jmjacobs31 Posted August 16, 2012 Posted August 16, 2012 Does anyone have any good success stories following a break up? It doesn't even have to be about you falling in love again but maybe about how your break up made you become a better person? I am struggling right now with a break up that I know needed to happen. He ended our 12 year relationship and I like to call it my "blessing in disguise" as I never would have had the guts to end it myself. I would love to hear some good stories about a break up has changed a persons life for the better!
Tree_Salmon Posted August 16, 2012 Posted August 16, 2012 Every relationship ive been in was extremely hard to leave but I always knew it was for the better. Following each breakup I went through different stages of pain and reflection. Some were more intense than others but I always ended up a better person. Stronger, more confident, more understanding of myself and life, happier. It may seem like the end of the world but there will be a time where you look back and appreciate it all. Better to have loved and lost and all that crap. It's true. Also, 100% of the time my ex's have come back, now living lame ass lives and completely miserable. I made the right choice with all of them. It sucks because this only happens after you stop wanting it. So i really dont get that much satisfaction from knowing this. I've ended up being friends with all of them. But i put no effort into them at all and now they have become the "you were the best, cant find men like you anymore" HA! So I would say this is success. Happiness always comes from within yourself. As cliche as it sounds, it's one big mind f**k. You have to take control of your own happiness. 3
youngnlove89 Posted August 16, 2012 Posted August 16, 2012 I agree with Tree_Salmon. Every relationship is a lesson learned. And they always came back! Some right away, some 6 months later. But I usually ended up not feeling the same anymore. Recently, I had an ex dump me for the 3RD time. Yes. Pathetic of me to take him back each time, but not anymore. He will come back when he gets lonely but I plan on finding someone else. Before him, I had an ex who said I wasn't the one also and came back 6 months wanting to get married and have kids. It was the best feeling in the world to tell him to %&*$ off. Each breakup, you become more wise and more strong than the last one. You will go through denial, disbelief, anger, sadness, frustration, happiness and it will repeat over and over and till one day you wake up and you aren't thinking of them to realize you are over them. You have to go through it to get over it. Stay strong. You will look back one day and be suprised how much has come along and how you can't even began to fathom what was so special about them. All of my exbf's(besides the current one), I have absolute no desire for them to be in my life and I look at them and wonder how I found them attractive to began with! You will get there too. Just doesn't seem like it now. Keep NC though. That's the only way out 1
Author jmjacobs31 Posted August 16, 2012 Author Posted August 16, 2012 I agree with Tree_Salmon. Every relationship is a lesson learned. And they always came back! Some right away, some 6 months later. But I usually ended up not feeling the same anymore. Recently, I had an ex dump me for the 3RD time. Yes. Pathetic of me to take him back each time, but not anymore. He will come back when he gets lonely but I plan on finding someone else. Before him, I had an ex who said I wasn't the one also and came back 6 months wanting to get married and have kids. It was the best feeling in the world to tell him to %&*$ off. Each breakup, you become more wise and more strong than the last one. You will go through denial, disbelief, anger, sadness, frustration, happiness and it will repeat over and over and till one day you wake up and you aren't thinking of them to realize you are over them. You have to go through it to get over it. Stay strong. You will look back one day and be suprised how much has come along and how you can't even began to fathom what was so special about them. All of my exbf's(besides the current one), I have absolute no desire for them to be in my life and I look at them and wonder how I found them attractive to began with! You will get there too. Just doesn't seem like it now. Keep NC though. That's the only way out Everyone thinks that my ex will come back and if he does I really hope that I am at the point of telling him to **** off! He wont change/get help and I cant be with the person he was. I was very codependent so that's one of the reasons I struggle with out break up. We are in very LC right now. I have been "using" him as a dog sitter twice in the past two months to save me some money as I have spent most of my savings in moving expenses/buying new stuff for my apartment. Even though we don't have children he will always be in my life as we have been friends for 14 years and share a giant chunk of friends. One of my best friends is even married to his cousin. I wont have to see him often but there will be times when we will be at the same event so I am trying to keep things cordial. I cant wait for the day when everything clicks and I think WTF was I thinking!?
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