He broke up with me but he say he still love and miss me

[MoonandMoon]

I've been in a long distance relationship with this guy for 3 months.

He's 40 and 26.... big age difference.... does that matter??? I think It's 1 of the reasons he broke up with me. Between those 3 months we have been on and off. He kept breaking up with me. I took his virginity( yes he was a 40 yr old virgin) and I was his first serious relationship.The first reason he broke up with me was because he couldn't handle the distance. He travels for a living installing furniture around the world. 2 weeks later he got a job here in miami where I live( he lives in indiana).

 

He text me asking if we could see each other in person to see if we can work it out being in the same room together and if it works we should be together. so I gave him a chance and it worked out.

A month later he tried to break up with me again.. by the way every time he breaks up on me he do it through facebook .....rude..... this time he said it was because he needed his space because he thought I smother him I explained to him is cuz we're in long distance relationship and I didn't mean to he also said it was because he thought it would be too hard for us... then he thought about it and changed his mind and stayed he said he shouldn't leave just cause its too hard. so then we decided I should move over there with him.

 

But then I started noticing things about him I didn't like. he started being rude and distance. he became disrespectful and never listened when I tried talking to him about it. other than that we got along very well we had a lot in common we thought the same and has similar goals. I thought he was perfect for me he said I was his dream girl we will talk about our future together you never said anything about marriage but we knew.I thought he was honest and sweet. loving and caring at first. few weeks later he started ignoring me he didn't wanna talk on the phone much anymore ignored my text messages he hung out with friends too much and took their word over mine all the time he ignored my messages on facebook he still said he love me but I don't think he knows a love is.

 

We started arguing a lot because he pay me no attention and he started becoming really cold hearted saying mean things to me and getting moody so I tried to fix it all the time I tried so many different ways to make it work but he said talking about things get him exhausted and it's draining.

he said he wanna have fun instead he doesn't like talking about our relationship he never wants work anything out. I started getting depressed I tried getting attention from him by my depression it worked but I shouldn't have to do that.... but it was on the way he been ignoring me I also think I did it because subconsciously I wanted to break up with him but didn't know how. also I don't like being alone so I put up with this crap and stayed going to get my heart broken by him again you broke up with me last week and it's been so hard to get over him. he told me he was staying fight for us we had big plans together but he wasn't patient enough to wait for me in to work things out people call me to facebook again by the way he basically lied lied about who he is and what he promised me.

 

 

I feel relieved now he's gone he said he feel relieved too I texted him 1 night telling him I miss him and love him and I told him goodbye. we couldn't be friends cuz you still in love with each other he said he still loves me and misses me like crazy just couldn't deal with the stress and that we cant work it out that won't work. but if you love me why can't we work it out together all he had to do is be patient and honest with me. but he abandoned me like he said he would never do. we got back together with me for one day I told him we could work it out and give me another chance because I gave him any chancesyou can try and work things out if you can give me another chance because gave him many chances then he broke up with me on facebook again after taking advice from his friends they told him some girls love drama and he believe them over me.

 

 

I messaged him on facebook telling him he's too immature for relationship and don't know what love is. than yesterday(few days after) he wrote a comment on my facebook singer always love me no mter what and that he will fix some problems he have I told him I'm still moving to indianapolis. and he said he could move close by and it's possible we could work it out there he asked if you could at least be friends because it's too tramatic to lose me completely. I said yes he said he still love me he just me sometime he said its cuz he's been single most of his life. but I'm confused. today text me a heart and I text him one back....why is he telling me he don't think we could work but say he love and miss me like crazy sent me a heart and message me kisses but sound like we could never be together but said he just need some time now he's saying we could setback together when I move up there???Is he lying again???

 

Living in dreams and fantasies about us but isn't being honest with me or his self???Do you think he'll break my heart again???If he love me why can't we together???What do he really want???Im his only girl he dost chase girls like that he said I wont have to worry about that.He said he want to do what's best for us.I still care about him I still have feelings for him....why do you think I want him back after what he did???Is he leading me on???Do he really want me???Im so confused what should I do???I try to move on but its so hard I can't get over him!!!!

Edited August 16, 2012 by a LoveShack.org Moderator
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[William]

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