mesmerized Posted August 18, 2012 Posted August 18, 2012 Do you expect a compliment back? Do you think it's rude/shows lack of interest if she just says thanks and nothing more?
rocketman122 Posted August 18, 2012 Posted August 18, 2012 no. it doesnt bother me if she doesnt reciprocate. I do love it when she enjoys the compliment and not just a regular thanks. a smile and a touch on my arm would do it for me. depends who the girl is though. 1
Author mesmerized Posted August 18, 2012 Author Posted August 18, 2012 no. it doesnt bother me if she doesnt reciprocate. I do love it when she enjoys the compliment and not just a regular thanks. a smile and a touch on my arm would do it for me. depends who the girl is though. You know, I'm really liking your posts on this forum. You sound like a real man, not a whiny one like the rest, hope to read more of you! 1
Cracker Jack Posted August 18, 2012 Posted August 18, 2012 Not at all. I'm giving her a compliment because I want to make her feel good, not because I want something in return. That's how I always felt about complimenting a woman. 3
Silly_Girl Posted August 18, 2012 Posted August 18, 2012 A compliment given in order to receive one is totally insincere and shouldn't happen. A conversation taking that route would seem so awkward and stilted, I think. Compliments are nice, like many things in relationships, when they're reciprocated. But those things ebb and flow between you, sometimes you give the compliment, sometimes they do, sometimes you're the more affectionate, sometimes they are. A natural flow, not tit for tat. 2
MrCastle Posted August 18, 2012 Posted August 18, 2012 I don't need compliments. But agreed, giving one back in return seems forced, like you're just doing it because the man gave you one first. 2
somedude81 Posted August 18, 2012 Posted August 18, 2012 If she doesn't give me a BJ in return, it means she's a bitch. J/k Now why are the men the ones who have to give compliments? Would it kill a woman to say something nice about a guy?
carhill Posted August 18, 2012 Posted August 18, 2012 My compliments are gifts; freely given and with no expectations. There's a lot of pleasure in giving and such types of giving are a completely free and renewable resource. 2
ThaWholigan Posted August 18, 2012 Posted August 18, 2012 I give my compliments sincerely and tactfully, I don't need to receive one back. It's better to give than to receive sometimes . 1
irc333 Posted August 18, 2012 Posted August 18, 2012 A compliment given in order to receive one is totally insincere and shouldn't happen. A conversation taking that route would seem so awkward and stilted, I think. Compliments are nice, like many things in relationships, when they're reciprocated. But those things ebb and flow between you, sometimes you give the compliment, sometimes they do, sometimes you're the more affectionate, sometimes they are. A natural flow, not tit for tat. Back handed compliments are even better for joking around or getting some passion going.
Ninjainpajamas Posted August 18, 2012 Posted August 18, 2012 I give compliments when something truly stands out about a woman to me...just genuine and sincere and I'm just speaking my mind...why would I expect a compliment back or anything more? most will say thanks and that's definitely enough...that at least it was acknowledged but a blush or bashful smile will always do but that's usually followed up with a thanks anyway. I think returning the compliment would be obvious, I'm very bad at taking compliments...I get shy and uneasy, and I'll usually react and compliment the woman just to take the focus off of myself 2
Fondue Posted August 18, 2012 Posted August 18, 2012 I don't compliment women that I'm interested in, so it doesn't really matter to me. But I do compliment women I am not interested in, because it makes them feel good. I work with a lot of women. I learned when they are upset or something is bothering them. I'll throw out a compliment about their new hairstyle or something just to put a smile on their face. Probably is reason why I'm liked around the office, hahaha.
ThaWholigan Posted August 18, 2012 Posted August 18, 2012 I think returning the compliment would be obvious, I'm very bad at taking compliments...I get shy and uneasy, and I'll usually react and compliment the woman just to take the focus off of myself This is my problem - I'm terrible at taking compliments in real life - I get really awkward and funny .
