)" or "All (insert gender here)" comments, unless there's undeniable, non-anecdotal evidence to support those claims. she is a virgin by choice and holds the same opinion as me. We're not religious (though we do value spirituality) and we know what sex does to the body. We don't try and ignore it, we don't try and turn it into something meaningless. We share the notion that sex is a tool to bring two people together, in a manner in which you couldn't with another. I often compare sex to sellotape and I have no doubt you're intelligent enough to find the metaphor in that 1
Pompom Posted August 19, 2012 Posted August 19, 2012 I often compare sex to sellotape and I have no doubt you're intelligent enough to find the metaphor in that Once you stuck it on something once, you can't re-use it with the same quality?
Woggle Posted August 19, 2012 Posted August 19, 2012 I don't care about numbers as long as she doesn't have a history of cheating. 1
Pompom Posted August 19, 2012 Posted August 19, 2012 I don't care about numbers as long as she doesn't have a history of cheating. Well said. I could love a former player if I knew that as long as he's with me, I'm the only one. We cannot expect people to stay virgins just so they encounter us, which nobody can predict.
TaraMaiden Posted August 19, 2012 Posted August 19, 2012 Je repose ma valise. <I rest my case> it was a joke, William....! It's not even a proper translation, it's a play on words....! It was just humour!!
Titanwolf Posted August 19, 2012 Posted August 19, 2012 Once you stuck it on something once, you can't re-use it with the same quality? Yeah. The first is the strongest in my eyes, unless you've already resigned sex to being nothing more than a recreational activity with a multitude of people.
TaraMaiden Posted August 19, 2012 Posted August 19, 2012 ....I often compare sex to sellotape and I have no doubt you're intelligent enough to find the metaphor in that Australians call sellotape 'durex' - which is a brand of condom in the UK.... 1
Titanwolf Posted August 19, 2012 Posted August 19, 2012 Australians call sellotape 'durex' - which is a brand of condom in the UK.... I had to laugh
TaraMaiden Posted August 19, 2012 Posted August 19, 2012 Not as much as Englishmen do in Australia.... the pattern in this thread seems to be the usual.... women really don't seem to care too much about previous body counts. men seem to think it's more of an issue....STD's, 'purity', that kind of thing....
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