Feel so low right now so close to contacting her

[Matt145]

Ive been staying with my aunt and uncle for the past 3 weeks after i split up with my ex because i just havent been able to cope with staying in my house. All the memories are here she lives 10 minutes away and when im here it just makes me think of her so much and i just nearly contact her everytime. So i came back today and already i started feeling like contacting her and just telling her how much i need her, on top of that ive got into a arguement with my mum and brother so that just adds on to it. I just want to contact her so bad:/ last time we spoke it wasnt even a real goodbye she just said bye got to go in a rush, its inevitible shes going to contact me again thats what anoys me most and when she does i was planning on telling her im blanking her calls and texts from now on. She really wants to be friends with me or friends with benefits ive said no and im not going to settle for anyless than a relationship. Shes even invited me over for sex and ive said no why is it that she done that? Is it so i have sex for her and she thinks she has an excuse for me to be FWB or friends with her? I just want to call her now and walk around to her house and cuddle her like old times this is the worst ive felt since breaking up. Need help before i contact her feel so down and suicidal.

Edited August 16, 2012 by Matt145

[BrokenAnna]

Matt I know how you feel but you have to resist and go cold turkey, it's the only way. I used to stress a lot about my breakup that my hair started falling out and got stomach ulcers, but recently I just made peace with it and started planning my future. You will be okay =)

[Tree_Salmon]

Ive been staying with my aunt and uncle for the past 3 weeks after i split up with my ex because i just havent been able to cope with staying in my house. All the memories are here she lives 10 minutes away and when im here it just makes me think of her so much and i just nearly contact her everytime. So i came back today and already i started feeling like contacting her and just telling her how much i need her, on top of that ive got into a arguement with my mum and brother so that just adds on to it. I just want to contact her so bad:/ last time we spoke it wasnt even a real goodbye she just said bye got to go in a rush, its inevitible shes going to contact me again thats what anoys me most and when she does i was planning on telling her im blanking her calls and texts from now on. She really wants to be friends with me or friends with benefits ive said no and im not going to settle for anyless than a relationship. Shes even invited me over for sex and ive said no why is it that she done that? Is it so i have sex for her and she thinks she has an excuse for me to be FWB or friends with her? I just want to call her now and walk around to her house and cuddle her like old times this is the worst ive felt since breaking up. Need help before i contact her feel so down and suicidal.

 

You really have to pick yourself up out of this and move forward.

 

It's hard as hell and you have to go through the motions but don't let it defeat you.

 

Use it to become stronger. Eventually you'll be over this and much tougher.

[Matt145]

thanks guys

[flitzanu]

lets say you do contact her, you do all these things.

 

what's going to happen? in your words.

[Matt145]

Ill probably feel even worse after it thats the only thing whats stopped me.

[TaraMaiden]

.......this is the worst ive felt since breaking up. Need help before i contact her feel so down and suicidal.

 

Matt, forgive the bluntness, but quit talking about suicide.

i know you must feel desperately low, but the fact is, you're alive right now, so ask yourself - with everything that it entails:

 

Do I choose to be alive right now, or shall I choose to die - right now?

 

I'm willing to bet you'll stick with the former, because desperate as you may feel, I think you realise that suicide is a permanent solution to a problem that's honestly temporary....

There are far worse things that could affect you besides an ended relationship with a girl.

Despondent as you might feel right now - it honestly isn't the end of the world.

 

How many guys on here have written about broken hearts - and are still hanging in there?

Loads.

 

Unfortunately.....

 

But there are also tons of lassies feeling the same way.

you'll heal, we promise.

but stick with it - and stick with us.

[flitzanu]

Ill probably feel even worse after it thats the only thing whats stopped me.

 

 

then you REMEMBER that.

[Matt145]

Matt, forgive the bluntness, but quit talking about suicide.

i know you must feel desperately low, but the fact is, you're alive right now, so ask yourself - with everything that it entails:

 

Do I choose to be alive right now, or shall I choose to die - right now?

 

I'm willing to bet you'll stick with the former, because desperate as you may feel, I think you realise that suicide is a permanent solution to a problem that's honestly temporary....

There are far worse things that could affect you besides an ended relationship with a girl.

Despondent as you might feel right now - it honestly isn't the end of the world.

 

How many guys on here have written about broken hearts - and are still hanging in there?

Loads.

 

Unfortunately.....

 

But there are also tons of lassies feeling the same way.

you'll heal, we promise.

but stick with it - and stick with us.

