BwwAF Posted August 15, 2012 Posted August 15, 2012 Well after one year of hanging out with him, I expressed that I didn't want to be a "booty-call/fwb/F-buddy", that after all this time my emotions were involved. Here is the exact text I sent him ... "After 1year of this with you my emotions are involved & I want & deserve more! We have amazing chemistry & I enjoy our time together, but it sucks when I only hear from you every couple of weeks ya know? I do care for you & that's why I need to tell you this cause it's not cool ... It hurts my feelings. We used to send texts & have conversations, but now its just to get together & I don't like it ... When you leave I feel cheap & I blame myself cause I allowed it. When we first met, I told my sis I have a good feeling ... We met for good reason & I immediately felt comfortable with you. I'm not gonna lie ... This hurts a lot cause if this isn't going somewhere then I have to do what's best for me." He replied ... "I'm so sorry I put you in this situation. I'm so sorry you feel this way ... I just came out of a relationship and I'm not ready for a new one. Maybe it's better if we went our separate way. Sorry" I replied with "Is that what you want? I guess you do ... Good bye" After a couple days I realized I was pretty harsh, so I sent this ... " Hi ... First off I want you to know I dont blame you for what I feel, I take responsibility for my choices in this. My intention w/ you was to open communication to see where we were after a year. I wasnt implying marriage but at least treated like a woman & went out once in a while. To me it wasnt "F-buddy" status at all! I was just shocked w/ your "separate ways" reply cause it showed me that you saw me as disposable, that after 1yr I didnt matter other than sex. Is that how you saw me?" He called & we talked! He said he doesnt know why he said that we should "sepearate", he apologized. I asked where do we go from here & he said we stop doing what we've been doing, we start all over. I asked how we do that & he said we talk. So, what do you Y'all think ... Done or maybe not???
Garfish Posted August 15, 2012 Posted August 15, 2012 (edited) Hey if you're satisfied being a perpetual backup plan/booty call, then go for it. When guys get really hurt after a relationship they do one of three things- shut down completely with women (they just don't date), go out and get as much as they can while they can, or enter into a rebound which will probably end badly. Sounds to me like you're the middle one. So if I were you, I'd quit if that's not what you really want. If I were him, looking back from where I am right now, I'd get as much as I can while it's still available. Sorry to be so honest. Edited August 15, 2012 by Garfish wording
Author BwwAF Posted August 15, 2012 Author Posted August 15, 2012 So you think no authenticity in anything he had to say & that what I expressed to him was not even taken to heart? He'll just try to keep geeting w/ me even though I told him thats not what I want after a year?
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