aoruk Posted August 16, 2012 Share Posted August 16, 2012 (edited) i'll try to get to the point: my partner and are back together. been on and off for two years. in that time frame, he has had an emotional affair and likely a physical affair too. in one of the times we were "broken up" he then slept with her multiple times. now we are back together, and we are trying to move forward. most of the time i am fine. i don't think about things too much. i know i have to face some of the "details" that i know. but also am seeking some catharsis for my pain at times. i don't want to discourage him because he isn't talking to her (and I trust that he isn't) and he is going to a counselor consistently. so part of me feels like i don't want to constantly talk about this all. anyway, we are going away this weekend. i've really been struggling with this because of where it is. normally a weekend away is exactly what i would want. time together. the problem: details...he has taken her to the same city we are going to and my mind is going crazy. the advice i am seeking is this: how have you in the past "taken" back or made something your's or the us again. so it doesn't belong to the other person. like the other woman or man? i will even take funny comments too. what could i do, even for myself privately to help me feel like this city is mine, this trip is mine with him. and not belong to her and him, if you know what i mean. hopefully this makes sense. any cathartic ideas you have, or funny suggestions, i could really use. thank you Edited August 16, 2012 by aoruk Link to post Share on other sites
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