c0nfused88 Posted August 15, 2012 Posted August 15, 2012 I am curious for those of you who have had a wedding how you decided on the size? What happened if you or your fiance' really had no-one to invite? How did you handle that? I really have no family-- I may have 5 people related to me tops that I could get to come. I have some friends but not enough to want to drag them from all across the country or the various locales to have a shindig. I have never had dreams of some magical wedding but I do think it'd be nice.. it just doesn't seem feasible. The last thing I want is some pathetic wedding where nobody comes. Have any of you had a very small intimate wedding? Have any of you gotten hitched in Vegas? Was it worth it?
MuscleCarFan Posted August 15, 2012 Posted August 15, 2012 Pink_sugar and I got married in Tahoe and we had 55-60 people where the majority of the people were my mom's side, step-dad's side, and dad's side. (Pink_sugar has a small family). It was a bit festive... lol. *my father-in-law crashed the wedding upstairs and got free drinks. *F-I-L staring at who had the biggest chest (two of my step-cousins) *F-I-L and B-I-L left early. >_< *Pictures taken were not very good at all. Over all the wedding went fine with a few hick-ups and we are looking forward to our 5th anniversary next year.
pink_sugar Posted August 15, 2012 Posted August 15, 2012 also MIL controlled all the festivities...and is hardly in our lives. Yeah, my family and friends were maybe 1/4 of the guests (including bridesmaids). So if I met someone who has a family just as small, an intimate wedding would have been likely. We initially considered eloping and honestly if I could go back, I would have had an intimate wedding and spent more on the honeymoon. We never got a honeymoon. I think large lavish affairs can be a bit overrated. All that money and within a few hours, it's all over. At the end of the day, it's you and your new husband or wife that matters. My husband and I were so stressed, we couldn't enjoy the day. We're having an intimate vow renewal with no interruptions and chaos. I'd go for a smaller intimate wedding, doesn't gave to be you running off to Vegas to get hitched, but inviting those closest to you who live locally and creating an intimate, yet memorable occasion. 1
taiko Posted August 15, 2012 Posted August 15, 2012 Unless the problem is that your partner whats the large party then just get married. I don't know how many do it but in my county when you get the license they offer to marry you on the spot. There has developed the "tradition" of going to Las Vegas and not waiting should your state have a waiting period. In my case coming out of a LDR with very little few surviving family members of my own locally and practically none of hers we just went to my pastor and had a small ceremony on a Friday night followed by a dinner. My parents got married in the chaplains office my father's Army unit. No matter what church rules are said to be we were the first couple on either side of the family actually to have a church wedding that I have found
pteromom Posted August 15, 2012 Posted August 15, 2012 I really have no family-- I may have 5 people related to me tops that I could get to come. I have some friends but not enough to want to drag them from all across the country or the various locales to have a shindig. This situation calls for... DESTINATION WEDDING! Get married on a beach on an island somewhere. All the fantasy and romance with none of the guest list drama. 1
pteromom Posted August 15, 2012 Posted August 15, 2012 I think the bride should definitely maintain her wedding size for as long as possible. Too often, they let themselves go, sadly. Ha ha! That's actually a good one, abelincoln. :high-five:
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RickyLovesLucy Posted August 25, 2012 Posted August 25, 2012 I am curious for those of you who have had a wedding how you decided on the size? What happened if you or your fiance' really had no-one to invite? How did you handle that? I really have no family-- I may have 5 people related to me tops that I could get to come. I have some friends but not enough to want to drag them from all across the country or the various locales to have a shindig. I have never had dreams of some magical wedding but I do think it'd be nice.. it just doesn't seem feasible. The last thing I want is some pathetic wedding where nobody comes. Have any of you had a very small intimate wedding? Have any of you gotten hitched in Vegas? Was it worth it? We had a few friends and our close family members. It was totally worth it. The number of people watching is irrelevant; what matters is that you two are beginning your new life together.
Lauriebell82 Posted August 25, 2012 Posted August 25, 2012 We had a fairly big wedding (130 people) but barely any of my husband's family came because it was out of town. He did have a lot of friends to invite, but I barely had any. So the wedding was comprised of mainly my family and mainly his friends. It was a really wonderful wedding and I wouldn't have changed a thing. Does your fiance want a big wedding?
RiverRunning Posted August 27, 2012 Posted August 27, 2012 Well, ours is going to be small - small according to most halls, where we barely meet the minimum. We're having 70 - 80 people. That includes my uncle's band and some mutual friends of ours. TEN of FMIL's friends (-_-' And my mom didn't invite any of hers), which I'm not happy about. I'm letting it slide only because she's forcing money on us that I've insisted that I don't want, but my fiancee refuses to speak up to her. Therefore, it looks like we have to tolerate her adding 10 people we don't even know. I wanted to elope. I still want to elope. I'm not happy that we're having a wedding. Our wedding is basically close mutual friends and close family (the cut-off was first cousins. The only exception is my cousin's son, to whom I am very close). If it's going to be less than the minimum for most places around...seriously, just elope. Or have a small, intimate dinner for the reception instead. Save your money. 1
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