ellllllarose Posted August 17, 2012 Posted August 17, 2012 that night he slept over her house and I texted him that I didn't know what to do and that I had a razor up to my wrist. He let her read that text too but didn't even bother to respond. ... i looked at her wall and she was making fun of me for it with a picture of a razor blade that says "just do it". All I want to do it call him and scream and cry but he's in Maryland for a week (my birthday is in a week). I'm so hurt. oh my god. what do i even do right now.
Ross MwcFan Posted August 17, 2012 Posted August 17, 2012 Some people are cunts. Get them out of your life.
TaraMaiden Posted August 17, 2012 Posted August 17, 2012 You put the razor down, you delete facebook, you block every which way you can get to see his/her facebook, and you block texts, phone calls and every which way of ever being able to contact him ever again. PUT THE DAMN STUPID RAZOR DOWN, AND QUIT DOING THIS! NO PERSON IS WORTH WHAT YOU'RE DOING! 4
rach24680 Posted August 17, 2012 Posted August 17, 2012 that night he slept over her house and I texted him that I didn't know what to do and that I had a razor up to my wrist. He let her read that text too but didn't even bother to respond. ... i looked at her wall and she was making fun of me for it with a picture of a razor blade that says "just do it". All I want to do it call him and scream and cry but he's in Maryland for a week (my birthday is in a week). I'm so hurt. oh my god. what do i even do right now. hurting yourself won't solve any problems, in fact it'll only make them worse and hurt your family and friends who care about you. If you want to scream and cry then do it, but don't let him see how angry and upset you are, he's not worth it! Just think, you wouldn't want to get back with him anyway so there's no point in contacting him. You need to stop contacting him FULL STOP, NC is the best in situations like this, even if he txts you first, ignore it, get a new phone, do anything you can to stop him from getting hold of you.
Eddie Edirol Posted August 17, 2012 Posted August 17, 2012 Ella you obviously just learned the hard way that trying to get him to do what you want by threatening slitting your wrists doesnt work. He doesnt care. If he doenst want to be with you, theres nothing you can do. You do what Tara said, and move on with your life. Theres other guys out there that will like you. And get out of the habit of trying to get people to do what you want, it wont happen. When they want to do something with you, they will, but only when youre fun to be around and confident. This isnt the mature way to get the attention you want. You are mature, arent you?
William Posted August 17, 2012 Posted August 17, 2012 Thread starter, first talk to your parents/relatives if at all possible. At seventeen, such people are invaluable allies in these matters. Second, if the first option is unavailable, even if you feel you would not pick up the razor again, call (215) 355-6000 or (215) 686-4420 and speak with a person trained to deal with these issues. That you would look to cutting as a solution to relationship feelings clearly indicates help is warranted at some level. Lastly, keep reading here. Members will help. You're not alone. 3
Author ellllllarose Posted August 17, 2012 Author Posted August 17, 2012 he's also talking to someone new. did i really drive him away that much?
not-a-drive-by Posted August 17, 2012 Posted August 17, 2012 he's also talking to someone new. did i really drive him away that much? Ella, dear, it hurts reading what you did. Stop thinking about whether you drove him away or not. Think about yourself. Look after yourself, no matter how hard it may be right now. Cutting or hurting yourself, WON'T bring him back. If for the slightest chance he does, is it out of pity? When you send texts like that, it makes you appear weak. You don't want to be weak in front of him. It makes them have the upper hand and feel good for leaving you - and now, having a laugh at your expense. I hope you did put down that razor in the end and will never pick it up again. Cry it out. Scream if you need to. As much as you need. Let it all out. But don't hurt yourself. Like TaraMaiden said, you need to cut contact with him. You don't need a jerk in your life, who doesn't care about your well-being.
carhill Posted August 17, 2012 Posted August 17, 2012 OP, people do what they do. Under the circumstances, relevant to your other thread, I'll retract my advice regarding him coming by to get his stuff. That dynamic is completely unhealthy right now, IMO. Did you drive him away? Unknown. I can tell you that someone I loved very much drove me away with her drinking and suicidal behaviors/actions. In fact, a couple of people have. So, yeah, it's possible. The same psychology which impels grabbing the razor to deal with his cheating and your subsequent breakup (IIRC regarding your story) is relevant to your psychology within the relationship. Both can't exist in a vacuum. Psychology and behavior is a continuum. He's responsible for his cheating; she's responsible for her public actions on FB. You're responsible for you. What do you choose to do next? IMO, no contact, meaning black-hole NC, would do you a lot of good. Spend some time with your family and friends. Good luck.
sally4sara Posted August 17, 2012 Posted August 17, 2012 Aww dear, people who treat others this way don't need anyone to make a mistake or "drive them away" for them to be so cold. You didn't do anything that would justify the treatment you're getting out of him or her. You need to reach out to people in your life that have shown you they care about you and try to let them in and support you. If you need to, reach out to a local person like a counselor or clergy or mentor of some kind even if they are a stranger to you right now. When someone is this cold to you, it isn't a measure of you, your worth or behavior. It is a measure of them, their lack of empathy and heartless demeanor. 1
biogirl05 Posted August 18, 2012 Posted August 18, 2012 i second sally4sara. he doesn't need a reason. I also agree that you must stop talking to this guy. I had a previous relationship that had a lot to do with me needing psychotherapy and antidepressants. After he left, I started getting better, even though i couldn't see that he was one of my main issues while we were dating. have you considered that the way this guy makes you feel about yourself may be driving your needs to harm yourself? cut this guy out and take steps to become strong. even if he wasn't the big reason it will be good for you. win-win.
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