zanesfan Posted August 15, 2012 Posted August 15, 2012 Is it true that men would rather marry a women that is conservative vs a woman that is overly sexual? I was reading this blog that says men dont want to bring home a woman that is into 3somes and golden showers. But instead tend to seek out a girl next door type of woman. Is this typically true? I would think that a man would enjoy being with a woman who was willing to try new things vs a woman who was a prude in a sense.
ThaWholigan Posted August 15, 2012 Posted August 15, 2012 Probably a stereotypical belief that an overly sexual woman is more likely to cheat or somehow has demeaned herself. You just have to find a man who has a different view on female sexuality, and facilitate your expression. They exist, and I know some. I even know someone who married a prostitute - and is still with her. 1
Million.to.1 Posted August 15, 2012 Posted August 15, 2012 I think many men don't like the idea of other men having what is "theirs". Woman who are highly sexual have often had a few partners. Even if completely faithful in relationships, the idea of their woman being with others or into kinky things emasculates them. This is really only true of immature men who are insecure within themselves or have out of date ideas on a womans role in their life. 3
pteromom Posted August 15, 2012 Posted August 15, 2012 Is it true that men would rather marry a women that is conservative vs a woman that is overly sexual? I was reading this blog that says men dont want to bring home a woman that is into 3somes and golden showers. But instead tend to seek out a girl next door type of woman. Is this typically true? I would think that a man would enjoy being with a woman who was willing to try new things vs a woman who was a prude in a sense. I think it depends on the man and what his priorities and values are. There's someone for everyone! 1
ThaWholigan Posted August 15, 2012 Posted August 15, 2012 I think it depends on the man and what his priorities and values are. There's someone for everyone! Basically. 1
Woggle Posted August 15, 2012 Posted August 15, 2012 Some men have a misguided belief that sexual women are more likely to cheat.
FitChick Posted August 15, 2012 Posted August 15, 2012 I think it depends on the man and what his priorities and values are. There's someone for everyone! One reason Paul McCartney married his first wife, Linda, was because "she was a bit of a raver" well known for screwing the rock stars of the day while she was photographing them. Many men want to marry a woman like that and keep her sex drive all to themselves.
yongyong Posted August 15, 2012 Posted August 15, 2012 Men want their woman to be a whore on the bed at night but they want them Behave during the day.
MrCastle Posted August 15, 2012 Posted August 15, 2012 Uhh well, surely there is a medium between being a prude and "golden showers". I don't mind an active sex drive in the sense of, wanting to have plenty of sex. I don't mind some experimenting here or there, but gangbangs, letting someone else bang her while I watch, bathroom stuff, pain stuff, I'm not marrying someone who needs that kind of stuff to get them off. A lady in the street and a freak in the bed. But not too freaky. That's what I want 4
The Way I Am Posted August 15, 2012 Posted August 15, 2012 Is it true that men would rather marry a women that is conservative vs a woman that is overly sexual? I was reading this blog that says men dont want to bring home a woman that is into 3somes and golden showers. But instead tend to seek out a girl next door type of woman. Is this typically true? I would think that a man would enjoy being with a woman who was willing to try new things vs a woman who was a prude in a sense. Are you suggesting women who aren't into threesomes and golden showers are prudes? That can't be what you're saying right...
ThaWholigan Posted August 15, 2012 Posted August 15, 2012 Uhh well, surely there is a medium between being a prude and "golden showers". I don't mind an active sex drive in the sense of, wanting to have plenty of sex. I don't mind some experimenting here or there, but gangbangs, letting someone else bang her while I watch, bathroom stuff, pain stuff, I'm not marrying someone who needs that kind of stuff to get them off. A lady in the street and a freak in the bed. But not too freaky. That's what I want I kinda agree - although I've had sex with a girl who has had a few before. I'm not really discriminatory personally, but likely it will be a little difficult to find a man who doesn't mind. They are out there though really. I would like to find a nice medium.
RiverRunning Posted August 15, 2012 Posted August 15, 2012 Eh, out of the gate when he's looking for a more serious relationship, he's probably not going to be as into the woman dressing provocatively or kinking up the place during the first few dates. Men do tend to go more for women who, at least outwardly, look like the type of woman to show off for mom (and if she can act cordial and polite out in public, it's even better). As a wise man once said..."we want a lady in the street, but a freak in the bed."
