PhillyDude Posted August 18, 2012 Posted August 18, 2012 "sorry i have been having a crazy week which is why I haven't called since Tuesday and my dad is not feeling well" So is this a creative way of breaking the date?
AlexCross Posted August 18, 2012 Posted August 18, 2012 "sorry i have been having a crazy week which is why I haven't called since Tuesday and my dad is not feeling well" So is this a creative way of breaking the date? Yup shes not interested. Get the hint. Move on. At least she was creative?
Author PhillyDude Posted August 18, 2012 Author Posted August 18, 2012 Yup shes not interested. Get the hint. Move on. At least she was creative? But she didn't say anything about tomorrow she said why I haven't talk to her since Monday
AlexCross Posted August 18, 2012 Posted August 18, 2012 But she didn't say anything about tomorrow she said why I haven't talk to her since Monday Read between the lines
johan Posted August 18, 2012 Posted August 18, 2012 If she was interested she would have expressed interest. They don't usually forget to do that.
Author PhillyDude Posted August 18, 2012 Author Posted August 18, 2012 Read between the lines So her dad is not dying?-LOL
AlexCross Posted August 18, 2012 Posted August 18, 2012 The fact that she made no reference to the date in question means, there is no date in question. 1
The Way I Am Posted August 18, 2012 Posted August 18, 2012 I only see an apology for lack of contact. If she initiated the contact tonight, there's no reason to do that. If she's trying to blow you off, she could have just not contacted you. Reply with "Sorry to hear that. Is your dad okay?" Then depending on how she responds, ask "Are we still on for tomorrow?" If the answer is no, you're not really out much, but you know for sure. If on the other hand, her message is in response to asking her if you're on, then the lack of a yes means she's blowing you off. 5
chphan Posted August 18, 2012 Posted August 18, 2012 (edited) "sorry i have been having a crazy week which is why I haven't called since Tuesday and my dad is not feeling well" So is this a creative way of breaking the date? Pretty much since she didn't even mention the date which means she's hoping there is no date to be worth a mention. You pretty much screwed. LOL. Also remember that her dad hasn't been feeling well the whole week so she could have let you know if she actually cared. Letting you know pretty much at the last minute kind of means she's using it as an excuse to not show up for the date. Edited August 18, 2012 by chphan
Pasttense Posted August 18, 2012 Posted August 18, 2012 Ask her about what happened to cause this crazy week. Show some empathy for her Dad and these other problems. PS. Come back in a week or two and tell us how it turned out.
Author PhillyDude Posted August 18, 2012 Author Posted August 18, 2012 Well no point in getting bent out of shape over something I can't control It's the sign of the times, every female is getting f*cked by multiple men and it's hard to develop something real with any girl Life in 2012:D
yongyong Posted August 18, 2012 Posted August 18, 2012 A girl just flakes out with a lame excuse - no reply A girl flakes out but suggest another date -you can reply by saying 'no worries blah blah' So just ignore her txt.
soccerrprp Posted August 18, 2012 Posted August 18, 2012 Well no point in getting bent out of shape over something I can't control It's the sign of the times, every female is getting f*cked by multiple men and it's hard to develop something real with any girl Life in 2012:D First point, true. Second point, very cynical and a little more of a hint of bitterness. Don't let that happen to you.
LFH Posted August 18, 2012 Posted August 18, 2012 I only see an apology for lack of contact. If she initiated the contact tonight, there's no reason to do that. If she's trying to blow you off, she could have just not contacted you. Reply with "Sorry to hear that. Is your dad okay?" Then depending on how she responds, ask "Are we still on for tomorrow?" If the answer is no, you're not really out much, but you know for sure. If on the other hand, her message is in response to asking her if you're on, then the lack of a yes means she's blowing you off. This is the best advice you've gotten. Why do people treat asking questions as if it's a bad thing? Information is important. Not everyone is trying to be cryptic. I took it as exactly what it says "Sorry I haven't been in touch" so a light reply asking if she needs to cancel or reschedule would be nice, she may reply back with "We're still on! I'm looking forward to it! I just didn't want you to think I was blowing you off!" On the flip side, if you now don't reply or take it as there is no date without asking, she's probably going to say to her friends..."So my week was crazy, my dad was sick, I couldn't talk to him for a couple days and now he's all bent out of shape. Wth?"
Author PhillyDude Posted August 18, 2012 Author Posted August 18, 2012 This is the best advice you've gotten. Why do people treat asking questions as if it's a bad thing? Information is important. Not everyone is trying to be cryptic. I took it as exactly what it says "Sorry I haven't been in touch" so a light reply asking if she needs to cancel or reschedule would be nice, she may reply back with "We're still on! I'm looking forward to it! I just didn't want you to think I was blowing you off!" On the flip side, if you now don't reply or take it as there is no date without asking, she's probably going to say to her friends..."So my week was crazy, my dad was sick, I couldn't talk to him for a couple days and now he's all bent out of shape. Wth?" So she would think I'm bent out of shape because I make no reference to the date?
