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2muchlove Established Member

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Not sure if anybody saw my previous post yesterday but it stated how I'm finally starting to see the light with this whole situation and getting over it accordingly.

 

Then of course today I get a text from her.

 

It stated how she hopes I'm "doing well" and was "wondering when she could come pick up some of the mutual things we purchased together." since I may be moving out of state.

 

Didn't respond because I'm actually going to sell the things she thinks shes receiving.

 

A few hours later as I was having dinner and drinks with one of our mutual friends. She calls and leaves a voice mail.

 

In the voice mail she says how she would appreciate it if I would respond instead of leaving her hanging.

 

I may respond telling her how it's going to be. Or I may just leave her hanging.

 

Give me the pros and cons folks.

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I think you should tell her what you're going to actually do with these items.

 

It will probably be more fair to her in the end that she acutally knows what happened to them.

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For all she knows you blocked her. Which you should do.

 

If you blocked her you would have never seen this s**t.

 

She wants to see how much you'll dance for her. If she wants her crap she needs to come over.

Hindsight_is_20_20 Established Member

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For all she knows you blocked her. Which you should do.

 

If you blocked her you would have never seen this s**t.

 

She wants to see how much you'll dance for her. If she wants her crap she needs to come over.

 

Agreed. NC, NC, NC!!!!!

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I agree with Shotputter...

 

You may want to just let her know what your going to do with the items. Though you guys broke up doesn't mean you cannot be nice to her still.

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2muchlove Established Member

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I think you should tell her what you're going to actually do with these items.

 

It will probably be more fair to her in the end that she acutally knows what happened to them.

 

She doesn't really deserve fair after the crap she pulled. So I'm not really concerned with that.

 

But I do appreciate the input.

 

For all she knows you blocked her. Which you should do.

 

If you blocked her you would have never seen this s**t.

 

She wants to see how much you'll dance for her. If she wants her crap she needs to come over.

 

 

Funny you say that because the moment I saw I got a text from her I thought to myself: "Sh*t. I should have blocked her."

 

She will come over and get it, she just "needs to know when."

 

Either way I'm most likely going to tell her straight up whats going to happen. But it wouldn't be until tomorrow.

 

I just wanted to hear everyone's input to see if I could approach it differently.

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Also.

 

Ill add on to the story...

 

I just paid 4 grand on rent. about 1500 of it was hers. Not to mention the 700 dollars in phone bills I paid just to get our phones split. Half of which was hers.

 

So she wants me to give up the last few things I could make some spare change on?

 

I try to be a gentleman as much as possible. But this broad can suck it.

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Hindsight_is_20_20 Established Member

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She doesn't really deserve fair after the crap she pulled. So I'm not really concerned with that.

 

But I do appreciate the input.

 

 

 

 

Funny you say that because the moment I saw I got a text from her I thought to myself: "Sh*t. I should have blocked her."

 

She will come over and get it, she just "needs to know when."

 

Either way I'm most likely going to tell her straight up whats going to happen. But it wouldn't be until tomorrow.

 

I just wanted to hear everyone's input to see if I could approach it differently.

 

Why even tell her what's going to happen? If you're going to sell it/give it away then why tell her anything. I feel like it'll set you back.

 

I can't tell you what I would do in your situation. But what do you owe her?? I would act like you never saw the text. I'm glad you're waiting. Really try to think objectively about it. I know we all have different situations but if you took YOU out of the equation would you advise someone else in your situation to text her? If so then, I guess you have your answer but from just seeing you post on here and what a hard time you have been having. Screw her. It's not being mean in my opinion. She just expects after all of this time that you kept her stuff and are going to drop everything to respond to her beck and call? I think not. Anyways, just my two cents.

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What ever you do it doesn't really matter. She was a bad person, period, you stooping to her level is just that.

 

Find acceptance within yourself, that will make you 100% more happy than anything out of anger and resentment.

 

I would just stay NC and not respond and put her **** in a trash bag and leave it on her porch.

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I wasn't clear enough in the beginning I apologize.

 

It's all ours we purchased together. (Furniture from Ikea.) But it wasn't cheap.

 

If I end up staying in town I'm keeping it, and she already knows that. But she's under the impression that I'm moving so she gets it. And I told her she could have it. But that was until I found out about everything she did behind my back.

 

And I still haven't told her.

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What ever you do it doesn't really matter. She was a bad person, period, you stooping to her level is just that.

 

Find acceptance within yourself, that will make you 100% more happy than anything out of anger and resentment.

 

I would just stay NC and not respond and put her **** in a trash bag and leave it on her porch.

 

I'm starting to accept thankfully.

 

I'm far from perfect but I could never stoop to her level because I feel like I'm a real human being.

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Chant: 2 much love! 2 muchlove. Way to be strong And hold ur ground, do what u feel like doing man, u dont owe her anything

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Balzac Established Member

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Sell it, then inform her. Why invite drama prior to riddIng yourself of the "stuff"? She's deep into your pocket and you've reached your limit. Do what you must to move on.