Author zanesfan Posted August 15, 2012 Author Posted August 15, 2012 I agree with everyone. About 10 years ago I was dating this man 7 years older than me. I wanted to surprise him with a 3some for his bday (Im not into women and never have been). I just wanted to give me that fantasy. He declined. Reason being he didnt want someone that he loved to do that. Fast forward 10 years later (present).... I meet this guy and after 7 months of casual sex (and someone I fell for) he wanted to introduce me to 3somes, psychedelic sex, and wanted to cum inside me. Ive never done 3some or drugs but I was down for 2 out of 3 (not drugs). In this case I figured this guy wanted the experience and wanted to be the first guy to pop my cherry in these areas. Now Im curious as to whether I need to tone it down a notch.. 1
sweetheart5381 Posted August 15, 2012 Posted August 15, 2012 Are you suggesting women who aren't into threesomes and golden showers are prudes? That can't be what you're saying right... Ya, I'm a freak in the sheets, love anal, am bisexual, into BDSM but golden showers are off limits for me! Just a personal choice --- like sexuality. Truly I think it is a balance of tolerance and understanding of your partner. As a couple "Know your limit, play within it". 2
Garfish Posted August 15, 2012 Posted August 15, 2012 It's not so simple as just labeling these men as "insecure" or "immature". That sounds too much like a feminist guilt trip. When looking for a long term partner, a guy wants a woman with whom love making will feel special, like it is "theirs". If the whole football team and the waterboy already went there, that doesn't make him feel very special. It kind of suggests that the girl may have poor judgement or low self esteem or even an alcohol problem. But then you have the guys who are paranoid about a woman's normal sex life, like 4 or 5 partners, well they probably are just insecure. In a short term partner, the guy probably doesn't care because he knows he's lucky just to get some. The main thing is, everybody has a right to choose what's best for them as an individual. Shaming and guilt trips aren't helping the situation any. 1
Author zanesfan Posted August 15, 2012 Author Posted August 15, 2012 Are you suggesting women who aren't into threesomes and golden showers are prudes? That can't be what you're saying right... No, that;s not what I mean. My definition of a prude is a woman who isnt willing to try certain things, a woman who doesnt pleasure herself, a woman who thinks sucking d*ck is bad, a woman who thinks that more than 2 sex partners is being labeled a hoe. I dont consider myself a prude or an all out freak. But Im not the average woman either (I dont guess anyway) lol. 2
ThaWholigan Posted August 15, 2012 Posted August 15, 2012 It's not so simple as just labeling these men as "insecure" or "immature". That sounds too much like a feminist guilt trip. When looking for a long term partner, a guy wants a woman with whom love making will feel special, like it is "theirs". If the whole football team and the waterboy already went there, that doesn't make him feel very special. It kind of suggests that the girl may have poor judgement or low self esteem or even an alcohol problem. But then you have the guys who are paranoid about a woman's normal sex life, like 4 or 5 partners, well they probably are just insecure. In a short term partner, the guy probably doesn't care because he knows he's lucky just to get some. The main thing is, everybody has a right to choose what's best for them as an individual. Shaming and guilt trips aren't helping the situation any. I think you have a good point, I don't think people should shame men who aren't interested in a woman with a large number of partners and some extreme sexual behavior. However, I think that the reverse should apply to an extent - as long as she isn't a cheater, has super low self-esteem or abuse/drugs etc, I don't think it's a massive problem. Some girls are just really super sexual, and they might be very loyal partners. I get your point, but I don't think all men have the same view. 2
snug.bunny Posted August 15, 2012 Posted August 15, 2012 Is it true that men would rather marry a women that is conservative vs a woman that is overly sexual? I was reading this blog that says men dont want to bring home a woman that is into 3somes and golden showers. But instead tend to seek out a girl next door type of woman. Is this typically true? I would think that a man would enjoy being with a woman who was willing to try new things vs a woman who was a prude in a sense. I'm kinda in the same boat, except I am a female. It's best to just not think about it/their past. 1
Garfish Posted August 15, 2012 Posted August 15, 2012 I think you have a good point, I don't think people should shame men who aren't interested in a woman with a large number of partners and some extreme sexual behavior. However, I think that the reverse should apply to an extent - as long as she isn't a cheater, has super low self-esteem or abuse/drugs etc, I don't think it's a massive problem. Some girls are just really super sexual, and they might be very loyal partners. I get your point, but I don't think all men have the same view. Sorry if I implied that; it's not what I meant. It's true a lot of guys don't care. I think it has to do more with up bringing and experience than general insecurity. For example guys who were from traditional Catholic or Muslim families (but not all of them), or guys who spent some years of their youth "saving" themselves (I know, what a crock), or guys who just have a low number of partners. Yes it does work both ways, but less often. I do hear women complain/worry about this, it's just generally a bit less important to women over all. 1
