Coffee20 Posted August 17, 2012 Posted August 17, 2012 I saw my ex today very very close. I again have urgent feel to text him. I am so angry with him. What do you do to avoid the need to break NC??
Tyler. Posted August 17, 2012 Posted August 17, 2012 You remind yourself why you broke up in the first place. After some time we tend to disregard the bad times but if you're angry with him it must be for a reason right ? Just think it over, think about why you guys didn't work out, and if its not acceptable or if you can't get over it, stick to NC. Don't make rash decisions, just think it through.
TaraMaiden Posted August 17, 2012 Posted August 17, 2012 You think about how dumb, sad and angry with yourself you'd be, if you did.... Look at the threads on "Broke No Contact- now I'm miserable" and the like. People succumb to temptation - and hate everything about doing so as soon as they have.... Don't join THAT club....!
Author Coffee20 Posted August 17, 2012 Author Posted August 17, 2012 I know I broke NC two times to tell him like I loved him and missed him etc, he told me to leave him alone, that he didn't miss me and was happy.... I just can't understand how someone who infected me two times during our relationship, who promised me so many things, lied to me almost every day, went out with other girls without me, left me alone when I needed his support when my mum had tumor, called my friends bitch and above all of this blamed me for everything and told me he wanted to have fun and met other girls and with me he couldn't have it, can just pass with the big grin on his face and tell me "hello".
Tyler. Posted August 17, 2012 Posted August 17, 2012 I know I broke NC two times to tell him like I loved him and missed him etc, he told me to leave him alone, that he didn't miss me and was happy.... I just can't understand how someone who infected me two times during our relationship, who promised me so many things, lied to me almost every day, went out with other girls without me, left me alone when I needed his support when my mum had tumor, called my friends bitch and above all of this blamed me for everything and told me he wanted to have fun and met other girls and with me he couldn't have it, can just pass with the big grin on his face and tell me "hello". After all this, i'm glad you guys are over. He treated you so bad and you don't deserve that. Nobody deserves to be cheated or lied, so just take this as a lesson and move on. Feelings resurface after some time, i know that, but you're over the hard part. You should just keep going and remove this ******* from your life, you don't need him in your life. Don't settle for this guy, find someone better for you. Don't contact him in any way because it's not going to do anything but make you sad. It's over and you should be happy about it, just let it go.
CopingGal Posted August 18, 2012 Posted August 18, 2012 I saw my ex today very very close. I again have urgent feel to text him. I am so angry with him. What do you do to avoid the need to break NC?? Hi. I go to the "Post here instead of contacting your ex" thread and let loose!
WordvAction Posted August 18, 2012 Posted August 18, 2012 I know I broke NC two times to tell him like I loved him and missed him etc, he told me to leave him alone, that he didn't miss me and was happy.... I just can't understand how someone who infected me two times during our relationship, who promised me so many things, lied to me almost every day, went out with other girls without me, left me alone when I needed his support when my mum had tumor, called my friends bitch and above all of this blamed me for everything and told me he wanted to have fun and met other girls and with me he couldn't have it". Read this over and over again. This guy is the ultimate douche
YorickBrown Posted August 18, 2012 Posted August 18, 2012 I saw my ex today very very close. I again have urgent feel to text him. I am so angry with him. What do you do to avoid the need to break NC?? Easy.... Watch porn. Make prank calls/text. Feed my pet python... Take long cold showers with my rubber duckie... kidding! Well....now that I think about it... Hmmmmm....
Author Coffee20 Posted August 18, 2012 Author Posted August 18, 2012 thanks some of your answers were really funny to read I have spent this day reading all the negatives I wrote down about my ex, it helped a bit.
kindest Posted August 18, 2012 Posted August 18, 2012 (edited) There were times I got a slight urge to contact him but I never pushed through with it. What I always did was I would stay away from all modes of communication until I lost the urge. I never contacted him first. All of the times I talked to him was in response to his reaching out to me. I also think the reason why I don't initiate contact is because I knew he'd always reach out to me. He always did. He'd find excuses to talk to me. At the time I wasn't telling him to stop just yet. Plus he rejected me, and it was clear, so why would I bring myself further down by giving him another opportunity to reject me by not responding if I would initiate contact? Last time we talked I finally told him we should stop talking for the meantime and that 'in the future we can talk again'. I am not so sure if that's going to happen and I probably still won't initiate contact. Edited August 18, 2012 by kindest
Author Coffee20 Posted August 18, 2012 Author Posted August 18, 2012 There were times I got a slight urge to contact him but I never pushed through with it. What I always did was I would stay away from all modes of communication until I lost the urge. I never contacted him first. All of the times I talked to him was in response to his reaching out to me. I also think the reason why I don't initiate contact is because I knew he'd always reach out to me. He always did. He'd find excuses to talk to me. At the time I wasn't telling him to stop just yet. Plus he rejected me, and it was clear, so why would I bring myself further down by giving him another opportunity to reject me by not responding if I would initiate contact? Last time we talked I finally told him we should stop talking for the meantime and that 'in the future we can talk again'. I am not so sure if that's going to happen and I probably still won't initiate contact. I sometimes think that if he would initiate some contact, I would definitely feel better - I wouldn't have the big urge to contact him so many times
kindest Posted August 18, 2012 Posted August 18, 2012 I sometimes think that if he would initiate some contact, I would definitely feel better - I wouldn't have the big urge to contact him so many times I understand what you're saying, but trust me, it really doesn't make it any better. Especially when he does it in the guise of being 'friends' but all he's doing is feeding his own ego because he knows I have a hard time ignoring him. I mean... we are not friends, who the f*ck was he kidding? Every time we would talk I would pretend to be okay with it but inside I would feel like $h1t. It felt like I was being rejected again, and again, and again. I had to ask him to stop.
Author Coffee20 Posted August 18, 2012 Author Posted August 18, 2012 I understand what you're saying, but trust me, it really doesn't make it any better. Especially when he does it in the guise of being 'friends' but all he's doing is feeding his own ego because he knows I have a hard time ignoring him. I mean... we are not friends, who the f*ck was he kidding? Every time we would talk I would pretend to be okay with it but inside I would feel like $h1t. It felt like I was being rejected again, and again, and again. I had to ask him to stop. hmm every time I broke NC, he told me to leave him alone but then he wrote me second message about being friend.....weird don't know what would his friendship bring me, only suffering
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