BeautyRush Posted August 17, 2012 Posted August 17, 2012 As you all know, my ex dumped me on July 23, 2012 over some trivial matter. He got mad because I went out with one of my bestfriends (the wife of his bestfriend) and we didn't invite him to join us. Yes, he is insanely jealous and been doing the breakup/makeup game to me several times already. The last time he pulled the breakup thing, I immediately went NC. After 18 days of NC, he started texting and calling me everyday, but never once did I cave in. It's been 25 days of my NC today, and suddenly I feel this longing... The more my ex wants me, the more I miss my last last ex ( my ex before him). Oh god! I couldn't stop thinking about this ex the whole day and it's getting intense each time I checked my phone and got a miscall or text from my recent ex. I broke up with my last last ex March of 2011. It was a LDR and lasted for 7months but that was the most amazing 7months of my life! Anyhow, this puzzled me a lot. Why is this happening to me? I miss that last last ex so much! This is crazy! I wanted him so badly, I want to cry Is this normal?
pteromom Posted August 17, 2012 Posted August 17, 2012 It's normal. You are lonely, so you are going to a place where you felt loved and content. Your mind is searching for that good feeling, and has decided that your previous ex fits the bill. Just remember that this is more about your own emotions than anything to do with your ex. You just want to be loved, as we all do. And - please don't go back to jealous controlling ex when he comes crawling back (which he WILL do when HE starts feeling lonely). You can do better than that. Work on filling yourself up with other friends and activities, and start dating when you feel ready. You'll be ok. 2
Author BeautyRush Posted August 18, 2012 Author Posted August 18, 2012 It's normal. You are lonely, so you are going to a place where you felt loved and content. Your mind is searching for that good feeling, and has decided that your previous ex fits the bill. Oh yeah, it makes sense to me now. That was the first time I fell inlove with a guy and that was the hardest breakup ever. Literally, I couldn't function for more than 3mos. I just locked myself up in my room and could go for two days without any food and just sleeping a lot! Whew, I though I would die then! Just remember that this is more about your own emotions than anything to do with your ex. You just want to be loved, as we all do. Yes. Thank you for clearing this up to me. Somehow, I had the urge to contact him again because of this intense wanting, lol! And - please don't go back to jealous controlling ex when he comes crawling back (which he WILL do when HE starts feeling lonely). You can do better than that. Never. I learned it the hard way. He is only nice when he misses me or lonely. I wasted so much of my time over hurtful relationship that I tried so hard to work on for months but left me feeling so bitter, lost and angry. Work on filling yourself up with other friends and activities, and start dating when you feel ready. You'll be ok. That's what I've been doing lately. Working out and aiming JLO's abs and butt,LOL! I vowed I won't date til I have her abs and butt! Thank you so much for your inputs!
Jennifer2012 Posted August 18, 2012 Posted August 18, 2012 It's totally normal. This is like post break up loneliness. Missing your ex is like trying to fill a void right now, but don't worry these feelings will pass eventually.
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