IHeartU Posted August 15, 2012 Posted August 15, 2012 I met this woman in 2007 who is about 3 or 4 years older than me. Ever since the day we met, we had this incredible liking in each other, and a bond that was hard to fathom. Almost instantly, we were infatuated with each other. I wish i could explain our connection. It's something that goes extremely deep. She came out of a very abusive marriage, and was obviously afraid to love again. However, she has stated that she had developed feelings for me. But then she got scared. We then parted ways of sorts, we lost contact, and then a few years later, we made contact again. She is not shy to show how she feels. For instance, while i watch tv and she is going to the kitchen, she touches my hand, and i in turn do the same. Also, when we kiss goodbye, we give a small kiss, and then instinctively we give each other a second good bye kiss. Without even thinking it. Here's the problem. I always need to initiate the communications. Nothing comes from her side. Sometimes i get an email, but rarely. We have a blast all day, and then it takes a while before we get to see each other. I still have no much to learn about her, but we have this incredible bond, and we thoroughly enjoy each other when we see each other. We are almost like a married couple in each others presence. We go out to places. She even offered to come to my place. I sent her an sms confronting her about me always initiating the communications, and getting tired of it. Then she said it's best we don't see each other anymore. I said something along the lines of ok. A few days later, i saw her on a dating site, and i was livid. We hardly had a chance to see if it will work, and already she was available to anybody else. I sent her a message saying "I was ready to forget about you, and then i see this ****. I guess i shouldn't have done that. But with a lack of communication, and then this, i was upset. I've tried to make excuses for her, like she is still recovering from her broken marriage, etc. I sent mails in which i apologized, but had no response. I tried various means to contact her, except the most obvious one, the phone. I know where she works, however, work is not the place to talk about this. Thought mail might be a bit more subtle. However, i am at a point where i don't know what to do. On the one hand, i really want to get back to see her again, on the other hand i just want closure. Most people would say, forget about her, and move on. Yet, i hope some of you, can be more sympathetic to my situation. Ugh. So confused..... Please help!!
Million.to.1 Posted August 15, 2012 Posted August 15, 2012 She doesn't want a relationship with you. If she did, you'd be in it. harsh, but true. Stop chasing and find someone who wants you too.
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