Titanwolf Posted August 18, 2012 Posted August 18, 2012 I rarely (rarely!) pay people compliments. On that rare occasion I do though, I do it with the sole intention of letting them know what I think about them (usually because I feel compelled to say something). The person paying the compliment isn't entitled to positive feedback. However, it is nice when someone shows their appreciation, whether that would be a "thanks" or a smile, I'm not too fussed.
AlexCross Posted August 18, 2012 Posted August 18, 2012 Do you expect a compliment back? Do you think it's rude/shows lack of interest if she just says thanks and nothing more? No. But it depends on the circumstances. If it were a one time thing where I did not know the woman, then know I would not expect one in return because she probably didnt expect to be complimented, that is putting her on the spot. If I am dating someone and constantly complimenting my S/O and there is no reciprocation, I would have an issue with that.
Pompom Posted August 18, 2012 Posted August 18, 2012 I don't need compliments. But agreed, giving one back in return seems forced, like you're just doing it because the man gave you one first. Agreed. I appreciate compliments, but the whole "You, too!" stuff always makes me uncomfortable.
FitChick Posted August 18, 2012 Posted August 18, 2012 Now why are the men the ones who have to give compliments? Would it kill a woman to say something nice about a guy? I always compliment men when it is justified, whether I'm dating them or not. It's kind of sad how they react sometimes. You can tell they seldom receive compliments. Same goes for showing appreciation. Men are simple creatures whom it doesn't take a lot to please yet women don't do it. 1
musemaj11 Posted August 18, 2012 Posted August 18, 2012 Smart men don't compliment a woman on her looks. Compliment her on anything else but her looks.
Art_Critic Posted August 18, 2012 Posted August 18, 2012 Do you expect a compliment back? Do you think it's rude/shows lack of interest if she just says thanks and nothing more? No.. giving a compliment and expecting one in return would be kinda rude... If someone says " I love the color of your dress, it brings out your smile" then the proper response would be "thanks" not " thanks.. the color of your pants makes your bulge bigger" 3
AlexCross Posted August 18, 2012 Posted August 18, 2012 Then again some women might find a guy creepy for complimenting them if they are not attracted to them. Meh. Such is life.
Charlie Harper Posted August 18, 2012 Posted August 18, 2012 Best way to make compliments: Compliment about the topic on hand, specially on something that happened between you and her. Dont compliment on things that are very superficial or can change quickly (hairstyle, makeup etc) Tell her what you like about her personality, like making a comment lightly related to the conversation. e.g. conversation: Me "well then she tells me this and this and makes huge smile, expecting me to change my mind, and I would but she doesn't have your sparkling smile, so I said NO" The best compliments are sincere, women have a much more sensitive bull* hit meter than men so if you are complimenting someone be sure to do it on something real, Women love to hear they are intelligent, witty, ambitious, funny, Wise.... telling her that she looks great on that boots will no earn points in the long run; Telling her you love her smile and the wild laugh, and carefree attitude will def make a difference If you include it AFTER a conversation with laughs on both sides...
Author mesmerized Posted August 18, 2012 Author Posted August 18, 2012 Smart men don't compliment a woman on her looks. Compliment her on anything else but her looks. Why do you think that?
ThaWholigan Posted August 18, 2012 Posted August 18, 2012 Why do you think that? It's like male folklore, recently found in some PUA literature. Don't compliment a woman on her looks otherwise she thinks you only like her for her looks, or likely because everybody else compliments her on her looks so you should be "different". Personally, there's tactful, and then there's that. If I find something compliment-worthy about someone, I will say it if I feel I should.
ptp Posted August 18, 2012 Posted August 18, 2012 Do you expect a compliment back? Do you think it's rude/shows lack of interest if she just says thanks and nothing more? I don't think it is rude, nor do I expect it, but if she doesn't compliment me back then, yes I would think she isn't interested.
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