GLDheart Posted August 18, 2012 Posted August 18, 2012 I miss my daughter. I'm here at a party for my brother and soon to be sister in law. There are kids here and my sister in law and sister are both expecting. I'm looking forward to having two new nephews added to my family... But it's all depressing. My daughter is three and would be running around playing. Instead she's I don't know where with I don't know who.... I hate my cheating ex for destroying my family. It seems like such a short time ago that I was a happy young dad, "man of the household", so to speak... It's moments like this that I would have been so proud of my little family. Now even surrounded by people, I feel lonely. I feel a loss that is real. I don't know how to get over this. I want the impossible. I want this to be a bad dream that goes away. I just want my little girl here.
The Tallest One Posted August 19, 2012 Posted August 19, 2012 GLDheart, I feel your pain! I am having a difficult weekend and this afternoon I ran into my ex wife and our two boys at the grocery store! I breaks my heart that I'm there shopping for myself and won't be going home with my kids! I looked at my ex and wondered if she is any happier since leaving me? I don't miss her anymore but I miss being a part of a family! I also know how it feels to be surrounded by people and still feel so alone!
Furious Posted August 20, 2012 Posted August 20, 2012 I miss my daughter. I'm here at a party for my brother and soon to be sister in law. There are kids here and my sister in law and sister are both expecting. I'm looking forward to having two new nephews added to my family... But it's all depressing. My daughter is three and would be running around playing. Instead she's I don't know where with I don't know who.... I hate my cheating ex for destroying my family. It seems like such a short time ago that I was a happy young dad, "man of the household", so to speak... It's moments like this that I would have been so proud of my little family. Now even surrounded by people, I feel lonely. I feel a loss that is real. I don't know how to get over this. I want the impossible. I want this to be a bad dream that goes away. I just want my little girl here. GLDheart Reading your post breaks my heart. How is it possible you don't know where your daughter is? Has your ex taken off, and are the authorities looking for your daughter? My god...what you've been through.
Soxfaninfl Posted August 20, 2012 Posted August 20, 2012 I know what you both feel like. Family was and still is important to me. Most my friends are married, but I'm the divorced one now. I have my son every other week, and there are times when I don't have him and it sucks. I feel so alone when I see my friends and their family's together. It's easier when my son is with me, but it still sucks that my family is not together any more. My ex left me for a guy old enough to be her father (14 1/2 years older than her) my ex and I are 36 years old. I don't come from divorce as my parents are still together after 40 years of marriage, so divorce is a new experience for me.
Tallblueyed Posted August 20, 2012 Posted August 20, 2012 Hey guys. Too bad we weren't all in the same city - we could all get together and have the loneliness party in the world. I had a family company party on Saturday and was surrounded by so much joy and happiness. I don't have any (biological) children, but that actually may contribute to feeling even more lonely. Living with the consequences of someone else's bad decisions is purgatory. Hang in there GLDHeart, hopefully things will get better (for all of us).
Author GLDheart Posted August 21, 2012 Author Posted August 21, 2012 Thanks guys. Venting it here really helps. I had snuck off to be alone and I cried a bit as I typed the orginal post... then cleaned my face up like nothing had ever happened and re-mingled back into the party. I'm fighting for more visitation and will be back in court soon. Sometimes I feel like all I'm good for is a child support check in the eyes of the courts... I don't want to get jaded but gender bias is rough on us dads sometimes. Before all this, I understand that my ex must have been drifting away for a while. But, she hid it all so well. To me, it was like a light switch just flipped the day I caught her in (what I thought was just) an EA... I did find evidence of more and I'm sure it goes even further of course too. Now after exposing her, she's someone I don't even know anymore. She outright doesn't want me to see my daughter at all. I've just been so beaten up by this. Nocked down a peg, humbled, you name it. I used to walk this earth with the confidence of an Indestructable Rock sticking out of the ocean that nothing could disturb.... Now I feel like a piece of drift wood swirling around powerless in those currents lookng for a rock to cling onto.
Furious Posted August 21, 2012 Posted August 21, 2012 Thanks guys. Venting it here really helps. I had snuck off to be alone and I cried a bit as I typed the orginal post... then cleaned my face up like nothing had ever happened and re-mingled back into the party. I'm fighting for more visitation and will be back in court soon. Sometimes I feel like all I'm good for is a child support check in the eyes of the courts... I don't want to get jaded but gender bias is rough on us dads sometimes. Before all this, I understand that my ex must have been drifting away for a while. But, she hid it all so well. To me, it was like a light switch just flipped the day I caught her in (what I thought was just) an EA... I did find evidence of more and I'm sure it goes even further of course too. Now after exposing her, she's someone I don't even know anymore. She outright doesn't want me to see my daughter at all. I've just been so beaten up by this. Nocked down a peg, humbled, you name it. I used to walk this earth with the confidence of an Indestructable Rock sticking out of the ocean that nothing could disturb.... Now I feel like a piece of drift wood swirling around powerless in those currents lookng for a rock to cling onto. Keeping you from seeing your daughter is beyond cruel. And yes it's horribly unfair how dad's are treated by the court system. GLDheart, I just want say that from your posts, you are such a good man and that I admire your strength and honesty. Hang in there. ((((hugs)))))
paperboy48 Posted August 21, 2012 Posted August 21, 2012 Hang in there man! I am in the divorced situation as well...it's a lonely battle. I wish you a boatload of luck n getting additional visiting rights with your daughter. How could she take your daughter away legally? I mean seriously. Unless someone does something horrible these days, how is it possible for you to not see your daughter?
Soxfaninfl Posted August 21, 2012 Posted August 21, 2012 Thanks guys. Venting it here really helps. I had snuck off to be alone and I cried a bit as I typed the orginal post... then cleaned my face up like nothing had ever happened and re-mingled back into the party. I'm fighting for more visitation and will be back in court soon. Sometimes I feel like all I'm good for is a child support check in the eyes of the courts... I don't want to get jaded but gender bias is rough on us dads sometimes. Before all this, I understand that my ex must have been drifting away for a while. But, she hid it all so well. To me, it was like a light switch just flipped the day I caught her in (what I thought was just) an EA... I did find evidence of more and I'm sure it goes even further of course too. Now after exposing her, she's someone I don't even know anymore. She outright doesn't want me to see my daughter at all. I've just been so beaten up by this. Nocked down a peg, humbled, you name it. I used to walk this earth with the confidence of an Indestructable Rock sticking out of the ocean that nothing could disturb.... Now I feel like a piece of drift wood swirling around powerless in those currents lookng for a rock to cling onto. It's sad that there are so many men that don't want to be in their kids lives after a divorce, but what makes me sick are those women that try to screw men who want equal time and want to be involved in their children's lives. My ex tried to screw me, but I fought to get equal time and got it. Fight for equal time you deserve it. Your ex doesn't deserve more time than you. It should be equal.
Author GLDheart Posted August 21, 2012 Author Posted August 21, 2012 I do get to see my baby once a week... but it's a long wait in between. It's real hard on me when my ex pulls a no show. My only recourse is to make a motion for contempt and wait. I have already been advised that it will take many of these "events" to add up to any difference.
Soxfaninfl Posted August 21, 2012 Posted August 21, 2012 I have my son every other week, and you can too. Go to court and fight for equal time.
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