maysj18 Posted August 15, 2012 Posted August 15, 2012 I just want to make a post to those of these races who feel inferior to the other races when it comes to dating. I know many girls who go mostly for those races. I certainly do! You all are so much better looking than most Americans.. my friends always joke and say that unless a guy looks like he's a member of the Taliban, I won't be interested. Lol, so yeah..I just wanted to throw all this out there because there are a lot of posts talking about it!
kaylan Posted August 15, 2012 Posted August 15, 2012 Its really just the same two posters who stay stuck on their race and them being brown. They also put white women on a ridiculous pedestal. I just stopped posted in those threads because its always the same thing. 4
irin Posted August 15, 2012 Posted August 15, 2012 Its really just the same two posters who stay stuck on their race and them being brown. They also put white women on a ridiculous pedestal. I just stopped posted in those threads because its always the same thing. ^^^this^^ i find it very off putting when they are obsessed with white women. but luckly not all of them are like that. i usually stick with them as well because i come from a similar background. except for the ones that care about my skin. mostly indian they have a thing light skin and i hate it.
irin Posted August 15, 2012 Posted August 15, 2012 Should I bring one back for you...? were are you going? lols
nessaaa Posted August 15, 2012 Posted August 15, 2012 I'm inlove with Indian ESP middle easterns.... Where I'm from (Toronto) girls drool for middle eastern guys.
ThaWholigan Posted August 16, 2012 Posted August 16, 2012 Thing is all men pedestalize White women No we don't 3
ThaWholigan Posted August 16, 2012 Posted August 16, 2012 generally, ALL MEN pedestalize white women I speak from experience traveling and associating with different cultures. Well, we'll have to agree to disagree on that one. Ironically I lost my virginity to an Indian girl - who most certainly IS a freak to the nth degree 1
O'farrell Posted August 16, 2012 Posted August 16, 2012 Never categorize indians with Middle Easterners. Ever. Indians are their own category and are much different from any other middle easterner except from certain ethnicities found in Pakistan.
Jane2011 Posted August 16, 2012 Posted August 16, 2012 Wow, this thread seems like it's going to get all kinds of crazy. I have a comment about Indian men and white women, etc., etc. I'm an Asian woman who dated an Indian guy last year in November and December. He was in an open relationship with his white girlfriend who is 5'6, blond-haired, blue eyed, but kind of 'okay'-looking. I'd say her face is about a six. Her body is slightly heavy. She's the type of person who doesn't like to work out but she tries to 'watch it' a little bit (with food); hence, she's not fat, but she's sort of soft-bodied. But she's smart and has a good personality (to him). When things fell apart because of jealousies in the open relationship, the Indian guy chose to stay with his girlfriend over me. That may or may not be because she's white. After all, he was also with her for a lot longer than he was with me. (only two months with me, while he'd been with her for two years). They may also just have a better connection in general, and it has nothing to do with race. But I tend to think he does see her as a prize because she's a white girl. He likes Asian girls a lot. In fact, I know through some common acquaintances that within the freedom of his open relationship, he seems to pursue Asian girls. He pursued me, for instance. And I know of another Asian girl he's pursued. But the one he's gonna stay with, no matter what, is the white girl. I don't think I'm prettier than every white girl. Not by a long shot. But I'm prettier than this particular white girl. And not to say that looks are the only thing that create attraction (they're most certainly not). But I just get the sense that...the guy is obsessed with the white girl. Before I ever even got together with him, a friend of mine ran into them at some event and said it looked like they had been fighting, and that you could tell, just by their body language and facial expressions, that she was the one who had the upper hand/the control in the relationship. I know her and think she's a cool girl, but at the same time, overall, she's not someone I would expect to have THAT MUCH hold over a guy. But she's white, blond haired and blue eyed. And maybe that's all it takes. I previously was with a Colombian (Hispanic) guy who admitted that he saw white women as status. He and I are just friends now, but good friends. And as such, we talk about relationships and dating a lot; he conveys to me all the time that a white girl would be a big prize to him. He's kind of odd in the sense that he doesn't ONLY like white girls. But he still makes these comments about how white girls are status. He admitted to me that he dated a