IHeartU Posted August 15, 2012 Posted August 15, 2012 So, i'm 34. I've never been in a relationship, however i had flings with quite a few women. Explanation ? A combination of mostly being a loner, and also trying to sort out my life due to various things happening preventing me from progressing in life. What are some "beginners tips" for being in a relationship ? Also, how do i deal with women who are wary of me not having been in a relationship ? I will say i am a people person. I love people, and get along with most people.
Million.to.1 Posted August 15, 2012 Posted August 15, 2012 I've had relationships, but they are always short lived. Well that's the way it's been for me for the last 8 years. I'm 33. I know how you feel. I don't know what to do either. 1
rocketman122 Posted August 15, 2012 Posted August 15, 2012 What are some "beginners tips" for being in a relationship ? beginner tips..there's no beginner tips. just do the opposite of what youve been doing till now.are you short/fat/ugly/bad personality that you cant find someone to be with? you dont have to but should want to. Also, how do i deal with women who are wary of me not having been in a relationship ? Nothing you can do but try to find someone understanding and willing to give you a chance. but you need to be fair and be open and tell the truth from the beginning. I personally would walk away. I myself date older woman(45+ im 40) and have seen mature woman who are still single and no children. thats a huge red flag and I stay far away. some of them are really gorgeous and can get dates like nothing so its very suspicious. 34 and never had a relationship.. something very fishy and creepy. it can happen but I dont want any part of that. I can understand it happening. maybe money problems. family issues..whatever. but I'll pass. I will say i am a people person. I love people, and get along with most people. This is something you leave to your resume or job interview. no one says these things out of the blue. which leads me to believe you arent exactly like you say.
Forever Learning Posted August 15, 2012 Posted August 15, 2012 Keep putting yourself in social situations to develop yourself socially. Watch how others conduct themselves, and see if you are conducting yourself in a similar fashion, or in a much different manner. Ask friends and family if there might be something you are doing to hinder yourself from forming relationships with others. Seek therapy if you think you have shyness or relationship issues you might benefit from working on.
Author IHeartU Posted August 15, 2012 Author Posted August 15, 2012 What are some "beginners tips" for being in a relationship ? beginner tips..there's no beginner tips. just do the opposite of what youve been doing till now.are you short/fat/ugly/bad personality that you cant find someone to be with? you dont have to but should want to. Also, how do i deal with women who are wary of me not having been in a relationship ? Nothing you can do but try to find someone understanding and willing to give you a chance. but you need to be fair and be open and tell the truth from the beginning. I personally would walk away. I myself date older woman(45+ im 40) and have seen mature woman who are still single and no children. thats a huge red flag and I stay far away. some of them are really gorgeous and can get dates like nothing so its very suspicious. 34 and never had a relationship.. something very fishy and creepy. it can happen but I dont want any part of that. I can understand it happening. maybe money problems. family issues..whatever. but I'll pass. I will say i am a people person. I love people, and get along with most people. This is something you leave to your resume or job interview. no one says these things out of the blue. which leads me to believe you arent exactly like you say. you are being unfairly judgemental. i try to give a perspective, that although i have not been in a relationship, i do get along will people in general, so that's not a problem.
8mia8 Posted August 15, 2012 Posted August 15, 2012 Just relax and let it happen; everyone has a different path in life. If someone is wary of that fact, well, they aren't accepting of who you are so move on.
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