my ex texted me!

August 16, 2012

so me and my ex have had lc since we broke up with was saturday night, if i text him he will reply. anyway last night at 11pm he texted "what's up? X" just wondering i should reply or not? i want him back badly so i don't want him to think that i'm not interested! then at 12.30am

he put on facebook 'Ok.... So now i'm beginning to feel like **** constantly... only took a few days'

he probably means because i screwed him over but idk, but does it mean he misses me by the facebook post? idk

August 16, 2012

i need to know the whole story and its up to you whether to respond or not... just think long and hard about whether you actually want him back or if you are guilty and bored

August 16, 2012

i need to know the whole story and its up to you whether to respond or not... just think long and hard about whether you actually want him back or if you are guilty and bored

http://www.loveshack.org/forums/breaking-up-reconciliation-coping/second-chances/340603-i-pretending-someone-else full story there

yes i want him back soo much! but i don't know if he's texting to reconsile or not

August 16, 2012

first off Congrats lol (still waiting on my ex to do that haha)

but hey THINK though before you reply!!! Take your time. it can wait couple more of hours. yes i know you want him but dont come off Skippy and over joyed right off the bat. that might send him back running. dont over think what his status means (yeah we women tend to do that. just our nature) but before you send him anything make sure it doesn't come off desperate. ive made that mistake couple of times in the past. BE CLASSY when/if you do reply. keep it short and sweet. dont expect to much out this though so you wont set yourself for failure and go back into crying mode. good luck!

August 16, 2012

first off Congrats lol (still waiting on my ex to do that haha)

but hey THINK though before you reply!!! Take your time. it can wait couple more of hours. yes i know you want him but dont come off Skippy and over joyed right off the bat. that might send him back running. dont over think what his status means (yeah we women tend to do that. just our nature) but before you send him anything make sure it doesn't come off desperate. ive made that mistake couple of times in the past. BE CLASSY when/if you do reply. keep it short and sweet. dont expect to much out this though so you wont set yourself for failure and go back into crying mode. good luck!

haha, guess i should be lucky that he still texts me :/

all this time i've wanted to talk to him and now i don't have a clue what to say.. hmm.. he just said to my friend 'yeah i am ok it's just dawning on me now what's happening so i'm starting 2 feel like wot sandra was feeling like few days ago x' what does that mean?

ahhh i hate breakups!

August 16, 2012

haha, guess i should be lucky that he still texts me :/
all this time i've wanted to talk to him and now i don't have a clue what to say.. hmm.. he just said to my friend 'yeah i am ok it's just dawning on me now what's happening so i'm starting 2 feel like wot sandra was feeling like few days ago x' what does that mean?

ahhh i hate breakups!

not sure and dont wanna give u the wrong idea as im clueless in this department myself (as im still going through my healing process) BUT maybe hes starting to feel the pain of the BU? you never know. like i said take it slow and let him do all the gut spilling of more details on how he feels. dont assume. play it cool and be nice just as if u guys just met and it was a new friendship/relationship.

haha and yes you are very lucky i guess. tbh i so want my ex to hmu out of the blue.

P.s. Keep up posted on this "new chapter" if all works out lol

August 16, 2012

not sure and dont wanna give u the wrong idea as im clueless in this department myself (as im still going through my healing process) BUT maybe hes starting to feel the pain of the BU? you never know. like i said take it slow and let him do all the gut spilling of more details on how he feels. dont assume. play it cool and be nice just as if u guys just met and it was a new friendship/relationship.

haha and yes you are very lucky i guess. tbh i so want my ex to hmu out of the blue.

P.s. Keep up posted on this "new chapter" if all works out lol

though i don't know if he's saying lets be friends as his way of softening the blow. but he's said he's saying it so in time we could get back together.

blah, thank you. i hope it does! i hope i can come back on here in a few months and write about how we are the happiest couple alive

......

well i can dream right? haha

August 16, 2012

though i don't know if he's saying lets be friends as his way of softening the blow. but he's said he's saying it so in time we could get back together.
blah, thank you. i hope it does! i hope i can come back on here in a few months and write about how we are the happiest couple alive
......
well i can dream right? haha

Good luck! I am in the same boat so I am none the wiser, but from reading the threads there seem to be at least 4 reasons why exs text with seemingly provocative or mixed messages

Even if they don't like you they still have a void that needs to be filled - they might still miss you on a level - texting you gives them some sort of relief.
They're trying to allay some deap-seated guilt
They genuinely miss you and want to reach out
They want you to be friends/try to keep you as a 'back-up' in case whatever rebound they're on doesn't work out.

