confusedx10 Posted August 16, 2012 Posted August 16, 2012 i love my ex boyfriend so much. The quote if you truly love someone youll set them free and if they return later you were meant to be. You cant keep someone in a relationship if they dont want to. people break up for so many reasons. distance, because they love the other and dont want to hurt them, they cant commit, timing, they dont get along. Some relationships end because they were just something to do. itll be hard to get over a relationship and not have someone there for you constantly. But if it was love then no contact is the way to go. it isnt no contact forever, just for both of you to figure out how you feel. after a break up emotions are high. you might think you love someone and then someone better comes along, YOU DONT KNOW! There isnt any right or wrong answer. But i think space can be good. Dont get me wrong, it is hard as hell. I am going through it and it so hard. I want to call him but i dont because i love him. He needs space. Keep living your life and maybe someone else will come along. Dont wait but dont close the door. Contact your ex after some time, i dont mean a week. I am saying a couple months or a year or maybe more. You can still have feelings but you have to be able to accept your breakup. I love my ex so much and all i want is for him to be happy. It'll hurt me but love is beyond pain and if he is happy then ill be happy. I know thats cliche but its true. My ex and I broke up because of distance, ya we couldve stayed together but breaking up was realistic and we didnt want to hurt each other more by staying in a relationship and not seeing each other. I mean across the country long distance. Yes, i am struggling like all of you but i love him. i respect him and am thankful for everything he has done for me. i still cry and get mad but ultimately i cannot do anything. I am giving him a few months and then im going to contact him as a friend. we are going to talk, not about us but what we've been up to, thats the plan at least. It was mutual but he is going to stick to our break up. i would've caved. so he dumped me. i am still going to fight in time. Time makes you understand and cope. Everything will work out and whats meant to be will be. fate will get me through. yes all cases aren't like this. they aren't so black and white. some relationships are one way and will always be one way. i am so sorry for you if thats what you are coping with. but there is someone out there for you. maybe your ex is your true love who you wont get over but there are other people. your love might not be the same but you'll still be happy with someone else. Cope and cry, its all part of the long terrible process. You cant let go before you are ready. No contact, as hard as it is, is usually the start. You will be happy again. I don't think you should shut the door but also don't wallow. If your ex decides to come back, then and only THEN you can weigh your options; was all this pain worth it and can you forgive. GOOD LUCK i am doing pretty well right now and i am trying to accept what happened. i have bad days too but having support really helps. we'll all be happy again someday. 2
Hornachero Posted August 16, 2012 Posted August 16, 2012 Hi Confusedx10 I love your post! It is sooooo optimistic and full of hope! Yes! WE DON'T KNOW. Someone better might come along any minute, any day and all of the pain we have been through would be a blessing in disguise! I am a true believer that good things come to us when we get out in the world and ready ourselves for the countless opportunities that are always out there. We just need to keep living, and trying, and hoping, until the right person comes along. It might not be easy, it may not happen before another BU or two but we owe it to ourselves to keep looking for it!
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