TheHighWayMan Posted August 16, 2012 Posted August 16, 2012 Hello everybody This is my first thread on this forum, and I thought I would just explain my current situation and ask for some constructive criticism/advice? I missed out on a childhood due to some dramatic circumstances and have never been able to get very close to anybody since then. I've just recently started feeling that there is something missing in my life and searching for a relationship. I am 19 years old, and quite inexperienced with dating. I've only gone out with around 5 girls in my life, and none of them seemed right. At the time I was still suffering from childhood abuse, and though I wanted someone to lean on I wasn't willing to get emotionally attached. I just met this girl at a party a week or so ago and haven't been able to stop thinking about her since. We had a short conversation and I got the feeling she was slightly interested in me. Just as things seemed to be going so good, my drunk idiot of a friend knocks over a bookshelf and we all get kicked out of the party, and I miss the chance to ask this girl for her number. All I found out about her was her first name, and I didn't even know what high school she'd gone to. Saturday night, two days later, I ran into a bit of luck. I was going to another small party, and guess who show's up at the front door at the same time as me? Her and her friend were both surprised to see me there and we talked a lot throughout the night. I found that we shared tons of similar interests, and even went to the same high school though I didn't remember seeing her there, probably due to the fact that she is two years younger than me. I was thinking of just asking her if she wanted to go out and get some fresh air with me, but I find myself the only dependable one among my friends, and it was getting pretty rowdy, so I just got her number and told her we should hang out sometime. The night proceeded from there and everybody got increasingly loud and drunk, and to my surprise I was actually beginning to feel tipsy. My friend suggested a friendly round of boxing, and we stepped outside into the yard for a quick fight. I must have been more drunk than I originally though to accept his offer. Even though I have an athletic build, he is MUCH bigger. He is a black belt in karate and has basic military training, while I barely have any fighting experience. Even though he was probably ten times as drunk as me, I only managed to land a few glancing blows while receiving a split lip, bloody nose and bloody chin. I felt like I had made a horrible impression on everybody at the party. The very next day I sent this girl a message along the lines of "I had fun at the party with you we should hang out sometime." I would have asked her out on a fancy date, but here is the problem. I'd already booked tickets, and my flight for Amsterdam left in two days. I didn't receive a reply the whole day, or the next day, and I left for Europe disheartened. Next day she replied, saying she had fun at the party though she said that everybody was acting a little crazy for her. Now I am in Europe and won't return for another month. The main things that I am unsure of: Did I ruin it with this girl by going wild at the party? Is fighting a bad impression? The fact that I got my ass kicked? Will this girl even remember me once I get back? Should I keep messaging this girl while I am in Europe, or just wait till I get back and ask her out? Will it be strange for me to ask her out considering the fact that I wont have seen her for nearly a month? Thank you
CarrieT Posted August 16, 2012 Posted August 16, 2012 Did I ruin it with this girl by going wild at the party? Yes Is fighting a bad impression? Very bad - shows an aggression that most girls don't like (although there are some who do - but usually not the sweet, loving ones). The fact that I got my ass kicked? Even worse. Will this girl even remember me once I get back? Oh, I'm sure she'll remember you - but probably not in a very good way. Should I keep messaging this girl while I am in Europe, or just wait till I get back and ask her out? You could message her to see if she responds. Don't be surprised if she doesn't. Will it be strange for me to ask her out considering the fact that I wont have seen her for nearly a month? IF -- note the word "if" -- she stays in contact with you after your behaviour, than the month won't make any difference. I'd be surprised, however, if she wants anything to do with you... Sorry.
Author TheHighWayMan Posted August 17, 2012 Author Posted August 17, 2012 Alright. Pretty harsh, but thank you for the advice . I should add one thing though. The parties around here are always massive, with multiple fights and everybody getting drunk out of their MIND! I was probably one of the more level-headed ones here. Next question: If I want to chase this girl, how to proceed?
Author TheHighWayMan Posted August 18, 2012 Author Posted August 18, 2012 LOL ok thank you Astrologer it is...
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