Dimartinez Posted August 17, 2012 Posted August 17, 2012 Hey guys. I am awfully depressed and can't seem to get over this situation. Please help if you can. Im 18 and so is my ex. I was dating my girlfriend for a year and 7 months. We were completely in love. Everyone and anyone could see how much we loved each other, from a mile away. We took each others virginities, and had an amazing sex life (or so it seemed, I didn't know better). This was important to me. Of course we fought, we had the occasional bicker. No fight questione our relationship though. Like I said, we were totally in love, and the sad thing is, we still are. Her and I applied to different colleges and are going to attend them, I'm in Colorado, shes in Illinois. After a long tearjerking conversation, we decided it was best if we didn't do the long distance relationship. Both of us would get too jealous and suspicious. I told her "I'd rather leave loving you, than try to make it work and fail, resulting in bitter feelings.". So here I am, in my dorm room. I can't get her out of my head no matter what I do. I try to walk around campus, I'm a very sociable person, but I end up getting teary eyed within 10 minutes. This is awful. I miss her so much, and I know she does as well. I need help. I love her so much, and want to know her forever, but I can't take these feelings. I've never been so sad about anything. I want to have fun in college, but I can't go 10 minutes without some small memory of us popping into my head. Please help me. Keep in mind that we didn't break up because of a fight or anything of the sort. We just decided to set eachother free, even though we were madly in love.
Future7 Posted August 17, 2012 Posted August 17, 2012 It gets so much easier as time goes on man. I did something similar but different circumstances surrounding the breakup. I loved her so much but it was two different levels we were on. All you need is time man. Trust me. But what you need to do is stay No Contact. Easily the best way to get over her. Also get rid of any pictures you have of her. Who knows once your back for the summer you can get back together. And any breaks you can meet up. But for now.....NC.
Author Dimartinez Posted August 17, 2012 Author Posted August 17, 2012 Thank you so much. It's really rough. I thought about that, getting back together during the summer, as of right now that seems like a great idea. I hope I feel the same way at the end of this year. But like you said, time will tell. I read your thread, it seems as if we're in the same boat. I guess we just have to stick it out, keep ourselves preoccupied. I wish you the best of luck man!! And I'm sorry rumors were spread, thats a bummer.
Future7 Posted August 19, 2012 Posted August 19, 2012 focus more on you, live your life, but most of all get out there and experience everything. She will be doing the same thing but don't doubt the fact she will think of you. Thanks for reading my thread man, ****s tough being so in love. And yeah those rumors killed, but she tried to contact me days after so it was more an excuse. And it also means she does not harbor ill feelings of me, so the good times can make her wish we were back. But any way we gotta find things to do! I go to school Tuesday and you can bet your life I'm not holding back. My ex will do her thing but the crazy thing is if it used to work, wait til you mature and then we might be able to revisit. But I really am excited to be down at a new life (college).
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