heavier white girl about a year and a half ago just because she was white. He likes very thin girls, but he said "I kinda wished she were thinner, but it was nice to date a tall, white girl." Mind you, he wasn't in love. He just said he dated her 'cause it felt like status for a short while. All of this being said, I don't begrudge anyone. I think they're entitled to like who they like. But it makes me want to veer toward men who don't feel the need to have a white girl, lest they choose one over me. I just started dating a guy who's white. And I don't even like white guys "the most." I always like ethnic guys. But I almost feel like it's probably safer to date him because his being white may well mean that he doesn't feel this need to have a white girl to validate him. Some ethnic guys feel this way, I truly believe. I find it strange, because I'm ethnic, and I'd easily choose an ethnic guy over a white guy. I even prefer them. That being said, it's not like I'm using this white guy. I'm only just starting to date him, and I could easily really fall for him. I hope I do. I'm not gonna keep dating him unless I start to fall in love. Right now, it's very early. But I'm so disillusioned by the idea of Indian, Hispanic, etc. men pedestalizing white women. One other guy I want to mention...I dated about two years ago (a Hispanic guy different from the one I just mentioned). He never explicitly said he wanted a white girl. But he used to always talk about how he loved blond hair, and that it drove him crazy. Though that can come on a variety of women, most often blond hair is attached to a white woman.
mesmerized Posted August 16, 2012 Posted August 16, 2012 Not a fan of most middle eastern men, probably too familiar for me. If you want me to drool, give me a mixed (black and white) guy.
kaylan Posted August 16, 2012 Posted August 16, 2012 (edited) I am an Indian guy who has had his share of insecurities in the past. Most had to do with 1. my lack of world exposure 2. crap online I read about Indian men 3. feeling excluded that every race was liked but mines not gonna lie about white women, I love the European ones, a lot. Thing is all men pedestalize White women, Latino men do it the most but all men do it because of Hollywood constantly putting White women in the spotlight and magazines promoting them. I have interacted with women of many races and if I had a pedestal here is how it would work 1. Latinas (Colombian, Argentine, and Brazilian) 2. White women with those dark features (Italy, Spain, France to an extent, Eastern Europe, etc.) 3. Natural blondes (Scandinavia) 4. Mixed women (Asian + White) 5. Mixed women (Black + White) 6. White brunettes (USA and stuff, basically your typical white girl with pale skin and freckles and brunette hair) 7. Middle Eastern/Persian women 8. Black women 9. Indian women 10. Gingers/Redheads 11. Blondes that look like they bleached (commonly found across america, australia, and those places) I have been with plenty of women of different races, all of the ones listed, and I must say, in the end, the men posting those threads just haven't had the world exposure and are pretty much weak. I have an ethnic guy thread about an Indian male who had women messaging him endlessly on a dating site. Right now I am dating a beautiful American brunette (if you want pics, message me lol, she doesn't mind). Thanks for the sympathy I guess. This kinda obsession with race wont help you in dating. Because you will either gloss over good women due to you pedestalizing women you arent with, or women will pick up on your attitude about race and be put off by it. And its a shame you put your own women all the way towards the bottom....that says a lot. Edited August 16, 2012 by kaylan
Titanwolf Posted August 16, 2012 Posted August 16, 2012 This whole thread is just full of sweeping generalizations and fail. I regret clicking on it 2
mesmerized Posted August 16, 2012 Posted August 16, 2012 This whole thread is just full of sweeping generalizations and fail. I regret clicking on it It's hilarious how racist indian/middle eastern men are and then they complain about racism towards them. That's another reason I avoid dating them.
Lizzie60 Posted August 16, 2012 Posted August 16, 2012 I've been with many East Indian guys.. and my finding is that they were ALL a lot smaller (penis) than white men.. and white men are smaller than black men.
irin Posted August 16, 2012 Posted August 16, 2012 I can obsess with what I want really, other than Hispanic women, White women are my favorites. They actually care about you and treat you like a boyfriend, Indian and middle eastern women do not put out early and have major entitlement issues. this kinda proved a discussion i had recently with some friend. Taliban country... thats so sad. such shame, war is a disgrace to human existence, i hope you return home safe without the blood of anyone innocent on your hands.
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