writergal Posted August 18, 2012 Posted August 18, 2012 "sorry i have been having a crazy week which is why I haven't called since Tuesday and my dad is not feeling well" So is this a creative way of breaking the date? Creative? No. Transparent? Yes. Who doesn't have a crazy week or a sick parent? My mother's sick right now, but if I had a date with a guy I really like, I wouldn't use her sickness as a reason to cancel the date or excuse as to why I haven't been in touch. If she was interested in going through with the date she would have made a reference to it. So no, she is trying to back out of the date but in a very lame way. You can text or call her back, ask how her father is...but that's a waste of time. Just ask her if she still wants to go out on the date (although you already have your albeit implied answer from her text). 1
Greznog Posted August 18, 2012 Posted August 18, 2012 Well no point in getting bent out of shape over something I can't control It's the sign of the times, every female is getting f*cked by multiple men and it's hard to develop something real with any girl Life in 2012:D Trying to form connections with women in 2012 1
Author PhillyDude Posted August 18, 2012 Author Posted August 18, 2012 Creative? No. Transparent? Yes. Who doesn't have a crazy week or a sick parent? My mother's sick right now, but if I had a date with a guy I really like, I wouldn't use her sickness as a reason to cancel the date or excuse as to why I haven't been in touch. If she was interested in going through with the date she would have made a reference to it. So no, she is trying to back out of the date but in a very lame way. You can text or call her back, ask how her father is...but that's a waste of time. Just ask her if she still wants to go out on the date (although you already have your albeit implied answer from her text). I'm not asking her ****
AlexCross Posted August 18, 2012 Posted August 18, 2012 I'm not asking her **** Just out of curiosity, when you planned the date, did you mention you two would be going dutch ?
LFH Posted August 18, 2012 Posted August 18, 2012 (edited) So she would think I'm bent out of shape because I make no reference to the date? If you just didn't show up? Or if you assumed that there wasn't going to be a date is what I meant. She didn't cancel...you didn't cancel.. so to me (as a woman) I'd assume we still had a date as planned. Why would it be a big deal to ask if you were still on or not if you weren't sure? This is a huge communication failure I see a lot between men and women. Women aren't clear, men don't ask for clarification. Here's what I see happening. You don't ask and are assuming you don't have a date, that she just basically made a lame excuse and blew you off so you don't mention it at all. She was thinking you do in fact have a date, but then you didn't mention it and she thinks it's because she was busy all week and you are annoyed about it. Now she either is in a mood over it or her feelings are hurt and she thinks you don't like her. No one mentions the date, it never happens and you both might have been looking forward to it. Now, if she really was trying to blow you off, what's the worst that happens, you text back and say "Hey, sorry to hear your week is so crappy, hope you still feel up to it tonight?" or "Hey, sorry to hear your week was so crazy, are we still on for tonight?" and if she says "no there's no way I'm so tired, or whatever excuse" then you know... and what real effort did it take? You aren't any worse off than you were when you assumed she was blowing you off. Edited August 18, 2012 by LFH
AlexCross Posted August 18, 2012 Posted August 18, 2012 If you just didn't show up? Or if you assumed that there wasn't going to be a date is what I meant. She didn't cancel...you didn't cancel.. so to me (as a woman) I'd assume we still had a date as planned. Why would it be a big deal to ask if you were still on or not if you weren't sure? This is a huge communication failure I see a lot between men and women. Women aren't clear, men don't ask for clarification. Here's what I see happening. You don't ask and are assuming you don't have a date, that she just basically made a lame excuse and blew you off so you don't mention it at all. She was thinking you do in fact have a date, but then you didn't mention it and she thinks it's because she was busy all week and you are annoyed about it. Now she either is in a mood over it or her feelings are hurt and she thinks you don't like her. No one mentions the date, it never happens and you both might have been looking forward to it. Now, if she really was trying to blow you off, what's the worst that happens, you text back and say "Hey, sorry to hear your week is so crappy, hope you still feel up to it tonight?" or "Hey, sorry to hear your week was so crazy, are we still on for tonight?" and if she says "no there's no way I'm so tired, or whatever excuse" then you know... and what real effort did it take? You aren't any worse off than you were when you assumed she was blowing you off. Yeah put your ego and pride a side and take the 30 seconds to find out if there is a date or not, you might be pleasantly surprised or confirm what you already know, there is no date.
Author PhillyDude Posted August 18, 2012 Author Posted August 18, 2012 Just out of curiosity, when you planned the date, did you mention you two would be going dutch ? I never tell a woman that before a date
Author PhillyDude Posted August 18, 2012 Author Posted August 18, 2012 If you just didn't show up? Or if you assumed that there wasn't going to be a date is what I meant. She didn't cancel...you didn't cancel.. so to me (as a woman) I'd assume we still had a date as planned. Why would it be a big deal to ask if you were still on or not if you weren't sure? This is a huge communication failure I see a lot between men and women. Women aren't clear, men don't ask for clarification. Here's what I see happening. You don't ask and are assuming you don't have a date, that she just basically made a lame excuse and blew you off so you don't mention it at all. She was thinking you do in fact have a date, but then you didn't mention it and she thinks it's because she was busy all week and you are annoyed about it. Now she either is in a mood over it or her feelings are hurt and she thinks you don't like her. No one mentions the date, it never happens and you both might have been looking forward to it. Now, if she really was trying to blow you off, what's the worst that happens, you text back and say "Hey, sorry to hear your week is so crappy, hope you still feel up to it tonight?" or "Hey, sorry to hear your week was so crazy, are we still on for tonight?" and if she says "no there's no way I'm so tired, or whatever excuse" then you know... and what real effort did it take? You aren't any worse off than you were when you assumed she was blowing you off. I;m old enough to know that since I got that type of text the night before the date, it way a easy way out for her
AlexCross Posted August 18, 2012 Posted August 18, 2012 Dude what if she shows up and your not there. Seriously.
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