Charlotted29 Posted August 18, 2012 Posted August 18, 2012 I was left heartbroken nearly 6 months ago..! I lost my job, my car and had to give up a holiday I had booked. Most of all I lost him, I felt like my entire world had crumbled. I went through a really bad nervous breakdown. I had known him for 7 years since we we dated for 2 years in our late teens,(now 26) and for the past 2 years our great friendship developed into more. He was like family to me, and I loved him with all my heart. We did most things together, and I was always invited over at Christmas with his family and other special ocassions. The thing was… even though we acted like a couple in every way, he never seemed to want to ‘commit’ or want to ‘officially’ be my boyfriend. Then out of the blue he started inviting another girl over (unknown to me) and told me I couldn’t stay over any more as ‘it didn’t feel right’. 3 months later I found out they were seeing each other, and then soon after they were an official couple. I was devestated… did he actually care about me at all? Was I just someone to have around while he found someone he truly loved? The fact is… it has been a while since it was official with them, and I haven’t seen him in 6 months. I still wake up with a heavy heart, and it is effecting my life in every way. My life is different now, it’s just me, and my new job! that’s it… i’m pining for my old way of life, suffering, all the while he has created a new life with her and has moved on. Any help is much appreciated as I wan’t nothing more then to find ‘me’ again, and just be happy in the life I have now.
stemac Posted August 18, 2012 Posted August 18, 2012 hello charlotte you lost alot and its going to take time 6 month is still early days, i think it is anyway when you really love someone i don't think you ever come to terms with it, they will always be a small part of you, you will find your self again that's for sure just like i will find myself again it just takes time if i could bottle time in a pill and give it to every hurting soul on this forum i would in a instant, a Broken heart needs Family,Friends,laughter,and understanding, if we all stick together we can bring everyone here through this Horrible time and help each other
Author Charlotted29 Posted August 18, 2012 Author Posted August 18, 2012 Thank you Stemac, it's good to know that you think 6 months isn't a long time to get over someone you truly loved. Everyday I'm quite down, I just hope it goes soon, it's hard as I miss him so much, but at the same time I know I shouldn't, as I need to move on. How long has it been since your BU? I am surrounding myself with friends and family as much a possible, but I think they are a little sick of hearing anything to do with him after 6 months. They don't seem to understand how down it is making me on a daily basis and how much i'm struggling. I can only keep going in the hope one day I will feel better.
stemac Posted August 18, 2012 Posted August 18, 2012 its on been about 7 days for me and i am not taking it so well i loved her very much.. eating my big problem ive lost a stone in weight that's 14lb,in 7 days what some people can do to you the ones we love not right is it! my family don't live near me so i don't really have anyone my friends have life of their own, so staying in thinking about it all the time not a good way of going about it... Bet my ex isn't sat there not eating and crying, that's why i say it's her lose not mine and she will know in time :-) charlott just take 1 day at a time 1 week 1 month... there's no rules in getting over it 6 month, 2 years, it doesn't matter take as long as you feel
Author Charlotted29 Posted August 19, 2012 Author Posted August 19, 2012 wow 7 days! That is still super early. It is totally normal to lose weight after a break up. I lost a stone in those initial weeks, but my appetite soon returned and it is almost back to normal now. I'm sorry that you don't have any family near by. I would advise to definitely take up some exercise (this helped me in the early stages) I went for walks on the beach or anywhere really with a coffee in hand. What about joining a gym? Great way to be around people and get those endorphins pumping. It sounds like you are actually doing well, and staying positive. I have every faith you will have a good recovery. I have always found break ups quite difficult, however this one especially so, as I built up so much of my life around him only to be rejected and replaced by someone else. However, need to keep positive like yourself and remember that this feeling won't last forever.
stemac Posted August 19, 2012 Posted August 19, 2012 yes i was thinking of joining the gym but i really dont have the energy at the moment, no not doing well really having a really bad day today i was great last night thinking everything going to be ok.. wake up this morning and that BIG black Cloud over me its had my in tears few times this Break up has knocked me for 6
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