 

Thanks tara i appriciate it honestly. I would never commit suicide over a girl, i just feel suicidal sometimes its just a feeling.

[Floored]

Thanks tara i appriciate it honestly. I would never commit suicide over a girl, i just feel suicidal sometimes its just a feeling.

 

It's a normal feeling. Even if you aren't depressed, it's a human response to avoid pain as opposed to dealing with it.

 

You need to get a hobby, something new that you have no idea how anything works within this realm. For me, it's motorcycles. No clue, haven't ridden one, going to get my permit and a cheap 200cc starter, hopefully not going to kill myself. You really need something new and exciting and completely engrossing to keep you from thinking about your ex. Your mind idles, then it thinks of her, then it wants to reach out to her; look how many times you've wanted to contact her in the last two weeks. You need something new to challenge your mind- school, work, hobbies, a new girl, whatever, just do it and don't sit waiting to think of her.

 

Do NOT even text her, or send her a postcard- NOTHING. NC isn't for everyone, but it is for people who are still obsessing over their ex in unhealthy ways. I was one of them, I think NC helped me put my relationship into perspective without her tainting my mind. It will be good for you in the long run.

[Matt145]

It's a normal feeling. Even if you aren't depressed, it's a human response to avoid pain as opposed to dealing with it.

 

You need to get a hobby, something new that you have no idea how anything works within this realm. For me, it's motorcycles. No clue, haven't ridden one, going to get my permit and a cheap 200cc starter, hopefully not going to kill myself. You really need something new and exciting and completely engrossing to keep you from thinking about your ex. Your mind idles, then it thinks of her, then it wants to reach out to her; look how many times you've wanted to contact her in the last two weeks. You need something new to challenge your mind- school, work, hobbies, a new girl, whatever, just do it and don't sit waiting to think of her.

 

Do NOT even text her, or send her a postcard- NOTHING. NC isn't for everyone, but it is for people who are still obsessing over their ex in unhealthy ways. I was one of them, I think NC helped me put my relationship into perspective without her tainting my mind. It will be good for you in the long run.

 

Hey floored, i started going the gym again 3 weeks ago ive gone 3-4 times a week since then. If i hadnt started going the gym id be pretty much ****ed tbh because its all i do nowa days. Im waiting to go back to college but i dont go back till september 10th. Theres nothing to do now while im off apart from the gym, i sometimes do things with my friends but not enough i guess. As soon as i go back to college ill probably be alot better than what i am now. Theres also a few parties coming up soon what i am going to where i know my ex will definitely be.

[delboy21]

Dont do it go cold turkey take out your ssim, leave your laptop at a friends or work, deactivate your facebook or other social networking sites. as they say Curiousity killed the Cat! You have to be calm focussed and have your confidence back before you can rationally communicate with your ex. its sounds like theres a possibilty of reconcialtion you have to be string and ignore your ex dicating the type of relationship (FWB) you can have instead in timeand if youb still feel the same suggest you look at the emotional part of your relationship

[Tree_Salmon]

Thanks tara i appriciate it honestly. I would never commit suicide over a girl, i just feel suicidal sometimes its just a feeling.

 

Seriously, man. Suicide over pussy?

 

I know i'm oversimplifying it but cmon.

 

We all love our ex's so I know how you feel but you'll have at least two more by the time you're 50.

 

Forget this one.

 

You need to hear this s**t right now.

[Matt145]

Seriously, man. Suicide over pussy?

 

I know i'm oversimplifying it but cmon.

 

We all love our ex's so I know how you feel but you'll have at least two more by the time you're 50.

 

Forget this one.

 

You need to hear this s**t right now.

 

 

Yeah your right mate i need to stop being a little faggot

[Floored]

Yeah your right mate i need to stop being a little faggot

 

No need to talk about yourself like that, even if you're joking. It's a tough thing to go through, you just need to learn to stay strong and keep your dignity. Sounds like you're keeping yourself sorta busy, but there's still almost a month til you go to school. That's an eternity in breakup hours.

 

Mix it up. The gym is fantastic, but try picking up something outside. Get a mountain bike, find some trails. Find a 5k or 10k in the next month and start working your butt off for it. If you have time to miss her during the day, you have time to fill during the day. Nights and mornings... I don't know what to say because I myself don't know what to do, but as far as the waking day goes outside of work, I keep it packed, and it helps.

[Matt145]

Feel pretty good today way better than yesterday so glad i didnt contact her last night. But ill be in situations like that again so ive just got too be ready and be able to get through them.