diddleum Posted August 16, 2012 Posted August 16, 2012 I met a fantastic girl 5 weeks ago, beautiful, kind, caring, sweet, thoughtful. Im 30 and she is 24. So in that time we have broken up and got back together (usually the same day) about 3 times now. Weve had a few more arguments on top of that as well. We either have the most perfect day, and I mean a date/day that dreams are made of... or one of us gets insecure/doubtfall (usually me) and all of a sudden calls it off only to regret it a few hours later. I look at her and I melt, she is so beautiful, I get a lump in my throat. We go out for dinner and hold hands and kiss over the table. Weve told each other we love one another. Now usually id agree that if it isnt working this early on then perhaps we should save each other the heart ache and give up. However there is more to consider. I suffer from Bipolar and my moods are always all over the place, usually I can control them, but because feelings are so strong towards this girl Im having difficulty. Im getting to know her and theres uncertaintly there, which makes me worse. It happens with most relationships I have, and settles down in time normally. I get obsessional. She has a nasty past, being used and cheated on by ex boyfriends. She has also been sexually abused and has no/little confidence in sex. Sex also hurts her, most of my frustrations have been around the sex issue. I know alot of her concerns stem from that as well. When I break up with her I feel terrible and want her back, it doesnt feel the right thing to do. Is the situation above enough to warrant us to keep trying. Do relationships ever have ups and downs like this and then end up happy?
Author diddleum Posted August 16, 2012 Author Posted August 16, 2012 I guess sex will get better in time, with trust and confidence. I guess im scared of falling further for her and then having doubts further down the line about being satisfied sexually...
veggirl Posted August 16, 2012 Posted August 16, 2012 I guess sex will get better in time, with trust and confidence. I guess im scared of falling further for her and then having doubts further down the line about being satisfied sexually... Uhh. I would definitely not be assuming that. This R sounds miserable. First of all, why are you guys moving so fast? ILY after a month is too soon, you are still getting to know one another. Breaking up THREE TIMES in 5 weeks?! You guys sound like high schoolers, sorry. This sounds like a very immature, dramatic relationship. What a headache. Are you on meds for your bipolar? I wouldn't bother with this. Is a stressful high/low R what you want? What makes you think it would calm down at some point? You are already exclusive and saying ILY, what more security is there going to be? I mean you've already got the "security" most people want from a R and you are both still freaking out and breaking up.
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