todreaminblue Posted August 15, 2012 Posted August 15, 2012 Is it true that men would rather marry a women that is conservative vs a woman that is overly sexual? I was reading this blog that says men dont want to bring home a woman that is into 3somes and golden showers. But instead tend to seek out a girl next door type of woman. Is this typically true? I would think that a man would enjoy being with a woman who was willing to try new things vs a woman who was a prude in a sense. Guys do tend to go for women who are more sexually staid than overly sexual but that is understandable in a dating realm.As far as getting into a relationship with someone I think boundaries are formed in any new relationship and it is easy enough for a woman to see what that partner does or doesnt like and not participate in those activities and again that depends what the relationship is based on if it is sex then its sex if it mutual respect and understanding and genuine affection then i dont think this would be an issue.What someone does in their past isnt necessarily what they want their future to be unless they say so.A sexual history doesnt make a girl a cheat and that should be on both sides.....a guy who has never had a girlfriend or few relationships is the one who might be looking over greener grass.......have found this to be true....deb
sweetheart5381 Posted August 15, 2012 Posted August 15, 2012 I think you have a good point, I don't think people should shame men who aren't interested in a woman with a large number of partners and some extreme sexual behavior. However, I think that the reverse should apply to an extent - as long as she isn't a cheater, has super low self-esteem or abuse/drugs etc, I don't think it's a massive problem. Some girls are just really super sexual, and they might be very loyal partners. I get your point, but I don't think all men have the same view. I agree. I am always open and upfront with men about what they like, don't like, etc. If it will be a problem with them I want to know right away. Sexuality is individual, however in a relationship it will require some compromise. Sexuality is shared in a partnership, give and take... if 2 people aren't on the same page sexually, that's ok.. but the bedroom events will suffer eventually for both if they aren't honest in what they both want. If a man doesn't want you because you are "too wild" no worries, another surely will if they are of the same mind 2
Author zanesfan Posted August 15, 2012 Author Posted August 15, 2012 Personally I would prefer someone on the same page as me sexually or even better: a man that can bring this freak out. After finding a man that liked what I liked or even was willing to try what I liked was a turn on. However I started talking to this 32 year old man who didnt really fancy eating pie, never considered a 3some, never tried sex outside of home, didnt want a woman to ride, never let a girl ride his face, never wanted/tried anal, etc.... I knew instantly we would never work. He was great in every area but sex. Tsk tsk... And it wasnt that he never had these things happen; he didnt seem interested in wanting it.
mysteryscape Posted August 16, 2012 Posted August 16, 2012 Many or most men want to marry women who are not too overtly sexual -- except with them -- because they don't want someone who is likely to be unfaithful. A female clinical psychologist told me that she thinks deep down, most men would like a virgin! This was her considered opinion after many years of practice with both male and female patients/clients. Of course, this is impossible, because most men, when they have decided it's time to settle down to their pure little wifey, have spent years trying to insure that there's no such thing!
El Brujo Posted August 16, 2012 Posted August 16, 2012 There's someone for everyone! No there isn't. That's why Realdolls and the Aiko-bot were invented.
Later82012 Posted August 16, 2012 Posted August 16, 2012 Is it true that men would rather marry a women that is conservative vs a woman that is overly sexual? I was reading this blog that says men dont want to bring home a woman that is into 3somes and golden showers. But instead tend to seek out a girl next door type of woman. Is this typically true? I would think that a man would enjoy being with a woman who was willing to try new things vs a woman who was a prude in a sense. I would be careful marrying a woman that could have sex with multiple men or go naked before multiple men at the same time. I would never marry a woman that would let people pee on her. I can't comment on whether the multiplesomes are right or wrong but the second kind are definitely not for me.
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