ITS THAT TIME OF THE WEEK AGAIN GUYS!!! the dreaded weekend!!!

[Brokendude]

weekends r so awful when goin thru a breakup, we all know this. theyre so tough and its almost impossible to shake it off. im goin thru it right now. but what steps can we take at this point to get thru this right this second?? NOTHING!!! the only option is to accept that its happening right now. i feel it right now in the pit of my stomach guys, but i choose to make myself feel it and remember it, almost taking a mental picture of it, so i can always look back at this in my future relationships and remember to never let anyone take my power again, thats part of growth.

 

thoughts to remember right now guys: (these r not gonna make u feel better, but at least alleviate some pain)

 

1. as i logged on to loveshack it said there are 350,000 people on this site right now. so right there u should know that ur not the only one going thru this. we are all in it!!! ur not the only one alone in ur room feeling debilitated by this

2. so what if ur ex is out partying? i know i know i know it hurts to think about it. but listen, at this point, just think of them as with someone else already. thats called a rebound relationship. whether it works out for them or not theres really NOTHING we could do. as i said grieve it, and be sad thats soooo normal, all of us could relate to that, have a great cry not a good one, but at least after that TRY to fight, and give urself a chance to fight it, dont just lay in bed and spend these next hours thinking about this person that has cost u dear pain, who is out hangin out with people that will never amount to the capacity of love u were willing to give.

3. always remember this is temporary!!! theres a huge possibility that even though they seem to be moving forward faster coz theyre the dumper, theres still always a chance that theyre not fully healed. this happened to my first ex gf, she broke up with me and jumped into another relationship within 2 weeks and they dated for a year, and she ended up cheating on the new guy. LUCKY ME!!! i dodged that one. the good news for u is, this pain on a friday night is called healing!!! those tears rollin down ur eyes are drops of weakness leaving ur body.

4. think of this time as a rehearsal or the pregame. if u wanna stay home and hide for now, thats understandable, but always vision urself that when u come out of this, ur unveiling the NEW YOU... so take as much time as u need.

5. grab a piece of paper write everything u want on it. let it all out. write all ur fears about this break up. write everything u need to let out. emote! ull feel so much better right after.

6. take a nice shower!!! a long one, be even dramatic in there if ud like, anything that will help u let out all the heaviness.

7. phone a friend, ur grandma, ur fav aunt, or anyone that would hear u out rt now. just try to let it out. this will make u feel better.

8. drink some warm milk if ur already in bed, pop in a movie, preferably funny to lift ur spirit. if u have siblings, tell em just to hang with u in the living room or something.

9. go for a walk, the weather is gorgeous. as ur walking, figure out what ur gonna do and ur strategy to help urself get thru this ordeal.

10. look in the mirror, tell urself its completely normal to be sad right now, then scream at urself and remind urself to be strong, and PROMISE urself ull come out of this.

~~ hopefully any one of these tips could help u put one foot forward thru this. if its really soooo unbearable call a crisis center and vent to them. the one last tip ill give u is this, FIGURE OUT THE ONE THING IN UR LIFE RIGHT NOW (BESIDES UR EX SILLY) THATS SOMEWHAT KEEPING U HAPPY. ONCE U FIGURE THIS OUT, SUBMERGE URSELF IN IT. IF U HAVENT TRY NEW THINGS UNTIL U FIND ONE THATS GONNA JUST HOLD U OVER THRU THE WEEKENDS, COZ GOD KNOWS THEY R TOUGH, BUT AS IVE ALWAYS SAID WE DONT HAVE TO LIVE IN SUFFERING. KEEP FIGHTING GUYS!!!

[Drseussgrrl]

Love this. I'm heading to NYC tomorrow for a wedding he was supposed to be at with me. But I'm going with my gf instead and we're going to tear that town up for a few days. Your post made me laugh. Thank you!!

[Brokendude]

DR SEUSSGIRL, u go to that wedding with ur gf, and u make that dancefloor beg for mercy hahaha. have fun!!!! but always remember dont get too wasted, coz alcohol collects from u the next morning. be safe!!!

[Drseussgrrl]

You know I'm going to dance until the world ends. I'm actually very excited - dint care if he's there to miss out or not! Hey lots of single NYC dudes to cut a rug with. And I'm saving a ton of money not having to pay for a hotel since my gf lives in the financial district. HOLLA

[Drseussgrrl]

*don't is what I meant