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Sell it, then inform her. Why invite drama prior to riddIng yourself of the "stuff"? She's deep into your pocket and you've reached your limit. Do what you must to move on.

 

True that. I like that idea.

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Also.

 

Ill add on to the story...

 

I just paid 4 grand on rent. about 1500 of it was hers. Not to mention the 700 dollars in phone bills I paid just to get our phones split. Half of which was hers.

 

So she wants me to give up the last few things I could make some spare change on?

 

I try to be a gentleman as much as possible. But this broad can suck it.

 

if she screwed you out of money then sell the stuff. My ex kicked me out of our home that we owned and I got the raw end of the deal. I didn't take a lot of things that I should have and now I am regretting it big time. I had to pay for movers, a security deposit, and a thousand other expenses because of a choice he made. I thought, oh, I will be fair with what I take and in reality its set me back big time financially. Just do what you think is right and take emotion out of it.

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if she screwed you out of money then sell the stuff. My ex kicked me out of our home that we owned and I got the raw end of the deal. I didn't take a lot of things that I should have and now I am regretting it big time. I had to pay for movers, a security deposit, and a thousand other expenses because of a choice he made. I thought, oh, I will be fair with what I take and in reality its set me back big time financially. Just do what you think is right and take emotion out of it.

 

Sorry to hear that happened to you.

 

I'm for sure selling the stuff if I move.

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Just heard from my roommate that he got a text from her asking if I still lived here. And mentioned the furniture again. I told him to ignore it.

 

Hah.

 

How can she be so desperate about furniture when she already has plenty of it where she is staying?

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Frank13 Established Member

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I may respond telling her how it's going to be. Or I may just leave her hanging.

 

Nothing says "screw you" like silence. Sell the stuff and stay NC. By responding, you are telling her that she still has her hooks in you and you are trying to get back at her by telling her "how it's going to be" (you sold the stuff).

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Nothing says "screw you" like silence. Sell the stuff and stay NC. By responding, you are telling her that she still has her hooks in you and you are trying to get back at her by telling her "how it's going to be" (you sold the stuff).

 

I actually just text her back giving her the quick lowdown on what I'm doing with the stuff.

 

After which I told her to stop texting/calling me.

 

And that was that.

 

Last time I ever have to hear from that bum.

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I actually just text her back giving her the quick lowdown on what I'm doing with the stuff.

 

After which I told her to stop texting/calling me.

 

And that was that.

 

Last time I ever have to hear from that bum.

 

It will be interesting to see if she gets angry and texts you back. Keep us updated.

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It will be interesting to see if she gets angry and texts you back. Keep us updated.

 

I'll keep you guys updated.

 

But the chances of her responding to something like that are next to nothing.

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Why even tell her what's going to happen? If you're going to sell it/give it away then why tell her anything. I feel like it'll set you back.

 

I can't tell you what I would do in your situation. But what do you owe her?? I would act like you never saw the text. I'm glad you're waiting. Really try to think objectively about it. I know we all have different situations but if you took YOU out of the equation would you advise someone else in your situation to text her? If so then, I guess you have your answer but from just seeing you post on here and what a hard time you have been having. Screw her. It's not being mean in my opinion. She just expects after all of this time that you kept her stuff and are going to drop everything to respond to her beck and call? I think not. Anyways, just my two cents.

 

Anything you tell her from here on in could be used as evidence. Don't talk to her anymore.

 

Block her so you get no more texts. If you never got one you would have done whatever you wanted to do anyway.

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Chi townD Established Member

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I'll keep you guys updated.

 

But the chances of her responding to something like that are next to nothing.

 

 

Just what exactly did you texted?

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Just what exactly did you texted?

 

"If I end up moving I'm selling all of it."

 

Followed by a

 

"And I'd appreciate it if you would stop texting/calling me."

 

"Take care."

 

That's it.

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OH! Okay...that's cool then. All business like and to the point. GOOD!!!

 

I was thinking that you texted her back something like this:

 

" Dear Bitch,

 

I understand that your looking to get some of the furniture out of my place before I depart. I was perplexed, because I was a under the understanding that you have more than enough furniture. Therefore, it only leads me to conclude that you want to sell it to offset the cost of your on-going STD treatments from your Ex. Unfortunately, since we are no longer together, that is no longer my concern or problem.

Considering that you are into me for X amount of dollars, I'm taking the liberty to sell those items to help finalize the funds I need to get as far away from you as possible. I am not looking for you compensate me for moneys owed. I do realize that the economy is in dire straits and your pimp will only allow you a certain percentage of the take. Therefore, I will fore go the cost and eat the loss.

Although I will be moving and closing this chapter of my life, I have learned a lot. And I also learned some important lessons from you! I already knew that women can fake orgasms but I never knew that they can also fake entire relationships too! Thank you for teaching that to me. That is a lesson that I will always keep close to my heart!

 

Yours Lovingly (LMAO!!!!! Just Kidding!)

 

2muchlove"

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