AnchordHeart Posted August 15, 2012 Posted August 15, 2012 So, its 1.5 months post BU for me, and tomorrow is my 18th birthday. The reason I feel pathetic is that I really can't find myself wanting to celebrate and enjoy my birthday... without him. He is already in a relationship with someone that was once his ex girlfriend. I have not gotten any breadcrumbs, which is probably good, because I would obsess over them if i did get them... I just miss him so badly everyday, and I have to accept that right now, he feels nothing for me. Not love, or hate. Just nothing... I cant help but hope that that will change once he breaks up with his current girlfriend. (It's inevitable, trust me.) Thoughts? I'm very sad today.. All I want for my birthday is him.
Author AnchordHeart Posted August 15, 2012 Author Posted August 15, 2012 Nobody ever seems to reply when i'm down.
youngnlove89 Posted August 15, 2012 Posted August 15, 2012 Nobody ever seems to reply when i'm down. It does seem that way huh? I posted something like this last night, and nobody replied. It sucked. I'm here for you! I know it's hard. It's freakin hard! But you have to get through this moment. Compose a list of reasons why it didn't work out and everytime you feel down, re-read them. It helps me.
stemac Posted August 15, 2012 Posted August 15, 2012 hello AnchordHeart I know its soo hard to stop missing the person you want to be with, you are still young 18 is a Great age you can be whatever you want you must Think is he sad today i very much doubt it don't let him keep that hold on you. I can guarantee 1000% in a few months you will be happy as Larry am 42 and been heart Broken 3 times in my life with partners, most recent one left me 4 days ago and its killing me inside as i love her very much but don't think she sees it, but i know without a doubt i WILL get over it and meet someone new and smile and laugh again just like you will that's a promise :-)
Tree_Salmon Posted August 15, 2012 Posted August 15, 2012 Nobody ever seems to reply when i'm down. You are waaaay too young to let this get you down. I wish i was 18 right now. Pick up and move on. You are going to fall in real love in the future. get ready for that s**t. 1
Car10e Posted August 15, 2012 Posted August 15, 2012 I'm going on a month now, and I feel so down today. Nothing really happened, but today I seem to miss him so much. I know people post break up with have their ups and downs. Somedays are better than others. I would probably feel the same way if my birthday was coming up.
cheekysmiles Posted August 16, 2012 Posted August 16, 2012 You are waaaay too young to let this get you down. I wish i was 18 right now. Pick up and move on. You are going to fall in real love in the future. get ready for that s**t. i wish i was here reading these forums when i was 18 there's a lot of good stuff said over the years, the best posts i find are very old. here are two that really helped accelerate the healing process for me. without these and some notable threads on this forum, i would still be a wreck (1.5 months BU, 2yr relationship) http://www.loveshack.org/forums/breaking-up-reconciliation-coping/coping/56954-do-you-really-think-contacting-your-ex-going-help-you-guide-long-walk http://www.loveshack.org/forums/breaking-up-reconciliation-coping/second-chances/211578-post-breakup-stages keep hope alive within yourself and your ability to grow beyond this situation. you will definitely find yourself a much stronger individual in time in many aspects if you take the advice well and keep positive. don't hold onto the thought of reconciliation or you won't be able to heal. to heal, you must first let go he is already in another relationship so it'd be best to go NC asap, delete his facebook, block it all, block him from your mind. if thoughts of him continue to linger, you'll find yourself trapped in a loop of suffering best of luck
Author AnchordHeart Posted August 16, 2012 Author Posted August 16, 2012 he is already in another relationship so it'd be best to go NC asap, delete his facebook, block it all, block him from your mind. if thoughts of him continue to linger, you'll find yourself trapped in a loop of suffering best of luck Yup. He's removed from facebook, and we've cut all ties with eachother. Now if he wants to contact me he has to get my number from a friend, or FB messgae me. I can't help but feel dissapointed he didnt wish me a happy birthday, but that's okay. I'm spending today with friends. Thanks for the links.
SoConfusedAndInShock Posted August 16, 2012 Posted August 16, 2012 Yup. He's removed from facebook, and we've cut all ties with eachother. Now if he wants to contact me he has to get my number from a friend, or FB messgae me. I can't help but feel dissapointed he didnt wish me a happy birthday, but that's okay. I'm spending today with friends. Thanks for the links. OK so im 19 and going through the same thing you are (well except the bday thing) but i know how hard this must be. but do you think he will cry over you on HIS bday it it was to be tomorrow? NOPE! dont think so! idc if u cry any other day but ur bday is the one day i want you to have fun and try to think of all the bdays before he came into the picture. yes i know its hard but even if u guys were to get back together later on, hes not gonna ask you if you cried/thought about him on YOUR bday hes prob just gonna go with the flow and is living his life. they always do with/out us (even knowing how desperate we are to get back with them) take a good care of yourself on this special day. you can never get back the memories of a bday but you can make new memories with him later if yall were to get back together. HAPPY BIRTHDAY!!
stemac Posted August 16, 2012 Posted August 16, 2012 i wish i was here reading these forums when i was 18 there's a lot of good stuff said over the years, the best posts i find are very old. here are two that really helped accelerate the healing process for me. without these and some notable threads on this forum, i would still be a wreck (1.5 months BU, 2yr relationship) http://www.loveshack.org/forums/breaking-up-reconciliation-coping/coping/56954-do-you-really-think-contacting-your-ex-going-help-you-guide-long-walk http://www.loveshack.org/forums/breaking-up-reconciliation-coping/second-chances/211578-post-breakup-stages keep hope alive within yourself and your ability to grow beyond this situation. you will definitely find yourself a much stronger individual in time in many aspects if you take the advice well and keep positive. don't hold onto the thought of reconciliation or you won't be able to heal. to heal, you must first let go he is already in another relationship so it'd be best to go NC asap, delete his facebook, block it all, block him from your mind. if thoughts of him continue to linger, you'll find yourself trapped in a loop of suffering best of luck thank you for them links ... the best thing ive read in a very long time everyone should read it :-)
ellllllarose Posted August 16, 2012 Posted August 16, 2012 Same boat. My birthday is in one week and he was going to get me a promise ring for it. He was so excited about giving it to me and I was so excited about getting it. But then I found out he cheated and I just don't know what to do. Will he still wish me a happy birthday? This is your post and I'm glad you're with your friends. But I haven't got any friends to spend my day with. I'll probably sit at home and cry.
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