LadyMidnyte Posted July 15, 2004 Posted July 15, 2004 Shoot i really dont know where to begin. I feel like crud thats for sure. Anyway i guess i should start from the beginning so be ready for a long haul version of this because i suck at cutting back detail. When i hooked up with this guy i was involved already with someone else but there was problems with this other person. I didnt say anything at first to the new guy but then i did. Well, eventually i ended things with the other guy but him and i continued to remain friends. Least i was just a friend to this old guy but he kept telling me how much he loved me everytime we talked, regardless of getting an answer back of the same emotion... Well in the meantime the new one proposed and i had accepted. Well things happened to me medically and new guy started to help me out with bills and well occassionally food because now i am waiting on disability. The other one, always said he would help but was always broke. I wasnt expecting him to help.. The new guy or even the old guy.. Well anyway, its been 10 months of the old guy still swearing his love to me though him and i are just friends and the new guy just fed up with it. Well back in Dec. I had asked to take a break so i had time to think because i was getting confused about the situation. Feeling like this was a major love triangle. But neither would give me time, because they were scared the other would try to replace the other. I already knew who i wanted to be with but that still didnt effect the fact i needed time to think... Well the old guy started playing an online game i played with the new guy and one night when old guy was on, one of new guys friends was on and this friend had asked old guy if he was my friend... well, old guy snorted and said "Friend? Try Boyfriend." Not knowing who it was... well anyway friend told new guy and it really put a major dagger into things. I got accused of not controlling my friends , etc etc. And now new guy wants a break to sort his feelings.. well a few days ago i asked for the the time to think and he said he wouldnt accept it, but now that its on his terms.. it just doesnt seem right. Anyway, he's over all this time complained over and over to his friends about me, so i look like the devil incarnate to all his friends instead of confronting me.. anyway point is new guy asked for his break.. at first i didnt want to give it to him because he was talking about he was going to see other ppl.. well when i told him i didnt like it , i got yelled at.. well, now i am temporarily single according to him and i got asked out by a guy friend to go do somethings to get my mind off... and of course, low and behold old guy is right up there in my face again about wanting to get back together.. well new guy, doesnt want me seeing other ppl while he takes his break to gather his thoughts.. he says he's not going to see others but i still think he has a lot of nerve to ask me to sit back and wait for him...Well anyway i am so confused on whether i should wait or go ahead and just shut him out and go on anyway... I do love this guy very much . He means the world to me but after one bad relationship after an other and having to be told he needs time to think... well i dont know.. am i being selfish?
aFighter Posted July 15, 2004 Posted July 15, 2004 Someone is going to get hurt no matter what you do. This is a fact of life. My advice is to choose carefully & the one that you do not want to be with just let them know you've made your choice and that's it. It's a tough call and no doubt. Do you go with the one you love or do you go with the one that loves you. That is a question only you can answer. My advice is think about it, but don't think too long, and go for the one that brings you the most happiness & you can trust not to mess you around. It's never selfish to go for what you want. If the other guy has any maturity at all he will respect your choice and not badger you about it.
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