Chips24 Posted August 15, 2012 Posted August 15, 2012 Hi All, I really feel like i've taken a step back and I'm not sure why. http://www.loveshack.org/forums/breaking-up-reconciliation-coping/breaks-breaking-up/340551-what-does-usually-mean My brief story is: ex and I have been broken up for 3.5 months, he felt the grass was greener single however asked to go on a break instead of break up. I said no and went into NC straight away. He contacted me last week (after 3.5 months of NC) for coffee, I said yes, as I felt pretty over the entire thing. Coffee went really well, he was flirty, sweet and I could tell he was a tad nervous. He didn't however give me any indication why he asked to see me? He did all the classic- I've settled down a lot, not partying as much etc. Speaking with fellow LSer's and guy friends the consensus is : 1. It is his way of slowing getting back with me. 2. He felt guilty. 3. It was an ego boost. I haven't heard from him since (mind you it has only been 4 days) but I feel like I've let myself down. I'm proud of how I handled myself at coffee, I was confident, funny and casual. NO relationship talk. I feel like I've approved his behaviour, that what he did and how he treated me is/was OK. I thought I was being the bigger person... Should I have said no? What should I do now? Back to NC?
steveblack Posted August 15, 2012 Posted August 15, 2012 Think its 2 or 3. He might of been lonely, and noticed the grass was not greener, and wanted to chat you up. If it was 1, he will contact you again and chat. He would bring up old stuff and talk to you about it. I would say don't initiate any contact and see what he does.
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