Hornachero Posted August 17, 2012 Posted August 17, 2012 Hi LS! Any tips on mornings and weekends? I can manage during the day but it takes me hours to get out of my bed in the morning and I HATE the loooong/seemingly empty weekends! How do you guys manage?
Vikki_26 Posted August 17, 2012 Posted August 17, 2012 I'm just the same! And cant be bothered to do anything any more. Havent moved out of this arm chair for 18 days now apart from to go upstairs to bed.
headsashed Posted August 17, 2012 Posted August 17, 2012 Force yourself,my mornings and weekends used to be really bad but now im doing ok. I had to just force myself out of bed on a morning and just start my day. Weekends were hard because i knew she would be out doing whatever,so i did the same,went out with my friends,now its alot easier, even though it does still hurt from time to time. Now im basically over those parts im dealing with the fact that shes with someone else,she will be doing things with him that she did with me,it hurts but i have to carry on,as ive been doing. Cliche as it sounds its time that heals,like mornings and weekends have with me,time will soon heal this horrible feeling i have now.
Matt145 Posted August 17, 2012 Posted August 17, 2012 Of a morning i feel the like **** too, best thing to do is just get out of bed as soon as you wake up dont lie around thinking about your ex. Weekends are **** for me too, because my ex is out partying having a good time not even thinking about me and im working so its ****. Your not alone everyone else feels the same mate.
youngnlove89 Posted August 17, 2012 Posted August 17, 2012 (edited) Hi LS! Any tips on mornings and weekends? I can manage during the day but it takes me hours to get out of my bed in the morning and I HATE the loooong/seemingly empty weekends! How do you guys manage? Oh man, you've stumped me here. I literally just woke up, messy hair and groggy eyes to boot, and the first thing I thought about was him. A recollection of us making love and him kissing me in the most intimate parts. I just wanted to cry. *By the way, I read somewhere that shouting "STOP!" at these thoughts are very beneficial. Your brain will respond to that stop and the memory really does fail to proceed. try it.* So I came on here, to LS. The mornings will be tough, there is no way around it. The weekends, they will be tough also, but we don't have to stay inside cooped up in our bed reminiscing what we lost, or rather, what THEY Lost . Trust me, the weekends are hard for me, they were our weekends together, we always hung out. But now, I have to learn to be without him. So this weekend I am going out with family and I even set up a few dates with friends to just go out and talk my little heart away over red wine. Of course when the mundane first 15 hours of trying to get through the day are over and you are driving home, checking your phone for missed calls, that's when it hurts most. I will be coming back to the bed that I sleep alone in. And I will do my best not to imagine him holding me. The only good thing about mornings is knowing you got through another day. It's the thoughts that even when we try to be busy, haunt us. We have to go through these feelings, fight these demons of love and accept that this is a part of them we hold on to because we haven't made the effort in our hearts to let go. Edited August 17, 2012 by youngnlove89 3
Vikki_26 Posted August 17, 2012 Posted August 17, 2012 This forum and its members are such a help, I have been visiting this site whenever i need strength. Its comforting to know that I am not the only one who finds certain things so hard to deal with! Mornings are the worse! And i'm finding late at night now too.
Author Hornachero Posted August 17, 2012 Author Posted August 17, 2012 *By the way, I read somewhere that shouting "STOP!" at these thoughts are very beneficial. Your brain will respond to that stop and the memory really does fail to proceed. try it.* Oddly enough, it does work! Thanks for the tip younglove89! During the day, I usually go to coffee-shops and work on my school work there. I find that watching people (and from time to time attractive girls) come and go takes my mind off the negative thoughts. I also became friends with a couple of baristas and for some reason, having small-talk with them every morning is really uplifting! 2
not-a-drive-by Posted August 18, 2012 Posted August 18, 2012 Oh how I dread weekends. Especially Saturdays, because it was OUR day together. We would meet early in the morning and spend the whole day together til it was late at night. Doesn't happen any more . To make my early Saturday mornings go by quicker, I've started going to yoga classes. That way, I'm out of bed and have something to do, and get him out of my head. Last weekend, I finished watching the first season of Once Upon A Time and this weekend, I will try to watch Person of Interest. TV does burn time. Probably not too healthy to be in bed or on the couch the whole day, but if it keeps my mind off him, so be it for now... And Sunday - it's always a drag. I think I've always hated it.
8mia8 Posted August 18, 2012 Posted August 18, 2012 Other than work, it's been shows and movies 24/7 in bed with a laptop...
goodbyesunshine Posted August 18, 2012 Posted August 18, 2012 Just living each day hoping that today, I will think of him less than I did yesterday, and feel a little less sad than I did last night
whatdoesntkillyou Posted August 18, 2012 Posted August 18, 2012 GET OUT OF THE HOUSE. GET OUT OF THE HOUSE. GET OUT OF THE HOUSE. GET OUT OF THE HOUSE. BE AROUND PEOPLE. ANYONE. Mornings are the worst for me. I used to have really really bad mornings and even though now, four weeks later, I am far from completely over my ex, I somehow managed to dampen the magnitude of the morning blues. This is what my counsellor advised me: 1. Do not be alone - because it reinforces the fact that you're broken up. Be around people - anyone, even being in a crowd. 2. Socialise socialise socialise - again, talking to anyone will help, somehow. Even though at the time it doesn't feel that way. 3. If you go out to have parties or something, pretend you're having a good time. Eventually you'll convince yourself and actually enjoy social outings. I hated my first few nights' out but after that, it did indeed become enjoyable and distracting! 4. Exercise. Picture your ex, and how much hotter you'll look next time your ex sees you. It's a great motivator to exercise and you WILL feel a lot better after exercising. Hope it works for you too! 2
Author Hornachero Posted August 25, 2012 Author Posted August 25, 2012 I have re-read this thread and I feel better already! Thank you guys for all the suggestions. I have decided to hit a couple of art galleries tomorrow! Who knows? Maybe I'll meet a cute art student with retro glasses? 1
oracle Posted August 25, 2012 Posted August 25, 2012 (edited) You gotta fake it till you make it. Don't get caught up in the hopelessness of the moment. You are your own worst enemy now. Edited August 25, 2012 by oracle
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