hurt1986 Posted August 18, 2012 Posted August 18, 2012 So it has been 4 months since my boyfriend broke up with me. I did everything in my power to get him back he said he would get back with me if we can both prove our trust. Well he began to judge me and tell me this needed to change and that needed to change so I did then he left me high and dry for another girl. A month went by and I thought I finally moved on. I was happy but then I came across a picture of them both and it crushed me and it feels like we broke up all over again. I got no sleep, I can't eat. I don't know what to do. I'm so over all this already.
lovehurts82 Posted August 18, 2012 Posted August 18, 2012 "Love me for who I am.. Not for who you want me to be.." If there's changes that need to be made in a relationship for things to work out, it needs to be a mutual thing. You shouldn't be having to turn into someone he /wants/ you to be. Hun, I hate to say it, but it sounds like he was really stringing you along.. keeping you there /thinking/ he'd come back, when really he was holding you as his backup in case his new girl didn't work out. I know what you mean about thinking you're doing better, finding a picture of him and his new thing and it tearing open those wounds all over again. I went through the same thing. For a week I did really well with forgetting.. or at least stuffing away all those thoughts and really focusing on myself. But.. thinking I could handle it, I kept him on Facebook as a friend. Seeing him and his girl in a pic at Yellowstone.. the trip that he and I had planned to take, tore me apart. I felt like I couldn't breathe, I couldn't eat, was ill to my stomach.. I removed him as a friend. I didn't /want/ to have to do it.. thinking I was stronger than that and could stay friends. No way! In order to truly move on, I've found you have to cut all strings tying you to that person. Remove them from Facebook/Myspace/Twitter.. and any others of those sites if you use them, remove their contact information from your e-mail/phone. And if you have any mementos, either get rid of them, or pack them all up in a box and put them away somewhere out of eyesight. And then.. you have to pick yourself up and carry on. You can do this. We all can, and we must. "Don't spend new tears on old grief.." Find a book to settle down to, go watch a funny movie, hang out with friends, teach yourself to knit or crochet, go for a walk, head to the gym, try out a new recipe.. do ANYTHING you can to keep yourself busy! I've always found that when my mind is idle, that I start to fall back into the pits again. 1
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