As one of my friends advised me, talk is cheap! So tread very carefully and watch his moves. I agree with SoConfusedAndInShock, think before you reply and start low go slow!

Good luck!!!!!!!!

August 16, 2012

though i don't know if he's saying lets be friends as his way of softening the blow. but he's said he's saying it so in time we could get back together.
blah, thank you. i hope it does! i hope i can come back on here in a few months and write about how we are the happiest couple alive
......
well i can dream right? haha

“To accomplish great things, we must not only act, but also dream; not only plan, but also believe.” – Anatole France

to answer your question yes dream big it wont kill you. im a big dreamer myself lol also, if all goes well (which i really hope it does for you) please come back with good news for once on this site haha it will prob cheer up many souls

August 16, 2012

Good luck! I am in the same boat so I am none the wiser, but from reading the threads there seem to be at least 4 reasons why exs text with seemingly provocative or mixed messages

Even if they don't like you they still have a void that needs to be filled - they might still miss you on a level - texting you gives them some sort of relief.
They're trying to allay some deap-seated guilt
They genuinely miss you and want to reach out
They want you to be friends/try to keep you as a 'back-up' in case whatever rebound they're on doesn't work out.
As one of my friends advised me, talk is cheap! So tread very carefully and watch his moves. I agree with SoConfusedAndInShock, think before you reply and start low go slow!

Good luck!!!!!!!!

thank you, i know for a fact my ex will not be on any rebound as he can't get his head around what's happened and he's said that is the last thing that's on his mind. even though i have a 1% chance of getting him back i won't give up hope

August 16, 2012

Don't give up. We're all pining for some good news on this site!!

August 16, 2012

ok i give up haha.

he just told my friend "it's probably best we don't text alot.. make it easier"

i now officially have lost any hope of getting this guy back and i'm going to start the moving on process

August 16, 2012

Oh I am sorry to hear! It's closure nonetheless...

I feel like I am in this limbo...

August 16, 2012

first off y is he texting your friend and not you directly? uhm weird...

idc if its a common friend or w.e unless hes asking her/him (ur friend) for help to get back with you i dont like this going back and fourth with txt msgs of nonsense and your friend should set that straight with him. your feeling are on the line and he should know it. but wither way im sorry i really hope all works out for you two.

August 16, 2012

first off y is he texting your friend and not you directly? uhm weird...
idc if its a common friend or w.e unless hes asking her/him (ur friend) for help to get back with you i dont like this going back and fourth with txt msgs of nonsense and your friend should set that straight with him. your feeling are on the line and he should know it. but wither way im sorry i really hope all works out for you two.

the friend he is talking to is a really close friend of mine who is gay

maybe it gives him comfort or something?

my friend:

i'm not saying go into a relationship with her i'm just saying trust can be repaired obviously it will take a while but it is possible x

my ex:

yea, it can be, i'd be an idiot if i said trust cannot be repaired but certainly not anytime soon as much as it hurts me 2 say it x

my friend:

why would you be an idiot? x

my ex

if i said that trust cant b repaired, it's like saying that a fat man can't get thin, it's all possible lol x

urmm.. wut does that mean?

August 16, 2012

the friend he is talking to is a really close friend of mine who is gay
maybe it gives him comfort or something?

my friend:
i'm not saying go into a relationship with her i'm just saying trust can be repaired obviously it will take a while but it is possible x

my ex:
yea, it can be, i'd be an idiot if i said trust cannot be repaired but certainly not anytime soon as much as it hurts me 2 say it x

my friend:
why would you be an idiot? x

my ex
if i said that trust cant b repaired, it's like saying that a fat man can't get thin, it's all possible lol x

urmm.. wut does that mean?

idk honestly but he sounds like hes hesitant to try or scared it might even work out if he actually tried...ur friend should seriously tell this guy to talk to YOU on this matter like a mature person. like i said its never good to assume only he knows what he wants and needs to make it clear or leave you alone

August 16, 2012

just want to do an update to anyone who may read this.

my ex said to me "until i can trust you i cannot be with you"

so i said "how can i regain it if you won't give me the chance"

he says "you can regain it out of a relationship"

so now what i really need to know is how do i regain his trust? i don't think he wants to meet up with me so that's a no go. though i will be asking him in a few days if he wants to go away with me on the 25th of this month - something we had planned the day before we broke up. but i think he'll say no.

