davisc123 Posted August 18, 2012 Posted August 18, 2012 Correct me if I'm wrong. But in the beginning of a relationship (been about 5 months), isn't there supposed to be a honeymoon period where you can't get enough of each other? You tell each other how amazing you are all of the time? You irritate everybody around you by posting missing and spending almost all of your free time together? That's been my experience in the past. But this girl is frustratingly different, and I'm beginning to wonder if she is genuinely interested in being with me. I really like her. I would love to get close to her and tell her how I feel but she has made it difficult, and as such I've had to play it cool and allow her to dictate the pace. We get on really well, and at times have been pretty close emotionally. I feel like we're getting somehwere then she puts up an invisible barrier and I subtly take the hint and put on the brakes. Physically, things have been moving VERY slowly. Either a) she isn't very attracted to me b) she is embarrased about her own looks c) she is just genuinely taking things slowly Personally I think it's either a) or b). These things should progress naturally but she is definitely holding back to the extent that it's making me feel awkward. I don't want to force the issue, I really respect her and want her to be comfortable. But it would be nice to know where I stand. Communication has been quite weird at times. She hasn't at any stage complimented me or told me how much she likes me. I have on occasion told her how gorgeous she looks (sincerely) etc, and have tentatively revealed some of my feelings, but have really had to reel it in because I feel it will scare her away. But she has introduced me to her family and friends, invited me on vacation and has recognised the fact we are an item. But she isn't going out of her way to spend a lot of time with me. I don't like being smothered and have a healthy social life, but it's a bit too much in the other direction. So basically, I am playing this constant face saving, cooler than the Fonz game when really I am quite insecure about the whole thing. Any ideas folks? I know I'm waffling, and apologise.
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