Bad break up; being ignored

[conn]

My girlfriend of nearly a month broke up with me Wednesday. I know that is not long, but I have known her for a while and I need her in my life. She said she is just really stressed and she wants to try again someday. I told her Thursday though that for a while, no forever, just a while, I was not going out of my way to talk to her. I told her it was not to be mean, but that I was hurting myself doing that. I am so messed up over this whole thing. I even talked to her best friend in hopes of trying to figure out what went wrong. Last night, I just said this is stupid, I can not just ignore her. I texted her 3 times last night and 4 times this morning, and I don't want to annoy her, but I know that is exactly what I am doing. I just hate that she is ignoring me! Esp. after we promised that no matter what we would not just ignore each other, that is why I decided the No Contact thing was just dumb for us. I sent her a long text telling her how I feel and got no response. After we broke up, we made out for 15 straight after, so I'm so confused. I don't want to smother her but I want her to talk to me, but at the same time I don't want to seem like a creepy pushy guy. We are both 16. My Mom told me to send flowers, but being 16 I feel like she is just gonna be like oh God, he won't leave me alone. I know what I did wrong, and I need to talk to her. I want to tell her that I want to start a totally new relationship, and that I want to redo all of our firsts. I want to redo our first date, first kiss, first every thing. The only different thing is I won't screw it up this time. I feel like what I did this time was smother her. I got mad when she wanted to hang out with me and her friends at the same time, and that was the final thing that did it. I want to tell her, you know, I'm sorry, I screwed up, I want to give you space, and I want to be with you, I want things to be like they were that first night on our date, all the time. I believe I can get her back if I tell her this. But idk, she won't text me back! I wrote this long heartfelt text saying everything I want her to know and she ignored it! Is it possible she is mad that I talked to her friend? I don't want to send flowers and her think that I'm a creep or embarrass her at work, you know, that's the last thing I want! I even texted her and was like ok, ignore me, but will you just let me know if I can call tonight? Yes or no. No response! :/ I feel like crap and it makes me mad to see her at school acting all happy and stuff. Is the flowers thing a bad idea, should I leave her alone? I just can't go without talking to her anymore. I have no appetite, I didn't study for any of my tests friday and failed them all, I've lost 8 pounds the past three days, and I randomly end up crying! I miss this girl! I only like a girl every one or two years, if that. So it sucks that I screwed it up. What do I do? Try to call, send flowers, what can I say to get her to talk to me? What do I put in the flowers? This sounds dumb, but we had this little joke going when we were dating were I would say, "Hey guess what...Kurt Cobain died!!!" I just say this because I'm a big Nirvana fan and it's just a silly little thing we did. If I send flowers I don't want to put something all mushy like "Oh, I miss you baby." I think just something silly would be good. And she doesn't not get off work till 9. Do I just send the flowers to work? I don't want to embarrass her, and I don't want to seem like a creepy stalker, is this weird for a 16 year old guy to do? Will she just think I'm a pu**y? Why is she mad? Is it because I said I couldn't talk to her? I told her that that was a dumb idea and that it was just my way of dealing with it at that time. How can I get her to talk to me? I think flowers will make me look desperate to be honest. I just need her to talk to me. Should I just say something silly? Idk. I've told her everything, I was like, I like having you in my life, whether it's as a BF or just a friend. If she didn't respond to that, then idk. Thanks!

Edited August 18, 2012 by conn

[MyHeartTakesOver]

The only thing you can do kid, is send a message saying;

 

"I love you and I'm here to talk when you're ready".

 

Leave it at that and try to wait it out until she gets in touch with you. I don't know if she will or not. Nobody does. If she doesn't then let her go. You'll find someone who wants to be with you.

[conn]

I sent her this message on facebook. Did I do well?:

 

ok, i know ive done something wrong stephanie, and i feel like ****, i am so sorry for what ever i did, i know that i probably confused you saying i didn't want to talk to you, but it was not to be mean, i just needed a little bit to accept things, and im ok with wat happened. i hate having you ignore me and not knowing wat ive done. please don't just ignore me like this ok, im sorry, i feel like an idiot, ur my best fricking friend in the world, and it sucks having you to talk to about things all the time, and then one day ur just not thr and i cant talk to you. we told each other that we would talk about things when something was wrong. i want us to do that, even as friends. plz dont ignore me anymore, i hate texting u ove rand over knowing that im annoying you, but i honestly am so sorry. yea, ik the last few days have been weird, but i dont want things to be like this. i screwed **** up, im sorry, but i really do need to talk to you. i want things to be right between us and i don't like the feeling that you may never talk to me again. ik im a totally ****ing screw up and im not trying to get you to feel bad for me, i just feel like such a loser, it scares me thinking that u hate me, im am so sorry for everything! i feel like an idiot, I need to talk to you, i need to have you in my life stephanie. i want to talk to you, i have some serious things to talk to you about, some things u need to know. some things i shouldve told you before. will you just respond to this or text me or something plz. i hate myself because ik everything that has happened is my fault!! im such an ass, idont know why i said things i said, but ive been trying to deal with this, and there really are some things i have to tell you. can you just let me know if i can call you tonight? there are things tht are harrd for me to talk to u about but u need to know ok..im ****ing sorry, i dont know wat to do, im sorry, plz just dont hate me...plz dont do tht

[Future7]

dude acting desperate now, best advice is to just chill for now and wait for a response. Focus on you for now.