Emilia Posted August 17, 2012 Posted August 17, 2012 Well, he is slammed at work and had his son last night so I didn't want to bother him. Maybe I will try and call tonight after he gets off. It is all just weird. I pretty much wrote him off last night figuring I wouldn't hear from him and then he texts this morning. Why even contact me just once a day? I just don't get it. I think for many of us that's quite normal. if you read what guys post here, they prefer not to text/call much between dates, at least not in the beginning (ie not before it gets more serious). They say that getting to know someone is what dates are for. If he is too busy to see you, that's one thing. His feeling that he wants to talk face to face rather than text is quite fair I think. How do you get to know someone through texts anyway Also, it's quite common not to contact someone daily in the initial stages.
Author startinganew777 Posted August 17, 2012 Author Posted August 17, 2012 You are right. Thanks. He e-mailed me and said sorry there hasn't been much contact but his son just started school and he had to sever the contract to build his new house after a bunch of problems so he has been stressed but said he is totally interested in me. Guess things have just been hectic. I feel better now. Thanks for your replies! 1
Eternal Sunshine Posted August 17, 2012 Posted August 17, 2012 There are ways to play tricks with profiles. Once this guy told me how he has disabled his profile because I am so special It looked like he did and I even logged in with another user name to check. A while later I found out that the moment he disabled his original profile, he opened up a new one under new user name. That's quite common among online "cheaters"
Author startinganew777 Posted August 17, 2012 Author Posted August 17, 2012 Well, I am not too worried about the profile thing. I don't think that is the issue. The poor guy got divorced because his ex wife cheated on him with his best friend so I doubt he would cheat or talk to other people. I was just curious if he was even still interested in me. Not if he was talking to anyone else. If he is, I will find that out in time I guess.
Author startinganew777 Posted August 24, 2012 Author Posted August 24, 2012 Ok, a little peeved. This guy is still sending major mixed signals. I sent him an e-mail saying I was moving on because a couple word texts every couple days just wasn't doing it for me. He called me that night, said he only had like a minute to talk and told me every thing that has been going on. And I admit, it is crazy but no one is too busy to ask how someone is or whatever. He told me he does like me and cares about me and not to overthink things, that he is still here for me. That was a couple days ago. Said he would call back later that night and of course he didn't. I haven't texted or called him since that convo. We haven't seen each other in 2 weeks. He texts last night and just says sweet dreams. This morning he texts a little more and it goes like this: Him: Happy Friday Me: Thank god it is finally here! Him: Me: Have any fun plans this weekend? Him: Nope Me: Well that is too bad Him: Yeah Me: Well I would ask you out tonight but you turned me down last time LOL Him: Bahaha Then silence. That was this morning. WTF?! Why text me if you don't want to see me?! I am about to tell him to F off. I just don't know what his deal is. Why do guys do this?! Makes me never want to date again. Very discouraging. I gave him his space, kinda wrote him off and here he comes around again only to make me feel stupid.
Lamplight Posted August 24, 2012 Posted August 24, 2012 This is a player. I bet that he has another account on OKC. Guys use the excuse of being busy to avoid you. After that last text, I'd send him packing. Put your account back up and tell him you met someone else. Think I would pick a different dating site. Married men, Players and all out losers use this site.
Author startinganew777 Posted August 24, 2012 Author Posted August 24, 2012 Ohhhh, I didn't know that. I was on POF and that was real bad so didn't last on there for long but heard OKcupid was better. I did sign up on Match.com yesterday so hopefully a paid site will have better guys. Oh well, you live and learn. I am just not going to respond to him anymore. I am sure he will text me tomorrow morning to say oh I don't know, Happy Saturday or something lame like that. Wish I could block him. Grrrr!!!
Feelsgoodman Posted August 24, 2012 Posted August 24, 2012 I just figure if someone really likes you, they will try to make it a point to contact you a little more. But I don't want to scare him off either by saying anything about it. I agree. If someone like you, they will find time to call or text. It sounds like your guy guy either lost interest met someone he likes more...or is back with his ex. Why do guys do that? Really into someone one minute and then seem too busy another but won't just come out and tell you there aren't interested? Guys do this because girls usually take rejection very badly. They start asking you all sorts of "why don't you like me" type questions...Is there someone else? Don't you find me attractive? Did I do something wrong? Don't you have a good time with me? Even worse, they sometimes start to cry...it can become very awkward.
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