Hobbit Posted August 15, 2012 Posted August 15, 2012 4 weeks now and although Im strong / working on myself (getting a new job, learning to drive, hitting the gym etc) I still really want her back. No contact (other than with the children) is sort of working but I have so many things I want to say but cant to her face (because any relationship talk is a no no at this point). I want to give her space / freedom because I know for a fact that she's struggling to find her own identity beyond being mum, but I want to show her that I'll never neglect her emotionally ever again. I want to initiate a regular date nights (and no sex, just getting to know each other again) but now isnt the right time Arrrrgh, this is f***ing tough. I know there is no real answer about how long I should leave it? I worry that if I leave it too long she'll move on, which Ive accepted in my mind (afterall, I still want her to be happy) but ultimaltey I dont want to happen I know she loves me still but more as a friend, surely thats a start? Im not putting my eggs in one basket but it must be something I can work with Thoughts?
Million.to.1 Posted August 15, 2012 Posted August 15, 2012 Learn from this mistake and move on. Don't get complacent in relationships. Don't wait for her... it's broken. Complacency is relationship kryptonite.
ThatDudeXO Posted August 22, 2012 Posted August 22, 2012 You sound exactly like me. 8/9 months ago. Just keep doing what you're doing and you'll feel better in time. It's over. You need to accept that first.
Mint Sauce Posted August 22, 2012 Posted August 22, 2012 It seems to be really trendy here to shout "it's over", "move on". When there are kids involved, I'm convinced "moving on" should really be the last resort. Relationship crises happen, and their exact shape depends from case to case. I'd say: don't give up before you can judge whether yours is really terminal or not.
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