marilla Posted August 15, 2012 Posted August 15, 2012 Thank you for reading this! I am in pain every day for 2 months! I hope you will be able to help! I was hanging out with a man for 10 months. I fell for this guy and i think he did too. However during that time he did some things that hurt me. Sometimes it was my fault too, but his reaction was cruel and went overboard and scared me. No there was no physical abuse but i felt hurt beyond measure. It is not necessary to go into details. I am just a woman facing two extremes-feelings and inability to get him out of my mind and extreme fear on the other side! During the 10 months i had to take sleeping meds and ask the support of family and friends because there were times i could not handle and i am afraid to go there again. We haven't seen each other for the last 2 months-we gave each other space. No-one has made an effort to contact the other one so far. I am still hurting and thinking to give him a call. Wondering-does a man that hurt me so deserve another chance ? He seemed to really want it the last time i saw him. However what if i have already seen his ugly side? He left a good chance to be with someone that wanted him and she was nice, so we could try again. Does that mean he deserves this chance or should we forget about it ?please help!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Author marilla Posted August 15, 2012 Author Posted August 15, 2012 please someone ? i can't think anymore.
IHeartU Posted August 15, 2012 Posted August 15, 2012 kinda weird that i am giving advice on something similiar that i need advice for. i believe in second chances. however, maybe if you talk to him and get some sort of guarantee that he would not be abusive again, or needs help. Then it might work out.
Author marilla Posted August 15, 2012 Author Posted August 15, 2012 thank you and i wish that things will work out in your life as well!!! I am just afraid that since i saw that cruel side a few times that i will see it again. Even if he tries maybe it is bound to come out again or maybe not. That is what i meant by his cruel side, that made me cry and not sleep and not function. I am so afraid of a guy i have feelings for!!! Strange isn't it?
IHeartU Posted August 15, 2012 Posted August 15, 2012 thank you and i wish that things will work out in your life as well!!! I am just afraid that since i saw that cruel side a few times that i will see it again. Even if he tries maybe it is bound to come out again or maybe not. That is what i meant by his cruel side, that made me cry and not sleep and not function. I am so afraid of a guy i have feelings for!!! Strange isn't it? I've learnt that all it takes is a choice. You either go for it, or get out. You can always ask him about that ugly side, and wether it's really him, or completely out of character ? Talking to him and getting the answers really brings a lot of clarity. His answers will really solve a lot of your problems, and you will be able to make a better decision based on that. All the best
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