Cbbwink Posted August 18, 2012 Posted August 18, 2012 (edited) Yes the title is suppose to be like the 500 days of summer movie. Anywho Ive been back on this site at least every other day to read what other people go through. First off this site has been such a stress relief, thank you So here is my story. We met and we both fell for each other instantly. Didn't really believe in that love at first sight stuff but hey honestly that is how i feel what has happened. We were high school sweet hearts, first loves, took each others v cards, never rushed anything, both family's and friends loved us, hung out at least 6 days a week, and were to together for 3 years. We never fought except for when it came down to mac vs windows or who breath smelt worse or where to eat, but that was all in good fun. She travels for work, usually gone during the summer and that's it. Here is that sad stuff, Before she left for her month trip everything was perfect. Contact was short because I had work and she was in a different time zone and I guess contact was brought to a minimum, I blame my self for that because it should be the gentleman's job to make sure his lady is comfortable and okay. She came back and seemed off, she seemed tuff and stronger didnt really talk about her feelings and didn't seem to care about anything, and I didn't feel like she missed me at all. When I approached her of this she said she was fine and just felt more independent. I respected that and asked if I should give her time or maybe we should take a break. She told me she doesn't want to loose me and assured me I had nothing to worry about. Well over the course of the month she was distant, moody, didn't really show emotion and I was patient. But when she posted things on facebook and instagram she was all happy and herself and I became jealous. Why wasnt she happy with me? I began questioning her and it led to fights and it just wasnt the same. 3 year anniversary came up and I made her a homemade card and I had a whole day planned out. She wanted to just see a movie and I didnt get squat from her. That was the last straw I felt like she didnt love me anymore. We didnt talk for a couple days and I called her over and we talked and I told her we should just take a break, she said "whats the point, I dont know what to do, I feel like there is no more spark". She still wanted to be friends but I rejected saying the pain would be too much. I got a final kiss goodbye and we haven't talked since. Its been 3 months. Ive been good, new clothes, going to the gym, hanging with friends, had a few flings but nothing serious and I have been very emotionally stable and I got college in a couple days. Things are honestly really going well but I still think about her, I get reminders of her through out the day, sometimes dreams where I chase her or lose her in a crowd. Ive watched our movies and felt only little emotion. I feel like im at the tipping point of being completely over her. But Ive heard rumor thats she is sad sometimes or happy and I really want to know how she is doing. Should I check her Facebook? Talk to her? or completely move on? I ask this because what if its not me, What if she is just stressed from work, family, ect and is just confused? I would want to be the one to save her from that. Edited August 18, 2012 by Cbbwink
WordvAction Posted August 18, 2012 Posted August 18, 2012 Honest answer, this has all the red flags of someone who cheated/is cheating on you. I can't tell you for sure but that's what sounds like happened here. Avoid Facebook and her, chasing after someone who doesn't want you usually ends in even more heartbreak and pain.
Author Cbbwink Posted August 18, 2012 Author Posted August 18, 2012 I had a feeling.. but I shouldn't concentrate on anything but my self and how to improve. Thank you
WordvAction Posted August 19, 2012 Posted August 19, 2012 I love that response; keep focusing on you and know that things are going to get better. Best of luck to you
oracle Posted August 19, 2012 Posted August 19, 2012 Good job You are doing all the right things, look after you. Don't hesitate to be selfish, do what you want when you want. I hate the term "move on" cause honestly I think its not really possible to do. Like with anything in history, people have less relevance as time goes by and they are no longer part of our lives, its just a long slow process that happens on its own. And tbh i don't think anyone truly moves on until they meet someone that they like better than the person moving on from. Attachment is like addiction, its hard to let go and we always wanna look back. Nothing wrong with it either... its a personal journey and ur gonna do what ur gonna do.. just like you know whats good for you and whats not
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