abygirl1203 Posted August 17, 2012 Posted August 17, 2012 I have been talking/ dating this guy for about two weeks and i really like him. he told me p front that he is afraid of relationships because he doesnt want to get hurt and i was ok with this because i have the same fear and am not looking to jump into a relationship anytime soon but yesterday out of the blue he text me basically breaking up with me. i said that i wanted to talk about it in person and we met we left it as he would call and we would go out to lunch and talk more cuz he didnt want to rush his decision. He then text me when he got home and said thanks for talking to me and that it helped him a lot. unfortunately i am now having major anxiety about the whole issue cuz i have yet to hear from him. i am ready to hear an answer but i am not ready to hear no. what do i do? please no negative or derogatory answers i am really in need of help.
Yookie Posted August 18, 2012 Posted August 18, 2012 Sounds like he is feeling pressured from you and that's why he is saying that he is afraid of relationships. How old are you two? He could be at a stage where he just wants to be free to explore different people. Don't take this as beating up on you but please realize that after only 2 *TWO* weeks you honestly do NOT know this person well enough to be able to judge how well you will get along in a relationship with him. Relax and don't latch on so quickly before you get a chance to see the real person behind the polite facade and newness.
Ninjainpajamas Posted August 18, 2012 Posted August 18, 2012 Don't be confused...many guys say that because they don't want a relationship with you, not because they are scared. You know what would happen if a Victoria Secret model wanted a relationship with him? I can guarantee that magically he would be ready for a relationship, amazing! Now the point is not that you aren't a model, but because men say this as a buffer to keep emotionally withdrawn and unavailable while giving you the impression that it's possible something may come out of it, but he's already had his mind made up in the beginning...when women say they aren't ready for a relationship it's for completely different reasons than a man, you need to realize that and take it into consideration. If both of you were so worried about getting in a relationship and becoming emotionally attached then you probably wouldn't be dating or seeing people in the first place don't you think? stop fooling yourself and playing stupid, you date people, you will have a connection and yes magically you'll want a relationship with a man...nothing new or different about that, you have to learn to be more honest with yourself or you let someone else play the same games you are, not to mention men using that as a buffer of not having to commit to women and still get their cake. 1
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