Girlfriend being " beast friends" with the guy she lost her virginity to

[rossboss53]

Let me 1st start off my saying that im new to this whole blog thing....but in my case it my help...ok. I've been dating my girlfriend for about a year and some change and i really love this girl. I'll go out my way for her and she would do the same for me...we get along as though i knew her for years..she always tells me that she loves me and that im her 1st tru love...But thats where i kinda have my strange spider senses:(...i dont judge her about her past because its not my place to judge but its some things that really eat away at me...like for one she'll take abour another dude and how wet his looks make her or she'll take my phone and look through my messages to make sure i dont have nothing that's questionable..i have no problem with her doing that because i dont have nothing to hide...but when i try to look through her phone she'll get protective over her phone and this is the part that eats me alive the most...one night while at the movies i go through her phone and i see her text this guy named mickey ( the guy she lost her virginity to)..now she claims that they are just good friends but i wanna say BULL****..also i dont wanna over react...but anyway i read one of the messages and he said " I bet you taste Good" and my Girlfriend is like " You wanna taste me:)?" and i questioned her about it and she was like its nothing serious they just play like that...but let me say some **** like that...she would call me all kinds of names and just start cussing alot.. so i asked her about mickey and she tells me that he will always have a special place in her heart...and when i heard that...im like i cant over react because i cant control who she can be friends with...but i be like damn really:mad:???? can anyone help? also forgive me for my title it was meant to say " Best Friends"

Edited August 16, 2012 by rossboss53

[MissBee]

Their relationship is inappropriate and disrespectful.

 

It seems most people, esp with the advent of texting, have no idea what appropriate boundaries are.

 

If you're in a relationship, sure you can have friends and sure you had a past, but you should keep your relationships with others above board and not encourage flirtatious behavior and sexual innuendos. It doesn't foster security in your relationship when you do that and it just comes off like you don't care.

[Shadow21999]

Trust me on this. They are more than just friends. The guy a girl losses her virginity with will always be The One . I've played the role of that guy a couple of times, and trust me, your not in a good spot. From this post, you sound like a good guy, not a bad boy that girls look for.