paras1te Posted August 18, 2012 Posted August 18, 2012 Hey Y'all, thanks for all the input so far. Situation short: Girl breaks up with me. We dated a little later (felt awkward). The the last thing I said was:"I'm taking salsa lessons wanna join?" I knew she wanted to do this when we had. Then she said she didn't and I then later texted her: "Oh then I'm not shure it would seem like it's more fun to do with you. But her just say when you feel like dancing" Then I went to NC. But is it a good thing to have an open invitation like this when you go to NC. It would make it easier for her to contact me, but on the other hand she might still have the safety net and feel like she can have me anytime (Thus not missing me) Two questions: The last time we met felt a little awkward, should I induce a new meeting and make this feel good. (So thats how she remembers me or wont it matter) Second. Should I give her a last text message that I'm ok with the break-up and agree with her. Or is it better to just leave it ? Thanks in advance !
WordvAction Posted August 18, 2012 Posted August 18, 2012 Two questions: The last time we met felt a little awkward, should I induce a new meeting and make this feel good. (So thats how she remembers me or wont it matter) Second. Should I give her a last text message that I'm ok with the break-up and agree with her. Or is it better to just leave it ? Thanks in advance ! 1. Absolutely not. I think the only reason you want to do that is because your not over her and are still craving contact from her. 2. Absolutely not. What good will that do? If you were okay with it you wouldnt need to tell her that. Again, I think you're looking for a reason to talk to her. Go and stay NC; it's the most efficient way to heal and protect yourself from setbacks
Author paras1te Posted August 18, 2012 Author Posted August 18, 2012 Maybe I can send her a message or something saying. I think you might be right lets just be friends. 'Cause she wanted that, but I told her that would never happen. But maybe it will set her wondering and bring back the challenge ?
TaraMaiden Posted August 18, 2012 Posted August 18, 2012 Or maybe you should just do what everyone is suggesting - and go - and STAY - No Contact!! You're broken up! She's your EX! Salsa? Really intimate, hot sweaty, close dancing - and you think she'd want to do that with you - now you're broken up?? Talk about clutching at straws.... This is not about keeping a line open.... if she wants to come back - she will tell you. This is on her, and you need to distance yourself completely and not make any attempt AT ALL to still keep her in a corner of your life! You have to drop it, go NC, stay NC and work on bettering your life - for you.
WordvAction Posted August 19, 2012 Posted August 19, 2012 Maybe I can send her a message or something saying. I think you might be right lets just be friends. 'Cause she wanted that, but I told her that would never happen. But maybe it will set her wondering and bring back the challenge ? So you giving in to her every want and being her "friend" will make you a challenge? Come on man, the girl doesn't want you; it's OVER! Let it go! I know it's tough I've been there (most people on here have been), please have some respect for yourself and stop caring about someone who broke your heart
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