ladylove92 Posted August 15, 2012 Posted August 15, 2012 My boyfriend and I have been dating for almost two years now. We go to college together so we spent pretty much everyday if not every night together for the last year and a half. This summer he took a job in San Jose, and I live in Los Angeles so were in a long distance relationship. I miss him dearly. In the beginning, we would talk or text multiple times a day and talk on the phone almost every night, and he was the one who would always call. When it came to texting, it was pretty equal on both parts but again, Im kind of old fashioned and believe the guy should contact the girl. I also dont want him to think Im smothering him during our time apart so I give him lots of space. Im a pretty relaxed girlfriend, although I can get jealous but I try to hide that--sometimes he likes it when I express my jealousy though and I like it when he does too. I went up to visit him and his family who lives up north for fourth of July weekend, and I drove up to san jose to see him a few weeks ago. Both visits were amazing, we were so happy to see each other and the passion was electric, like how it was when we first started dating. But now, just for the past couple of days, he hasnt been getting in contact with me as much..nothing has changed that I know of but I also have no idea what hes up to besides work. Hes not the one to cheat but Im afraid hes lost interest or something...We had planned for me to visit him again in a couple weeks but just the other day he remembered its his moms birthday that weekend and so we havent figured out another time to see eachother...he hasnt called me for almost two weeks and texts are dwindling to once a day or not at all in a day...has anyone had a similar experience or could give me some advice on what to do? Ive stopped initiating contact and he texted me once or twice but I try not to respond for a while because people have been telling me guys like the chase...even though we've been together for so long..can anyone help me? Its really starting to upset me...I care for him so much and his lack of communication is only making me miss him and think about him more...
january2011 Posted August 15, 2012 Posted August 15, 2012 I'd catch up with him on Skype and find out what's keeping him busy at his end. Mention that you've noticed the frequency in contact has gone down. It may be loss of interest, but it may also be that he feels more secure about the relationship and therefore he doesn't feel the need to contact you so often to maintain the emotional bond. Since you need more frequent contact, you need to tell him. He is not a mindreader. 1
confusedx10 Posted August 16, 2012 Posted August 16, 2012 I was in this exact situation and i handled it wrong.. I contacted him and asked him what was wrong. I kept calling and texting him. It pissed my ex off so badly... Nothing was wrong, he just needed some space and we were good so he felt comfortable not talking as much. I usually am pretty laid back but I tried a different approach this time and it failed. I would call him once and see if he picks up, if not leave a voicemail or text him. Just say youre thinking about him and miss him. Wait for him to respond. Dont freak out, im sure hes just busy. Hes thinking about you and he doesnt feel the need to talk every second because you guys are doing well. good luck 1
Author ladylove92 Posted August 16, 2012 Author Posted August 16, 2012 Thank you so much. I think thats the best decision because we were so great just a few days ago...Youve made me feel a lot better haha
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