hopeless lover Posted July 15, 2004 Posted July 15, 2004 hello, i have a really big problem on my hands and i was wondering if anyone out there could give me some advice. Heres the deal, i had started a friends with benefits relationship with a girl that i have really liked for nearly a year. in starting this, i was hoping that she would begin to like me as more than just a friend. after a week we stopped but had started it back up the 3rd week of june, this time we brought it further and were nearly having sex. i really love her a lot and she doesn't really feel the same way, when i asked her if she would like a relationship, she really though it through but later found that she wasn't really sure if she wanted a relationship. she still continues to do things with me and i have heard from her friend that she has liked me in the past and that she had feelings that were on and off towards me. i have gone to great lengths to swoon her such as flower pedals, candles and dancing but she still isn't sure about a relationship. I was wondering if anyone had any solutions or anything that may help me. thanks, hopeless lover
uriel Posted July 15, 2004 Posted July 15, 2004 Stop trying so hard. It might make you seem desperate. Women and men both tend to desire what they have to work for. You've let her know how you feel. Now back off some and get other interests. Don't be cold or rude, but don't be a doormat either. You're so willing to take anything she gives, even crumbs, that she doesn't feel the need to give anything more. -- uriel
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