Disenchantedly Yours Posted August 15, 2012 Posted August 15, 2012 (edited) not a big deal I disagree. It's a bit two faced. Like you felt the need to justify her chubbiness but to her face you tell her she is gorgeous. Integrity is a wonderful thing to have. Edited August 15, 2012 by Disenchantedly Yours
The Way I Am Posted August 15, 2012 Posted August 15, 2012 Maybe I'm a dinosaur from a different time, but you don't think it's disrespectful to hit on a woman out with her children? Why do you think people use "I did your mom last night" as the epitome of all insults? I think you are from a different time, and I don't mean that as an insult. Most guys these days toss around "I did your mom" jabs all over the place to the point where it's hardly even an insult. With the number of divorced and single parents these days, I don't think another adult flirting with your parents is unexpected or taboo. Hitting on a married woman with a kid, and then sliding her your number when she mentions her and her husband are having problems is respectful? Wow. Um. Yeah, it is. You can phrase it "sliding her your number" to make it sound more shady, but the actual action of just giving someone your number and isn't generally shady. It's not like he catcalled her or passed her a key to his hotel room. She doesn't have to do anything with the number. If a guy came up and said those things to me and offered me his number even though I was in a relationship, I wouldn't feel disrespected. Also, she didn't just say they're having problems. She said her husband cheated on her. After being disrespected by her husband, having a guy express interest probably boosted her self-esteem, which tends to take a blow when you're cheated on. Sorry, I just don't see anything disrespectful here. 1
MrCastle Posted August 15, 2012 Posted August 15, 2012 Um. Yeah, it is. You can phrase it "sliding her your number" to make it sound more shady, but the actual action of just giving someone your number and isn't generally shady. It's not like he catcalled her or passed her a key to his hotel room. She doesn't have to do anything with the number. If a guy came up and said those things to me and offered me his number even though I was in a relationship, I wouldn't feel disrespected. Also, she didn't just say they're having problems. She said her husband cheated on her. After being disrespected by her husband, having a guy express interest probably boosted her self-esteem, which tends to take a blow when you're cheated on. Sorry, I just don't see anything disrespectful here. We'll just have to agree to disagree. I find hitting on a married woman with her teenaged son in front of her is extremely sleazy and distasteful. Just my opinion It's one thing if you didn't know she was married, but once it was established, the best route, for me, is to tell her to have a nice day and move on. Not blow past that and still try to get something going by giving her my number. There are plenty of single, unmarried women with no kids you can be hitting on anyway. 2
The Way I Am Posted August 16, 2012 Posted August 16, 2012 (edited) The Way I am i think you are too focussed on the means rather than the principle. It doesn't matter if someone asks to bang your mom nicely or not, he's a stranger that wants to bang your mom, whose married to your dad and seems unphased by this fact. No, I just don't think most teenagers these days would see it as a big deal -- at least not to the point where they'd attack the guy. We'll just have to agree to disagree. I find hitting on a married woman with her teenaged son in front of her is extremely sleazy and distasteful. Just my opinion. I think some of the difference of opinion here is how we're picturing the situation. I don't picture the conversation happening with the son right in front of her. I picture the kid acting as a normal teenager would at a gas station. So he's either in the store buying something or sitting in the car texting or playing games on his phone barely paying any attention to the conversation his mom is having. Mark didn't get that specific, so I don't know which is correct. Edited August 16, 2012 by The Way I Am
MrCastle Posted August 16, 2012 Posted August 16, 2012 No, I just don't think most teenagers these days would see it as a big deal -- at least not to the point where they'd attack the guy. I think some of the difference of opinion here is how we're picturing the situation. I don't picture the conversation happening with the son right in front of her. I picture the kid acting as a normal teenager would at a gas station. So he's either in the store buying something or sitting in the car texting or playing games on his phone barely paying any attention to the conversation his mom is having. Mark didn't get that specific, so I don't know which is correct. That's not my issue with this thing. For me this plays two ways Scenario 1: I see the woman with her kid and keep on moving because I don't deal with kids Scenario 2: I say screw it, the girl is cute, I want to flex my confidence muscles and do a cold approach, let me just say hello. Me and the chick talk, I tell her she should wear her ring if she's married, she mentions her hubby cheated, I say "Wow, on a girl as pretty as you? Sorry to hear that. Anyway, have a nice day, take care" I don't give her my number, I don't ask for hers. And what kind of woman tells a complete stranger her marital affairs? Wouldn't it have been better to say "long story" or "it's complicated" if a stranger asked why you don't wear your ring?
Bristolius Posted August 16, 2012 Posted August 16, 2012 Here's an idea. You and this woman's husband have the same taste in women. Why not track down the woman he cheated with? She's probably available if he's trying to fix the marriage.
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