TooHonest123 Posted August 16, 2012 Posted August 16, 2012 Let me first state that i know that i can not take responsibility for the actions my ex takes. She has to deal with her own issues...problem is. I can not help to he worried my ex left me for another guy who was the complete opposite of me. I considered myself a good boyfriend....would clean her car in the snow, leave her love notes on her car, wait for her outside of work with hot chocolate, gave her emotional support when things went bad, was with her in her happy moments, helped her for long hours with school work, i told her how much i loved her and how beautiful she was every chance i could etc etc etc I always protected her from doing drugs and really cared for her well being, my family loved her. I was going to school but financially going through a hard time...since all my money was going to my education. She left me for a guy that deals drugs, has a court record for breaking and entering, got an associates degree and stopped going to school, lives in his parents house still, he is big and muscular, and he is from her same country. she never introduced me to her family because of my ethnicity.. A part of me is happy that she is dating this guy because i feel she will learn her lesson...but an even bigger part of me is very very worried that her being around that atmosphere will eventually expose her to trying drugs...her new boyfriends ex girlfriend ended up with drug problems and an alcoholic. I am so worried for her health/safety...and it sucks to know that she loved him instead of me....but if that is the kind of person she fell in love with..it will only bring her more pain in the future of their relationship
Abystarswoman Posted August 16, 2012 Posted August 16, 2012 First of all, I'm sorry that you're still feeling hurt over this. I've been through your situation before and it sucks, most definitely. With that said, I think you just need to stay out of the picture - for your OWN sake, not hers. If this situation she's in is as toxic as you say, it will serve no purpose for you to get involved, just so you can display "knight in shining armor" characteristics. She left YOU - you need to look out for yourself and your healing. I'm sure that she already knows she's made an error in judgment - but that's not on you to fix. She's a big girl - she can look out for herself, and if she doesn't have the knowledge or maturity to realize that she's in a bad situation, well.... She'll never learn from her mistakes if she doesn't experience them first-hand.
Tyler. Posted August 16, 2012 Posted August 16, 2012 You're being TOO nice of a person. She makes her own choices, so let her. She knows that he is not as good a person as you, and she chose to go with him. So **** it, move on. Something bad might happen to her but you can't do anything about it. Let her make her own decisions and she'll make mistakes, that's what growing up (mentally maturing) is. She won't understand untill she sees it for herself, telling her or protecting her won't make a difference. And you're exes, you loved her but she didn't love you as much as you loved her. So you should find someone that is mentally mature and loving to you, someone who shares your feelings. Everyone has their own life dude, don't worry about others too much, they make their own choices. You worry about YOUR life, that's the primary concern. Do what makes you happy, you're not her guardian, nor does she deserve you after leaving you. No matter how much you worry, life goes on. So while you're trying to fix other peoples lives, you may end up disregarding yours. All the best.
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