spiderowl Posted August 19, 2012 Posted August 19, 2012 I feel flattered in a way but also not flattered. I feel I mostly get asked out by guys younger than me who are only looking for a fling with a 'mature' woman. If I felt they really liked me and weren't just looking for sex, I might feel flattered. I have very mixed feelings and wonder if there's something about me that makes young guys think I'd be grateful for any kind of sex life. Somehow that doesn't make me feel good. If a guy I really liked who was around my age asked me out, I would feel flattered. I'd also be very surprised as it's quite unusual.
LC1976 Posted August 22, 2012 Posted August 22, 2012 That was a common problem I encountered when I did internet dating. Then you get the email messages that say things like this: "I'm young at heart and really active....I don't look my age" (err yeah you do) and a host of other things along those lines. In general, I avoided those guys. LIke you said, why should I give them a shot? Especially because some of them had the nerve to have age ranges that were younger then their own ages. I gave this one older guy a shot because his emails were so articulate. He was recently divorced and a lawyer and older than me. On our first conversation he would talk about how men can take younger women more easily and blah blah blah...I was so turned off. OP, it depends on the guy and situation. Sometimes it's flattering, even if I am not interested in that person and I respect that they were brave enough to ask and other times not flattering at all. Like one time this guy asked me out from my gym. I had never seen him before but he was around my age and I liked his proactive attitude so I gave him my number. We went out but it was obvious to me that we weren't compatiable. I was very honest with him and told him I was flattered he asked me out but we really didn't have tht much in common. Then there was this other time when this really old guy asked me out in the grocery store and I was not flattered at all. I was kind of offended that someone that age would think he would have a chance with someone my age. I know it sounds petty but men can be harsh on women regarding their age and I don't want to promote that in men even more by encouraging men of a certain age to ask me out. I figure since men can be harsh on women and their age, that I should dish it out a little. This doesn't mean I think all age different relationships are bad, but there are two different kinds of men women should look at for. Those that make a woman's age the bench mark of her worth and those that may happen to just date someone younger because there was something there but isn't down, and even likes, women his own age as well. So what if a guy was older then you, let's say 14 yrs, and you didn't know it. And he only looked a few years older then you: would you brush him off once you found out?
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