Tired1981 Posted August 15, 2012 Posted August 15, 2012 My ex girlfriend and I split about 4 and a half months ago. She has never had a "steady" relationship. Has has two long-term relationship if you even want to call it that because both were on and off again with her dating guys in the "off" times. I was one of those guys. She has a child with one and two children with me. After we split, about a month later she started dating a guy she was "best friends" with. They last about 2 months and 4 days after they split, she started dating a new guy whom she has known for a while and he is actually a girl she had been really close with's ex boyfriend. They even went on vacation after only being "together" for a few days. I can make the excuse all day that it bothers me because there are kids in the home and they see guys coming and going, which it truly does bother me for that reason. On the other hand, it's really weird also that I don't want to be with her but I can't help wanting to know why the hell she is the way she is. I admit I care about her and I think this type of behavior is terrible for her life. And then there's the thing of I know this new guy. Not really well, but enough to know that he seems like a decent dude. Therefore I guess part of me feels bad because he may be getting himself into a ****ty situation. And then I can't help but wonder why he wants to be with her. He about 2 months ago or even a shorter amount of time, got out of a relationship of 6 years whom this woman has 3 kids. It just seems absurd that he would go from that situation into a similar situation. It really bugs me that people that screw others over, never get "theirs" but if you try to be a decent person, you always get screwed.
venusianx13 Posted August 15, 2012 Posted August 15, 2012 My son's father was the same way. We split when my son was 6 months old. Among other things, he became a serial co-habitator. He moved a new woman in two weeks after I left him, which drove me crazy. After her, he moved a short-lived gf/fling in with him for less than a month. He then went back with his ex and when they finally broke up for good, lived with two other women, back to back to follow. I was absolutely furious at his behavior, but ONLY because my son had so many women coming and going in his life (we had shared custody) Unfortunately, there is no law against this even when there are children involved (believe me, I tried that route). There should be, as you're right, it's not right for children to be exposed to that. Luckily, my son's dad has gotten better about things and seems to have gotten his life in order and priorities straight. You can hope and pray for the same for your ex, but it's unfortunately something you have no control over.
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