willieg Posted August 18, 2012 Posted August 18, 2012 Me and I woman I have been dating recently went on vacation and everything was fine. Then one day we went on a boat tour. We stopped to snorkel and I led her by the hand a few times when we were snorkeling intially but then she stayed off by herself with the tour guide and some other people. The next stop was an island and we walked to a waterfall with everyone else on the tour. She was walking in front of me instead of with me which she never does. When we got to the waterfall she said she wanted to go in but I did not have to if I didnt want to - she normally always asks me what I want to do before we do anything. Then when leaving the waterfall she again was walking on the trail ahead of me. By this time I'm thinking to myself she is trying to act like she isn't with me or at least doens't want to be. I noticed some of the guys working on the tour boat were interacting with everyone and flirting a bit with the women. So then I look at her Facebook page and along with all the vacation photos there were a few of the crew doing a dance on the boat with the tourists and one photo of the guy that led us on the hike and snorkeling. One of her friends commented on the photo that the guy was good looking and then she went on and on saying how hot he was in a comment. So I guess thats why she was acting the way she did? It hurt my feelings to see this. If she is going to act like this on a vacation what chance is there to keep a day to day relationship if she is around good looking co-workers etc? Or am I just overreacting? Thanks!
AlexCross Posted August 18, 2012 Posted August 18, 2012 (edited) Me and I woman I have been dating recently went on vacation and everything was fine. Then one day we went on a boat tour. We stopped to snorkel and I led her by the hand a few times when we were snorkeling intially but then she stayed off by herself with the tour guide and some other people. The next stop was an island and we walked to a waterfall with everyone else on the tour. She was walking in front of me instead of with me which she never does. When we got to the waterfall she said she wanted to go in but I did not have to if I didnt want to - she normally always asks me what I want to do before we do anything. Then when leaving the waterfall she again was walking on the trail ahead of me. By this time I'm thinking to myself she is trying to act like she isn't with me or at least doens't want to be. I noticed some of the guys working on the tour boat were interacting with everyone and flirting a bit with the women. So then I look at her Facebook page and along with all the vacation photos there were a few of the crew doing a dance on the boat with the tourists and one photo of the guy that led us on the hike and snorkeling. One of her friends commented on the photo that the guy was good looking and then she went on and on saying how hot he was in a comment. So I guess thats why she was acting the way she did? It hurt my feelings to see this. If she is going to act like this on a vacation what chance is there to keep a day to day relationship if she is around good looking co-workers etc? Or am I just overreacting? Thanks! Watch the movie Forgetting Sarah Marshall Edited August 18, 2012 by AlexCross
BetrayedH Posted August 18, 2012 Posted August 18, 2012 This is a pretty big red flag in my book. You better move forward cautiously with her. Doesn't sound like she is mature enough for a committed relationship. I wouldn't confront her at all. That just makes you look insecure and that's unattractive. But I would watch out big time. She wants to play like she is single. Not good, bro. Be very careful about investing too much into her.
Radu Posted August 18, 2012 Posted August 18, 2012 Like BH mentioned, she wants to play single. There was a guy there she fancied and her subconscious was giving him a shot at it. Which means she does not love you, or else she would have 'put claims on you' by keeping her hands on you. For me, this would be a deal-breaker.
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