Bart_Weisser Posted July 19, 2004 Posted July 19, 2004 Howdy: Man, I know this is hard. But here is what I think. She's on a rebound and you're right there for it. Whether she gets back with her ex or not, your relationship with her will not last. Call it off before she does and it saves you the pain. Given the way she talks to her ex. Chances are she will get back to him. If you want to keep this relationship (and I know you want to, despite the warning), you have to put your foot down and make a stand. My GF was considering a change of heart very early on in our relationship. I basically told her, that the choice was hers. But if she chooses the other guy, I would cut her off completely (i.e., I would not take her back if they broke up). To my surprise it worked like a charm, because she knows that her decision is irrevisible and therefore will think twice before jumping boat. We are still very happy together. Was I afraid of losing her because of this. Absolutely. But also understand that, should she left me, we were not meant to be in the first place. But, going back to the original topic. I don't think your chances with her are very high, given your description of circumstances. I encourage you to try out that little experiment (about putting your foot down). If it works, my kudos to you! If it doesn't, you know why and don't worry about it. BW.
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