dannyhep Posted August 17, 2012 Posted August 17, 2012 Im not sure if this is the right place to ask this. sorry for the long post. just need to explain the conversation we had via text. My ex broke up with me a week ago and I'm still madly in love with her. i tried my best to fix things and it didnt work. I did as she asked and stopped texting her. however, yesterday was results day and i felt that i had to text her saying good luck, so i did because i wanted to be there for her. She texted me back telling me shed got into the uni that I go to (she chose to go to the uni i go to because i was there). she went on to say that shes going to try go to a different uni than the one that im going to. I text her saying i miss her (which i know i shouldnt have) and asked how she was. she replied (ignoring me saying i miss her) saying that she was okay but that her grandad is in hospital. I told her how sorry i was to hear the news and asked whether she would want me to go with her to the hospital to see her grandad and maybe get a drink afterwards. she text back saying that it was a bad idea. so i replied saying okay, let me know how your results go. she texted me later on telling me how shed done and i texted her saying that im proud of her and well done. she replied talking about one of the exams and how there was a problem and that she couldnt wait to tell her grandad the results she had got. i texted her back saying that im sure her grandad will be happy and then i said i would text her later because i was doing something (I could have kept texting her but i got a little worried and self concious that i wasnt saying the right things). I havnt texted her sinse i said i would talk to her later. should i text her? its been a day sinse we texted.
not-a-drive-by Posted August 18, 2012 Posted August 18, 2012 Nope. No more texting. You need to give each other space, especially since you are freshly out of the BU. She's not responsive to your "I miss you" or wanting to meet up. The more you text her now, the more irritable she will feel. And in the end, all you are doing is pushing her further away. It was difficult to understand this in the beginning for me. I loved my ex and still do. I could not imagine the distance between us and losing contact altogether. We texted each other like old times the first few weeks (sometimes I initiated, other times he did). But slowly, I realised it wasn't helping the situation. He had no chance to "miss me" while I was constantly texting him. I was pushing him further away by telling him I still "missed him". I didn't want to look weak in his eyes anymore (as you read through these LS threads, it's never a good impression for your ex). I knew he was reading my blog and what a mess I was on it. So I changed my URL so he had no more access to it. I am doing NC to help me move on, and become mysterious in his eyes. Rather than a weak girl, still crying over him (I do that over LS instead ). I want to give him time and space to think about what he has lost.
marilla Posted August 19, 2012 Posted August 19, 2012 well if you said you were going to text her later then you should. Be true to what you said. Other wise what kind of man are you? But after that don't overdo it. Don't drive her nuts. Tell her though that since her granddad is sick, you are always there if she needs support and someone to talk to. You need to be discreet but you also need her to know that she can count on you for help in case she needs it.
ThatJustHappened Posted August 19, 2012 Posted August 19, 2012 She asked you to stop texting her, so stop texting her. It doesn't sound like she's interested in getting back together right now. Her answers are polite but distant. If she wants to talk to you, she will contact you. Leave it up to her.
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