what can i do to win back his trust? nothing stalkerish or crazy type but i seriously need to win back his trust. i don't care if it looks like i'm being obsessive. i love this guy and i would move mountains to try and make it work

August 16, 2012

idk honestly but he sounds like hes hesitant to try or scared it might even work out if he actually tried...ur friend should seriously tell this guy to talk to YOU on this matter like a mature person. like i said its never good to assume only he knows what he wants and needs to make it clear or leave you alone

just replied on a separate post in the same thread

August 16, 2012

just want to do an update to anyone who may read this.
my ex said to me "until i can trust you i cannot be with you"
so i said "how can i regain it if you won't give me the chance"
he says "you can regain it out of a relationship"

so now what i really need to know is how do i regain his trust? i don't think he wants to meet up with me so that's a no go. though i will be asking him in a few days if he wants to go away with me on the 25th of this month - something we had planned the day before we broke up. but i think he'll say no.

what can i do to win back his trust? nothing stalkerish or crazy type but i seriously need to win back his trust. i don't care if it looks like i'm being obsessive. i love this guy and i would move mountains to try and make it work

Honestly if he is truly giving you a chance, as it seems here, YOU just need to be real! and what i mean by that is BE the girl he first met at the beginning of your relationship, think of this as a clean slate. stop asking and asking yourself how do i do this and how do i prove this and that to him. So be the girl he fell in love with. think as if you just met and please DONT MAKE THE SAME MISTAKE TWICE!!! this is your chance to make it or beak it so take it slow dont rush things on him as you'll set him back running. If you have to apologize to clear some tensions be sincere about and do so && MEAN IT!! all you can do is be you. put the past to rest and play on a new game plan. thats just my opinion but take the time to do what YOU think is right. lol

best of luck darling!!

August 16, 2012

Honestly if he is truly giving you a chance, as it seems here, YOU just need to be real! and what i mean by that is BE the girl he first met at the beginning of your relationship, think of this as a clean slate. stop asking and asking yourself how do i do this and how do i prove this and that to him. So be the girl he fell in love with. think as if you just met and please DONT MAKE THE SAME MISTAKE TWICE!!! this is your chance to make it or beak it so take it slow dont rush things on him as you'll set him back running. If you have to apologize to clear some tensions be sincere about and do so && MEAN IT!! all you can do is be you. put the past to rest and play on a new game plan. thats just my opinion but take the time to do what YOU think is right. lol

best of luck darling!!

i don't really know what he wants, trust me i will not be making this mistake ever. i really hope that what you say is the same as what he is saying lol x

hate having to second guess everything or jumping the gun because i thought it meant more or something

Edited August 16, 2012 by lingardx

August 16, 2012

i don't really know what he wants, trust me i will not be making this mistake ever. i really hope that what you say is the same as what he is saying lol x

hate having to second guess everything or jumping the gun because i thought it meant more or something

thats y i keep telling you its never good to assume. dont ask me what he means because we both dont know. only he and God know for sure what the heck he really means unless he comes out tell you straight up haha. but what you're doing now is good be nice and classy every time u reply. let him take the lead and YOU do what you think it RIGHT and appropriate

August 16, 2012

instead of tryign to interpret vague facebook posts, you should just block him. that way you don't spend hours trying to figure out what he means by "i just really wanted peanut butter" and how it relates to you.

August 16, 2012

instead of tryign to interpret vague facebook posts, you should just block him. that way you don't spend hours trying to figure out what he means by "i just really wanted peanut butter" and how it relates to you.

i don't have him on facebook. it's my friend telling me stuff that she thinks might be relevant

August 16, 2012

i don't have him on facebook. it's my friend telling me stuff that she thinks might be relevant

that's not any better. you're still facebook stalking if someone is reporting info to you. you're never going to move past this if you keep living in this black hole of your breakup.

August 17, 2012

thats y i keep telling you its never good to assume. dont ask me what he means because we both dont know. only he and God know for sure what the heck he really means unless he comes out tell you straight up haha. but what you're doing now is good be nice and classy every time u reply. let him take the lead and YOU do what you think it RIGHT and appropriate

he's agreed to meet me on monday, is this a good sign? or has he put me in the friend zone for good?

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